so... my friend who thinks her sister is taking advantage of her

Smootchy

Has said she'd babysit her 2 month old neice at her house over night so her sister can go out tonight.

Last monday, MONDAY (my friend works in "corp america" 5-9 type crap) she watched her last monday and her sister didn't come home till 3am because they were at the boobie bar.

...My friend has big meeting all next week and it traveling for work after her sister picks up her kid. Um, I'm guessing she's gonna miss her flight.

Jillibean85

That was worded kind of weird, so i had to read it a few times! But it seems like she can't really complain if she's offering her services... ?

Jillibean85

LoisLane23:

I don't get it.

I think the gist is that this girl offered to watch her niece last Monday night until 3 am cause her sister was out at a boobie bar... Then she offered to watch her again, i guess the night before she has to travel for business, so Chaps thinks she will probably miss her flight... But i don't understand how you can feel taken advantage of if you're offering to watch her!  

Smootchy

Jillibean85:

LoisLane23:

I don't get it.

I think the gist is that this girl offered to watch her niece last Monday night until 3 am cause her sister was out at a boobie bar... Then she offered to watch her again, i guess the night before she has to travel for business, so Chaps thinks she will probably miss her flight... But i don't understand how you can feel taken advantage of if you're offering to watch her!  

ok. sorry I'm confusing.

I was with my friend last night and she was telling me that her sister asked her to watch child overnight. My friend said she would but only if it was at her house... So yes, can't really complain about much. But I just think her sister totally takes advantage of her because she knows the aunt/sister/my friend is one of those people who can't say no. (guess there's more to it, she's in counseling right now and this was her major topic of the week "not being able to say no" and her sister knows about all of this)

Last week her sister asked her to watch her child and then proceeded to stay out till 3am, which to me is getting taken advantage of. You don't ask someone to watch your kid when they have to work in the morning then stay out that late.

So now, she is watching her this weekend and yes, I think my friend will miss her flight. When we were talking about her counseling and stuff yesterday she says, "I think my sister might be taking advantage of me" Um, ya think?

(She also will call her every time the kid throws up and asks her to bring X over, so my friend will drop everything to help when I know her sister is only calling her so she goes to the store and buys the stuff. Like a thermometer and meds... Last night she called my friend to bring her something and her bf was sitting right there when she got there. It's not like she's home alone and didn't want to bring sick baby out)

Smootchy

Am I wrong for thinking just because someone offers to watch your kid, or you ask and they accept... By you staying out till very late hours, you're sorta taking advantage of them?

My friend was asked to babysit, she says yes but I can already see this weekend my friend in a rush getting ready to leave for her business trip (probably having little to no sleep) and her sister saying, "can you just drop her off" or "Sorry I over slept, be there soon..."

 

Kitiara5512

Your friend needs to call her sister back and tell her that no, with her traveling, it turns out she will not be able to watch the kid overnight. And if the sister pushes, then she should let her sister know "well, if I could count on you to pick him up on time, it would be different, but with the way you were so late getting him last week, I cant take the chance of missing my flight because you were busy or running late." End of conversation.