arggghhh!!! stepmom vent

fromvatobk

So I call my stepmom to talk to her about proposed grandma names (see post below) and say, here is the issue with your proposal, how can we work this out?  She doesn't even let me propose the grandma first name issue and informs me that "she doesn't know what we are going to be able to do because she hates grandma first name".  I suggest "gran" to make it more clear until he can pronounce grandna, and she ends with a huffy comment about working something out eventually.  Argghhh!!!  The whole world is not all about her!!!  Sorry, just needed to vent.

mrskadams

Tell her not to worry about a name since she won't be seeing the baby anyway if she's going to be such a PITA!  Just kidding, but really.  Tell her this is a dilemma for you, and you would appreciate it if the grandmothers could be accommodating/understanding.  I hate playing favorites, but to be totally honest with you, I feel your mom has first dibs.

Sunny1inTucson

I guess I don't know the background. What's your rush? Baby won't be talking for a while....and baby usually dictates what grandparent is called by what he or she can pronounce anyway. It's really not a big deal if they aren't called grandma in my opinion or if more than one grandparent is called the same thing. Stepmom can try to enforce a name later on, but either baby will roll with it or not!

sterfehr

When I found out I was pregnant I make my mom, dad and stepmom a tshirt that said grandma or grandpa _______. I didn't really ask them what they wanted, I just assumed everyone would be called grandma/pa. The next phone conversation with my stepmom yielded I would like to be called Nana. Whatever - have the baby call her grandna or whatever she wants but when the baby can't pronounce it don't worry about it.

I say it's your choice, not theirs. PP is right too, don't even worry about it until the baby gets here and is a little older.

*I_Do!*

My suggestion--tell all involved that they'll just have to wait and see what the baby ends up calling him/her.  I've seen several instances in which the child comes up with the cutest name for a grandparent all on their own.  In my extendted family we have a "Grammy", "Poppa Don", "Noona",  and a "G-me" (not sure how that one was started) in addition to the standard Grandma's and Grandpa's.  For the post part, the oldest grandchild set the name for all future grandchildren and it's worked out relatively well. The kids select a name that they can pronounce and associate wtih that individual.  I'm the youngest of 13 grandchildren and will be having my parent's 6th grandchild so we've played no part in the selection of names, but I'm willing to go with the precedent set!  AND, this keeps you out of the mess!