I've got a couple mini-showers coming up and I've seen the invites and frankly they are WAY to gift focused. My mom provided a 3 page set of instructions for ordering off the registry, which I know was for my grandparents but she sent them to everyone. The other is a 'surprise' shower a friend is throwing and is organizing through Facebook. I've seen the posts and what she's been adding to the comments and she's all about gifts, where to buy them, when there are discounts on Babies R Us and telling people if they can't come they can drop off a gift.
Don't get me wrong, gifts are very much appreciated, but I'd rather just have a nice party and hang out with all these people without worrying about gifts. I feel like my mom and my friend are really putting all the focus on gifts and that's not what I want at all, but I don't know how to handle this gracefully. One shower I'm not supposed to know about and the other is mostly family and my oldest friends. Do these invites make me seem 'gift-grabby', is there anything I can do to 'fix' this? I don't mean to sound ungrateful because I didn't think I'd be having any shower let alone two, but the 'gift emphasis' is really making me uncomfortable.