Thank you ladies for all your support, as always! Things are starting to turn around, thank goodness, but it's wonderful to know that I can always come here when I'm feeling bogged down.
Yesterday, I told my supervisor exactly what I thought was happening with regard to my maternity leave being treated differently because I'm adopting. He discussed it with the director, and my leave was immediately approved. Voila! I got some bogus explanation of why there was a "miscommunication" and the director wasn't sure of how to proceed, but in the end it's all just bs. He had no problem figuring out how to handle maternity leave requests from the women who birthed their babies, just mine. Whatever, I don't really care. I don't plan on staying here a minute longer than I have to before we relocate (we're thinking in about 2 years) and I can deal with this mess when I get back here in September. Right now, my only goal is making it through next Thursday and heading to Peru!
This morning, M's teacher told me that the head of the child study team observed M yesterday (What a novel idea! Too bad she couldn't do it back in September.), and immediately went to the principal to tell her that they are going to try to get an in-class aide to work with him! This is one of the main things we've been pushing for. All she had to do was sit in for 10 minutes to see how necessary it was. It's what we've been telling them all along. Now we'll see at our meeting on Tuesday if they are going to really classify him and make sure it's all-day support. We also want them to provide Wilson tutoring for him, but that might be pushing our luck. We'll see....
As for his memories, we are dealing with them and are deciding whether or not to visit his hometown and if we can work it so we can both be there. It seems that M doesn't want to go at all if we can't both go with him, so we're considering going next Sunday, right before we start J's adoption process. In general though, his behavior turned around right after we talked about it the first time on Sunday, he's working harder at school work again, and he just seems happier and more secure in our love and his trust of us. So things seem to be going as well as can be imagined.
I needed this. I have a feeling that once our final approval to comes through and we have Tuesday's child study team meeting, I will be really able to start relaxing and getting excited.
Thanks again for always offering your support. It really does help to have a place to share it all and to hear feedback, and know you are all out there rooting for us!