What do you miss about "apartment days"

jillybean800

The post below about leap year 2008 got me thinking...what do you miss about the early days of your marriage? My husband and I call them our apartment days because we lived in an apartment, obviously, haha!

I miss that we used to just troll this highway near us and just go out to eat, walk around the bookstore or best buy, go to the movies (and we saw every movie!) etc.

We actually went there recently and it brought back so many memories!

lrn327

On nights we didn't have anything going on, we'd go get Starbucks and head into Barnes & Noble and read travel books.  We always couldn't wait to plan our next trip.  We always had date night every Friday too, I really miss that.

OhSewCrafty

Since we still live in a crappy little apartment, I'm gonna call those the pre kid days. Haha

We used to see a lot of movies, do jigsaw puzzles, play video games, and go for walks. Now we crash on the couch in a mush of exhaustion as soon as C goes to bed. Exciting.

LilyRose28

We also still live in an apartment, so I'll say I too miss going to movies and being able to do all our errands in one day as opposed to spreading them out over a week in order to limit the amount of time DS is out before meltdown, as well as the amount of time we have to get him in and out of the car seat.

I also really miss coming home from work at 2:30, eating a snack, then taking a nap on the couch for like 2 hours until dinner time. And sleeping in. And cooking a dinner that will be eaten, not thrown on the floor. 

Smores730

I miss the slowness of life; naps, sleeping in, doing NOTHING on the weekends. I miss not living on a budget and doing frivolous shopping. I miss straightening my house and it staying that way for longer than 2 seconds.

MamaPajama2010

Smores730:

I miss the slowness of life; naps, sleeping in, doing NOTHING on the weekends. I miss not living on a budget and doing frivolous shopping. I miss straightening my house and it staying that way for longer than 2 seconds.

Oh my gosh, it's like I've already forgotten that these things even ever exsisted! I miss all of these things!! MH and I would go buy drinks at the bookstore and sit there all afternoon reading books and magazines! I miss just being able to say-- Hey, I feel like doing X,Y, or Z right now-- let's go!

bosha711

Hmm, I can't decide b/w our noisy a-hole neighbors & having to drive around for 20 minutes for a lousy parallel parking spot & then finding your bumpers smacked up the next morning, so I'll just go with NOTADAMNTHING!

klinky

Having money to buy almost whatever we wanted, be able to take vacations all the time, and have a busy social life that included things like eating at fancy restaurants all the time and staying out late for drinks with friends on week nights.

Now it's make at home pizza on Friday nights before in bed at 10!

I have to add - I was just thinking today, remember if you wanted to do something like get a manicure - you would just book an appointment?  Now I have to beg/borrow/steal for someone to babysit while I go do those things.  I have to choose what I really want to do with my short amount of time alone.

KJKNAJ

Stopping at Nordstrom Rack on the way home from work if I felt like it. And staying there to shop for 2hrs if I felt like it.

chickaboo1974

We never lived in an apartment together- so I will call it pre-kids days.

I miss working- yes I miss a job with my own "mad" money.  I have "mad money" now- but at a significant decrease since I got to keep all my salary for myself.  I miss manicures- I use to go weekly- I have not had one in over a year.  I miss vacations - the last one was in 2009 to Alaska.  I miss sleeping in, being able to have sex whenever- not just when the boys are napping or in bed for the night.  We use to take our dogs everywhere- now the poor things go to their dog park a lot less than they use to since I can't take them by myself anymore.

However, after all that I am so happy to have my boys and look forward to all those "misses" later when they are a little older.

Penguin81

I'm still in an apartment so I guess I'm in the pre-kids camp. I don't miss my pre-kid days like I thought I would. Sure sleeping sounds like a marvelous idea, but when I get the chance I can't do it. I've always had to live on a budget, never got my nails done and worked so many years in retail, I'd rather on-line shop and I can do that when Em goes to bed.

I thought I'd miss not being able to do "whatever, whenever." Now I find myself always saying "gotta go...get...see...play with my daughter" even when I know she's with her dad and I don't "have to" go home.

I'm obviously alien...  

Cheekers2010

MamaPajama2010:

Smores730:

I miss the slowness of life; naps, sleeping in, doing NOTHING on the weekends. I miss not living on a budget and doing frivolous shopping. I miss straightening my house and it staying that way for longer than 2 seconds.

