Sex...not in the mood...

lekitty

I'm 8 weeks pregnant and my husband and I have had sex 2 times, but recently I've not been in the mood. I can see it upsets my hubby and I apologize. He says its ok but i can tell that he's not. I think he might be in pain too. What do i do, because when i see him upset and sulking i feel like crying.

rin2809

I am in the same boat... DH has tried to initiate enough times that I finally just decided to try and fake it if necessary. Turns out I ended up getting into it... but if that is totally out for you, just remind DH that the second tri is supposed to be the complete opposite

marryingmetal12

I'm in the same boat. I'm just so tired and bloated that I can't even begin to get in the mood, I hope I start feeling better to give him some attention.

eebaehr

I feel your pain ever since our bfp i haven't felt up to it..kind of afraid i guess.  Last night I finally talked to DH about it, and he shocked me by saying he's afraid too!  We talked it out, and it feels much better to have discussed it

sparkplug06

I am the same way. I could go forever now with out sex it seems but that isn't fair to my dh. 

MrsCharlieRN

Oy, I'm so nauseated, tired and constipated the very idea of sex seems repulsive right now. I can tell that DH is feeling like I'm not paying attention to him so I did give it a go once... The motion made me shove him off and hug the toilet for about 25 minutes. Needless to say we haven't done it since. =/

beeb11285

I feel the same way! All the different things going on with my body is so... Distracting. I feel bad as well. I have to say though, I have hopped on board the times I felt somewhat normal... Things are more sensitive. It has made me want to try to be better during the harder days.

Kalye

Same boat. I just cant get "in the modd" in my head all I keep thinking is how huge and bloated I feel. I hate it because I know DH should be getting attention to but, its so hard when I have no energy at all. I hope it gets better!

clock84

What I did, which might not work for everyone. I waited until I was feeling my best and told DH it was now or not at all.  I have cramping here and there so when he was in the mood I wasn't.  I told him as soon as it passed and I felt rested we would.  Thats the best we can do right now is wait until we feel our best and if it's good enough try.  I hope it gets better for everyone.

sassenma

We haven't been doing it, but mostly because I've been cramping and have had light spotting 2-3 times.  I'm worried to do anything that's going to cause more of that.  But I agree with a PP who said that her husband was a little freaked out about it; I think mine is, too, because he hasn't really tried to initiate anything.  My OB says it's safe to have sex in first tri, but if you're not happy, it won't be much fun. 

MichelleL1118

With my first, we didn't have sex at all between the night DS was conceived and the end of 1st tri, and then it was sporadic.  I never had that 2nd tri sex drive everyone always talks about.  With this one, we've had sex twice since finding out, which is honestly more than we'd had sex in the past 3 months leading up to getting pg again. 

I promise, though, your hubby isn't in pain, and it isn't fair of him to try to manipulate you or guilt you into having sex if you don't feel up to it - pregnant or not.

090106

I'm am usually the 'bunny' in the relationship and my last pregnancy and this one, I just don't crave it like I normally do. As a compromise and to keep my hubby happy, I do 'other' things. Not sure if that's an option for you or not but we have been doing that consistently for each other and we've been pretty happy!

AbsolutelyAyrianna

MichelleL1118:

I promise, though, your hubby isn't in pain, and it isn't fair of him to try to manipulate you or guilt you into having sex if you don't feel up to it - pregnant or not.

 

 That right there! If he doesn't understand you feel like complete poop half the time then try to explain it to him. If he keeps on then he's just being plain rude and inconsiderate. My BF is the same way, I've told him nicely two times, then he keep on with it. I flipped out on him. It creates stress on you and the baby! In a relationship, you always have a choice and he should respect that choice.