When we told our 13yr old son that we were having a baby he was NOT happy about it at all. But we thought further down the road he would accept it better. Well I'm being induced tomorrow and he would rather go to school then come to the hospital. We've talked to him to tell him nothing will change and he would still have our love and attention but he just seems SO depressed about it. Has anyone experienced this and if so did the oldest ever change their feelings. I don't know what else to do ((((
Re: Older son still NOT happy about new baby
I am sorry he is feeling this way. But from experience I can tell you it will take time. My parents adopted two children when I was 25. After 25 years of being an only child it was very hard to adjust to it. It is fantastic that they adopted, don't get me wrong but it was still hard for the entire family. Now that I am about to have a baby of my own they are about to get another baby.
The main reason for me feeling the way I did was because I kept telling myself that I was not enough. I did not complete there life. Now with the new baby they are getting well, there only grandchild was not enough nor were the other two children. I know it sounds bad and I work through my feelings on a daily basis. My relationship with my mom has completely changed. She doesn't have time to talk anymore or come visit me. She isn't even going to be able to help out when the baby arrives. I get a little jealous of my other friends whose mom was there every step of the way.
The point of telling you my story was to help you see the other side. It isn't that he won't love the baby, which might take time. He is afraid that your relationship is going to change and at 13 it is a big change. His entire life is going to be different from now on. It just won't be the three of you. He might even feel that he wasn't enough. As a mom you need to reassure that your relationship will not change and while it may be hectic with a new baby you will still make time for him. It takes time. Trust me, it will get better.