Oh my gosh, it's like I've already forgotten that these things even ever exsisted! I miss all of these things!! MH and I would go buy drinks at the bookstore and sit there all afternoon reading books and magazines! I miss just being able to say-- Hey, I feel like doing X,Y, or Z right now-- let's go!

Oh, we used to do that at least once a week.  I miss it, too! 

bumpuser260585

My apartment days were before dh & I got married. I lived alone & I miss always having a clean house & not having to pick up after other people. Pre-baby days after we were married, I miss thirsty Thursdays at the baseball games. We wouldn't even come home from work, just go straight to the ballpark for drinks & hotdogs. I miss going to the lake on a weekend without having to plan in advance & find a babysitter. I miss doing what I wanted without the guilt. Now, if I go to Target for diapers while J is still awake I feel like I have to rush home so dh isn't stuck putting him to bed alone.

Five Months to Plan

I miss being able to sit and read for hours on end. DH and I used to go out to dinner and just talk.I miss being able to relax and cook dinner with DH. I miss being caught up on TV shows. I am like a week behind on DVR becuase we try to keep the TV off in the evenings when making dinner and stuff now. 

JLSmith124

I miss a clean living environment lol

I love the craziness of having two toddlers running around, however every once in a while, my OCD comes out of hiding and I have a mini panic attack about the state of my messy house.

I miss being able to get up and go anywhere (dinner, movies, shopping, etc.) without having to pack anything. I miss being able to cook a nice dinner without interruption. Lately I have had many 'oops I forgot about that in the oven' moments lol 

EVM1216

I think I miss getting to have sex regularly the most.  Also, at our 1st place we lived so close to Taco Bell we could go get dinner during a commercial break (pre-DVR days), I miss that a little- but my thighs don't.  I also miss speculating on our nearer neighbors- we're pretty sure the dude's next to us were dealing pot of not other things due to the weird traffic flow around thier place.

SmilingMrsF

I miss wanting to stay up late to hang out with DH and go out with friends (nothing wild and crazy, just hanging out with out couples for game nights and things).  I miss sleeping in late and going out to lunch or dinner at the spur of the moment.  I think I really just miss how spur of the moment we could do anything.  Now everything is planned around nap times, meal times and bed time.  We're about to close on our new house at the end of this month and I'm trying to plan out sitters almost a month in advance for closing dates, walk throughs, etc.  Amazing how easy it is to plan (or really not needing to plan) when you don't have kids. 

I think I also really miss the newness of married life.  DH and I didn't move in together until we got married, so getting married was such a huge change for us.  I absolutely love the family life we have now, but I do wish we could go back and live our old life every once in awhile.

tiffanyp

I miss sleeping in on Sunday, having sex when I finally woke up, and then walking over to the local diner for breakfast when we finally mustered the energy to get moving for the day. I miss calling my friends on Saturday afternoon to make plans for that night. I miss 8 p.m. dinners and staying out as late as I wanted. 

missmuffin87

we currently live on the 3rd floor of a house where my grandfather lives on the 1st and my parents live on the 2nd. needless to say we miss our old apartment so much. i miss having my own kitchen and bathroom and not having to deal with guests when i didn't want to (my mom always has friends over). those were the good old days

[Deleted User]

Less cleaning, hockey & beer on a tuesday, sleeping in until ??, sports - playing hockey whenever, and playing soccer 5 days a week.  All gone. 

xxbabycakesxx

Well, DH and I were only married for a few months before I got pregnant but we've been together since we were 17.  I just miss being young and stupid and not having any responsibilities.

shaw

Our apartments was in the "city".  I miss having the extra money, going to happy hours, going to fancier dinners, going out late and sleeping late, taking my dogs to dog parks. 

--halo--

We rented a duplex, so we had 'duplex days'.  

I miss sleeping in the most, but I feel less lazy now.  I realllly miss just being able to jump in the car and go.  Now there's so much prep and even getting in the car takes forever. I miss game nights with all our friends, drinking strange concoctions and laughing all night.  

We also used to go for drives a lot just for the fun of it and to explore.  I can't even remember the last time we did that.   

jarebearsmom

I miss DH waking me up for sex in the mornings. And having sex whenever and wherever, not just when J is sleeping or with a sitter. I miss going and doing whatever whenever. And I miss not having to have everything planned out so much.

But, I wouldn't trade my lovebug for the world