would you go? (NTR)

MrsMommyQ

The father of a friend of mine from HS died last week. The service is tomorrow at 11am and I don't know if I should go or not.

He and I kept in touch all during college and DH and I were at his wedding 5 years ago. We havent' seen him since then though, bc he and his wife moved to Seattle. We keep in touch on FB.

His mom works at a local hospital, and my grandfather has been her patient a number of times, so she knows my dad and grandfather semi-well. 

If I go, I will have to alone bc DH will be home with DD.  Just not sure if it will be awkward or not...or a nice gesture. Maybe I should just send soemthing to the house? (Food, flowers, mass card?) WDYT?

melody921

I would go. It's a nice gesture.

Comet4658

It sounds like since your family knows his family that it is more than just a friend from High School, but a family friend.  I vote go.  I don't see why it would be awkward unless you and friend had a falling out. But if it is, you could always leave early.  Would your dad and grandfather be going as well? 

Doesn't friend and wife ever come back home?  I'm surprised you haven't seen them when they were visiting home.  I don't know if this is tacky or not, but you could also send him a private message on Facebook expressing your condolences, and let him know you will be coming to the funeral.  That way he has a heads up.  I would send a card as well. 

If there is a luncheon after the service maybe DH and DD can come to that.