So in 1. below I stated that this sweet girl has some special needs, but she's also almost 4.
Has anyone adopted an older child and then within several weeks started them at daycare? In this scnenario she'd come home next fall/winter and I'd get a few weeks off to bond with her and then I have to go back to work and she'd be in daycare. Are some daycare situations better than others? Is it better to go to a center where there is less one on one care so when she comes home she maintains her attachment to DH and I? Or would an in home daycare or nanny be preferred. I'm afraid in those situations she'd attach to that provider? Also, she'd likely go to Kindergarten in Fall 2013. So I'd be transitioning her twice... to daycare and then to school. Should I consider a pre-k in the fall at the school she'd be going to?