Things you see on FB feeds

EVM1216

So DH is FB friends with this chick he chased all through HS, had a couple dates with, and who ultimately broke his heart.  I'm totally fine with this, he's grown out of his HS crush and I trust him.  My issue is that I saw on my feed that she wrote this on his wall last night after I went to bed:

"Hey when are you and the fam coming to town again? We should all get dinner sometime. I wanna officially meet your lady and baby! "

Here's the thing, I have met her, several times, and I HATE her.  Not just because because of her history with DH, but because I have disagreed with everything that I have ever heard her say or that I have ever heard that she has said.  So I will not waste one of the 4 days (3 really, because on 1 of those days I have a job interview) that I have at home on visiting someone I do not like.  DH responded to her in a very vague manner "Details coming soon..." 

I am hoping DH just drops it there, I think he knows my opinion of her and how many things I'd rather be doing than spending any time with her.  Is that unreasonable? 

JoJoMama730

Um no, not unreasonable at all.  Who on earth wants to spend time with their significant other's ex?  If they were best buds or something, that might change things a bit, but it doesn't sound like that's the case here.

jarebearsmom

That is absolutely in no way unreasonable!

DH has an ex who sends him Happy Birthday text and FB message every single year that concludes with "you know I could never forget about you." When we got pregnant she sent a congrats on FB message telling him if I need anything to let her know *gag!* And then sent a congrats after we had J telling DH what an amazing daddy he's going to be. Not once did he reply because he knew I would have been livid. And when she sent a message to MIL tattling on DH for not replying, MIL informed DH and told her she was not going to reply either.

Why are the exes always crazy?!

CFH79

Not unreasonable.  One of my exes sent me a FB message asking me and DH and H to dinner, saying he wanted to meet them and what a cute baby I made, etc etc.  I didn't respond and then blocked him from my FB.   

[Deleted User]

They are your ex for a reason!  Unless it's a random, like you dated & turns out they were gay & now you're BFFs, there's really no reason to have the past in the present. 

EVM1216

To be fair, saying they dated my be generous.  He had a crush on her, they went to one school dance and maybe couple of dates but she eventually told him that he was "too good a friend" and "like a brother."  They graduated from HS and she dissappeared off the face of the earth for a few years, and reappeared right before DH met me, he asked her out again (he says for the hell of it because they were both single), she said no. Apparently at this point they had a talk about thier realationship and whatever and DH moved on, we met, and the rest is history. 

I just really don't get why she suddenly has this renewed interest in DH.  It just seems weird.  I trust him, so I'm not worried that he's going to run off with her, I just don't get it.

CFH79

EVM1216:

To be fair, saying they dated my be generous.  He had a crush on her, they went to one school dance and maybe couple of dates but she eventually told him that he was "too good a friend" and "like a brother."  They graduated from HS and she dissappeared off the face of the earth for a few years, and reappeared right before DH met me, he asked her out again (he says for the hell of it because they were both single), she said no. Apparently at this point they had a talk about thier realationship and whatever and DH moved on, we met, and the rest is history. 

I just really don't get why she suddenly has this renewed interest in DH.  It just seems weird.  I trust him, so I'm not worried that he's going to run off with her, I just don't get it.

I wouldn't have a problem with my H having a FB friend or whatever like this, but I don't think he would (or should) expect me to hang out with her.  One of my H's exes is married to a friend of his and we took our kids to the same in-home child care provider before we moved.  That was cool, but I liked her.  If I didn't there would be no reason to "hang."

--halo--

Blech.  No thank you.  If you have no interest in being friends with her then just ignore it.  You don't owe her anything. :P

jarebearsmom

EVM1216:

To be fair, saying they dated my be generous.  He had a crush on her, they went to one school dance and maybe couple of dates but she eventually told him that he was "too good a friend" and "like a brother."  They graduated from HS and she dissappeared off the face of the earth for a few years, and reappeared right before DH met me, he asked her out again (he says for the hell of it because they were both single), she said no. Apparently at this point they had a talk about thier realationship and whatever and DH moved on, we met, and the rest is history. 

I just really don't get why she suddenly has this renewed interest in DH.  It just seems weird.  I trust him, so I'm not worried that he's going to run off with her, I just don't get it.

That's kind of how it went with the ex  I was talking about except she would always turn him down unless he had a g/f then she was suddenly interested. She pulled her crap again right after we started dating but that time he stood up to her instead of believing her

jarebearsmom

EVM1216:

To be fair, saying they dated my be generous.  He had a crush on her, they went to one school dance and maybe couple of dates but she eventually told him that he was "too good a friend" and "like a brother."  They graduated from HS and she dissappeared off the face of the earth for a few years, and reappeared right before DH met me, he asked her out again (he says for the hell of it because they were both single), she said no. Apparently at this point they had a talk about thier realationship and whatever and DH moved on, we met, and the rest is history. 

I just really don't get why she suddenly has this renewed interest in DH.  It just seems weird.  I trust him, so I'm not worried that he's going to run off with her, I just don't get it.

That's kind of how it went with the ex  I was talking about except she would always turn him down unless he had a g/f then she was suddenly interested. She pulled her crap again right after we started dating but that time he stood up to her instead of believing her

EVM1216

jarebearsmom:

That's kind of how it went with the ex  I was talking about except she would always turn him down unless he had a g/f then she was suddenly interested. She pulled her crap again right after we started dating but that time he stood up to her instead of believing her

I am pretty sure that she only contacts DH when she wants a self esteem boost and that this whole thing is a ploy to make it look like she's a good friend interested in his life.