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I am so torn

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So after my one and only failed IVF we met with the RE last week. He pushed DE eggs which I knew he would. I do like my RE and havenormally no problems with him. I talked with him about mini IVF and his thoughts. He was not optimistic but would do whatever I decide. Hefeels it works better for those with lower numbers and does not believe it would yield better quality eggs. We did only get 3 follies withtraditional IVF and there was 2 follies with femara when I did an IUI last year. He's not done a mini but would so give it a shot if it'swhat I want to do. If I really want to do a mini should I consult a doc that does them? I'm not even sure if it's what I want to do. I'mnot normally so indecisive. I want the quickest route to a baby but am also not 100% comfortable with DE. That's a HUGE decision! I havebeen weighing this decision back and forth for weeks and am no closer to a decision. Ugh!
TTC #1 since 2/10 Me 38 FSH 12.9 & AMH 0.16 DH 47, low sperm count due to meds. 07/11 We have sperm! 28 million, 70% motility, morphology 1% normal. 08/14/11 1st IUI unmedicated BFN. 09/11/11 2nd IUI w/ Femara + trigger BFN 10/14/11 trigger & Final IUI 10/16/11 BFN 10/21/11 Started acupuncture and loving it! 01/21 ET one embryo 6 cell grade C. Beta 02/02. BFN. Taking a much needed break. image
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Re: I am so torn

  • NewMrs07NewMrs07 member
    I would do a mini IVF. What about another traditional IVF? What are your doctor's thoughts about that? If I were in your shoes I think I would exhaust all possibilities before DE. And then do that if all else fails. Left Hug
    Me: 44 DH: 42. DS born healthy at 40 weeks 8/24/09. TTC since then with no luck or ART. Surprise BFP 8/6/14... MMC @ 8 weeks 4 days... Miss you everyday sweet baby angel.
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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member

    If you want to do mini IVF, I would go to someone who specializes in it. You don't want to be the guinea pig for this guy to learn on.  It is too emotional, too expensive etc for them to be "guessing" how to handle the cycle..

    No one decides that DE is right for them immediately. It is a process and usually akes way longer than a few weeks. It is a topic that most people never have to think about.

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member

    I agree with pp-- I would exhaust everything before I went the DE route. (Of course, my sister has said that she would even carry a baby for me, so I'm guessing she'd consider being a donor-- so I think that if I went the DE route without my sister's involvement, I'd REALLY REALLY want to exhaust all other options first.)

    As for choosing a doc to do a mini IVF? My first instinct is to agree with pp-- it's expensive, emotional, etc. and you want someone who is experienced. But, if you feel comfortable and trust your current doc, that may be worth more to you in the long run. Only you can know that...

    Good luck with your decision-- it sounds like you have a lot on your shoulders right now...  Left HugRight Hug

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    TTC #2: BFP 4/22 but stalled growth and no HB at 9w3d on 5/30        

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  • mtlaurelmtlaurel
    I think you should talk to another RE who does mini-IVF AND talk to an RE about DE, so that you feel like you are making an informed decision. Because, really, that's all you can do is absorb information to help you through a very emotional decision-making process. Good luck.
    TTC #1 since June 2010
    Me: 36, DH: 42
    Dx: DOR and MFI

    DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
    Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal

    IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
    IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
    DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
    DE IVF #2 (shared cycle with new donor - Nov/Dec/ 2012): - BFP!!!!! 12/14/12. U/S on 12/27 shows twins!!!!!

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  • solarflaresolarflare member
    YGPM :)
    ttc since 2/2010 ~
    me (36): Hypothyroid (on Levothroid), low vit. d, borderline/high fsh (day 3: between 7-10) (day 10: 13 during CCCT), AFC: 14
    dh (31): awesome (minus one sample with agglutination)
    Diagnosis:possible DOR and/or unexplained + elevated NK cells + MTHFR (C677T - one copy)

    MAY 2011 - FEB 2012 - 3 injectable IUI's with numerous cancellations due to high TSH levels
    MAY 2012 - onto IVF/ICSI (Antagonist Protocol) on BCP and Folgard (3 week delay - cyst - boooo) 5/21 start stims 5/30 ER 11R 8M 3F 6/2 3DT of 3 6/12 Beta #1 83 | 6/14 Beta #2 196 | 6/21 Beta #3 3818 | 6/28 Beta #4 22,213 | 7/2 1st U/S - 2 on board! 8/24 CVS reveals that we have a boy AND a girl on board!

    Healthy baby boy and girl born in February, 2013 at 38 weeks and 2 days!


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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    I'm so sorry you are dealing with all of these decisions. Like pp have said gather up as much info on both DE and mini ivf and hopefully you and DH can come up with a plan. Good luck :)

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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  • happywifemomofonehappywifemomofone member
    I know that I'm late responding.  The deciding factor for me was one of time, because of my age.  One thing about mini-IVF is that it may take multiple cycles.....some times a year or more, one cycle at a time.  I would recommend that you at least consult with a RE that does a lot of mini-IVF.  The way that we became confident with DE IVF was repeated failure with our OE.  Eventually we just wanted a way that could get us to our goal the fastest with a healthy pregnancy.  Find a lot of info and success stories at DE check in on Tuesday's on IF board.
    TTC since 10/09 Me-43 DH-44 RE and testing 10/10-11/10, Recommending IVF 1/11 New RE AMA and DOR-DH low motility IVF #1.1 cancelled 3/11 due to poor response IVF #1.2 May 2011, one perfect 8-cell embryo, 3dt-BFN, IVF #2.1 Converted to IUI d/t poor response. New RE 9/2011. IVF 2.2 completed using HGH,EPP,DHEA, Q-10 and accupuncture. Transferred one 8-cell, grade one embryo on 10/19. BFP 10/31/11 Chemical pregancy on 11/2/11. Started stims for IVF #3, our final try, on 12-2-11. ET on 12/18. Transferred 3 Grade A embryos-BFFN Planning DE IVF, late March/early April- Donors ER expected to be 4/2-4/4. PAIF/SAIF welcome
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