If you had a horrible pregnancy do you still want #2 or 3

rsrn02

I had a very complicated pg with ds. I had hyperemesis till the day I had him.  Preterm labor, bleeding, irritable uterus, gestational diabetes, etc...

Needless to say I think being pg sucked. I know that is flame full  

Dont get me wrong I love ds and especially love the age he is at right now

DH is ready for #2. I'm obviously not ready to be pg again. I want another one just not right now.

What about you guys.  Did any of you have pregnancies that you just go yuck at the memory

Im not saying it was all bad. It was really exciting to be pg and feel him kick and move around but the though of 9 months of throwing up again makes me sick.  

ANJ410

My 1st pregnancy was pretty crappy, but my 2nd pregnancy was the total opposite. 

Ardmhs83

I didn't have a horrible pregnancy, but dealt with and still dealing with PPD/PPA and it totally SUCKS!  I am VERY fearful of wanting to have #2.  I'm scared I'll experience it again or it will get worse.  I am also scared of possibly needing to take meds while pregnant/nursing and I don't think that is fair to baby #2.  I think of this fear everyday b/c I know I want a second child, but don't know if my body is going to allow it.  I guess I need to just leave it up to God.  If you are religious, just let God figure it out for you.  You may have a great second pregnancy...they say every pregnancy is totally different.  If God wants us to have another baby...we will and everything will be just fine.  :-)  

MrsSR

Nope!

We are one and done!

Comet4658

My first pregnancy was terrible, and yes I will be TTC #2 in a few months.  My situation in the first pregnancy was a freak 1/50,000 thing, so I am hoping lady luck will give me a great second pregnancy since I am hoping (and trying not to jinx myself) that #2 could not possible be as bad.  You just have to work through all of those emotions get to the point where you want a kid more than you fear the pregnancy.  If you are not ready you aren't ready and oh well to your DH- he isn't the one pregnant. 

JoJoMama730

My first pregnancy involved preterm labor, and months of bedrest, not to mention all the emotional drama and fear of losing the baby.  I think about a second pregnancy, and possibly going through that again, and am just not sure I want to go there.

bananarama11

My first pregnancy was hell. I had severe hyperemesis from 3.5 weeks thru delivery. I spent most of my time lying in bed, dizzy, and out of it from medications. I had to quit my job, I have massive medical bills, and my body is still recovering from the damages that being severely dehydrated for that long caused (not to mention my teeth recovering from throwing up all the time).

I absolutely want another child. Pregnancy is a temporary condition, and my daughter was worth every day, and more. I would totally understand why someone would be one and done after a complicated pregnancy, though.

nealbl

Mine was not as bad as yours. I was just really sick the whole time. All smells made me sick especially the smell of our oven so we didn't do a lot of cooking. I had a ton of aversions terrible heartburn and went through a couple of months of sciatic nerve pain. Delivery was not too bad. Induced at 40 weeks at 8:00 pm LO was born next morning at9:15am emergency csection. 10 pound baby!

Would give anything to be pregnant. Have been trying for over a year now with one m/c and two rounds of clomid. I do eventually want 3. I know how bad it was but I keep telling myself it will have to be better this time! 

BeerBeck

My first pregnancy was terrible but, obviously "Mummy brain" took over momentarily one day, as I am now in the midst of struggling with number two.

SweetHurricane

My first pregnancy was pretty awful. During it, and for several months after having DD, I swore we were one and done. I was so sure that we would not have more that I started giving away our baby gear. One day that all changed and I just could not get the idea of another LO out of my head. Here I am pregnant again and this pregnancy has been the polar opposite. I know I got lucky and that it could have been a rough go both times around, but I am very happy that we decided to try again.

JillAly

I almost died from pre-e/HELLP and was rushed to the hospital and had an emergency c-section.  It took me months to recover and I ended up with a hernia from complications from my c-section - as if almost dying wasn't enough.  I had to have hernia surgery.  Did I mention I also had PUPPS during the pregnancy and severe swelling from week 13 that led them to worry I would get a blood clot?  I was constantly monitored, pricked, poked and invaded throughout my pregnancy!  Plus, morning sickness for the entire pregnancy!  My dh swore we were one and done after seeing me so bad.  And I can't forget how hard it was to get pregnant in the first place with months of IF treatments.

My OB said I was the last person in the world he thought would be back for #2 and his jaw dropped the ground when he saw I was back.  I just felt like I knew the worst and it had to be better the second time around.  I'm so glad I did. I still had some complications and spent a month on hospital bed rest as a precaution but until week 28, I had a very uneventful pregnancy - which was new for me!  My recovery from having #2 was easy and uneventful and now I have a beautiful baby girl to complete our family. 

I totally understand being afraid of having #2 and you have to decide what is best for you but I if you're looking for some happy endings after a horrible experience, I am definitely one of them!

kendra223

While my pregnancy wasn't horrible, it did have complications. I had gestational diabetes and I was really rough on myself about it at times. If my blood sugar was just a little bit too high, I felt like I was failing my daughter. I remember dreading testing my blood sugar everytime.

There was also the whole "Your daughter is at 'high risk' for down syndrome." from a blood test I took at about 16 wks along. The test said the chances were 1 in 208 (which was high for my age and yada yada). We did a special ultrasound and found that she really wasn't high risk. The chances went to 1 in 408 (or somewhere around there). They brought up scary things before that special ultrasound. They "were required to tell me" that I could abort anywhere up to 24 weeks along (UM NO, I don't even want to THINK about that!!!). And the chances of miscarriage from amnio testing were higher here than from what I heard of in other places. I think the risk of miscarriage from amnio testing were higher than the chances of her actually having down syndrome. So that was another disturbing thing that I said "Hell no" to.

All in all though, I got the diabetes thing down and it went away after the pregnancy and I was completely calmed by the special ultrasound for the down syndrome thing. And she came out with no down syndrome.

I do want to wait (and so does DH) and see if we want #2. It's just too soon for us right now. Way too soon.

laurakaz13

I was the same as you.  Throwing up for 9 months straight, while working a tough job and then dealing with a newborn with colic was too much fo me. 

I am terrified to get pregnant again.  I just don't want to do it.  I'm afraid I will resent my husband and the potential new infant completely if I have to go through this again. 

eSynergy

My pregnancy was fine (just the normal morning sickness for the first 3 mo.) but the end was rough. I had pre-term labor and DS was in the NICU on a ventilator. That took a huge toll emotionally. 

We'll probably start thinking about #2 this year but I'm still very, very anxious about preterm labor. 

Molluskwrangler

I had horrid m/s, my circulation went all wonky and I had issues with fainting and major dizziness (near fainting). I wasn't allowed to drive or be up much, I was basically on modified bed rest from 4-5 months on. My mom came down to help out for about 6 months,I was really lucky.

We do want one more, I just can't imagine doing that with Molly, she's a handful. At this point my mom couldn't come help either. So timing will be everything, #2 will have to be easier right?