S/O name for "family" member

MeghanC 1028

My mom gave up a baby girl for adoption when she was younger.  To make a looong story short, she is in our lives and our family now.  It is a wonderful thing and both my family and hers have melded into one.   They spend every couple Christmas with us, her immediate family and her dad, her mom has passed.  We call her aunt, her husband uncle, the kids are cousins.  We were trying to figure out a good name for her dad.  Both my kids gpas are papa, otherwise I would have choose that.  My kids took very well to him, but ot just doesn't fell right that they call him by his first name.  He means more than that to us.  Like the other post, it isn't a big deal, I am just thinking outloud.  WWYD in this situation? 

EastCoastBride

Have you asked him?  Do you want him to have a "grandfatherly" name?  Or what about Papa firstname.  Or Grandpa first name

Katherine

what an amazingly wonderful story.  I'd honestly ask him what he would like.  And ask the other family members involved.  Maybe something like Pop.

Printergirl

I think 'Papa 1stname' is appropriate if all are comfortable with it. Our neighbor is 'Grandma Sue' to my kids while my mom and MIL are Grandma (last name if they aren't there and we need to clarify).

Or maybe ask him what he called his grandfather as a child. My SILs mom's significant other asked to be called by the name he called his gpa rather than being called gpa as the biological gpas are called.

 

mulrooney

what do the cousins call him? I think that could be an option especially if he is around only when they are. This way it would be one less name for the kids to keep track of. I would ask him & your half sister what they think/would like. I think a grandfather-y name is a good idea given that you feel close to him.

jlw2505

Ask him if he has any ideas.  Both my step-dad and my FIL are grandpa and we just add their 1st name to it.  My step-dad has always been Grandpa Jack to my nieces and nephews since we have all called him Jack (he came into our lives when we were teens or older and never called him Dad even though my bio-dad is no where in the picture).  You could use Papa or some other form of grandpa.

Britnseth2006

DH and i dont talk to either of our fathers so my aunt and uncle who we are really close with so LO calls them Papa 1stname and nana 1stname. So i would just ask him.....

Ciarrai

Ask him and see what he wants.  When my grandfather and step-grandmother got married, there was still some bitterness to grandma and grandpa's divorce and whatnot so when the first grandkids were born, a few years later, we all called my step-grandmother by her first name.  Well, I moved to Texas and had a family of my own but it felt weird calling her Ms. FirstName like we do other adults and the girls were confused just using her first name so we asked she what she wanted to be called.  Apparently, she always wanted to be called Meme but just felt awkward changing it after we all grew up calling her by her name.  My kids call her Meme and she tears up every time.  Anyway, point is, ask him what he'd like to be called or call him what the other cousins call him. My kids call my dad Pop, my FIL PawPaw and my grandfather Grandpa.  It works for us.  I'm sure you'll find one that works for you guys.  

ETA - My dad has a son from a previous marraige (my half brother), we always called his grandparents on his mom's side "grandma and grandpa lastname". It's kinda the same relationship, right?