Not enough time in 2nd Trimester!!!

Toni79

So apparently the 2nd trimester is the "best" time to do practically everything!  I'm only trying to schedule two "big" things right now, but am running into so many conflicts: 

1. A vacation with DH (aka babymoon).  He wants to take a cruise, but cruise lines will not let you cruise once you've entered your 24th week.  Between his work schedule and cruise restrictions, there are literally two weeks available for us to cruise.
2. A 12 week Bradley Natural Childbirth Class (they suggest you start in the 5th month).  I've only been able to find three instructors somewhat close to me (within an hour drive).  One is pretty close, so I'll probably go with that one.  But I haven't decided yet.

What is stressing me out is that with the cruise I'd have to miss a Bradley class.  I sent the instructor close to me an email asking about make up classes and this was her reply:  "It is best never to miss unless absolutely necessary.  Couples who skip classes usually do not have the birth they are hoping for as they are ill-prepared.  I will do a brief catch-up 15-30 mins before the next class after a missed class for a good reason."

Her reply kind of rubbed me the wrong way.  I know she just had a baby, so maybe she was just tired and in a hurry when she wrote this?

I've asked the other instructors about missing classes and they pretty much said we could come early the next week and do an individual review, etc.  Which is great, but those classes are so far away and not at the best times.

I'm almost 17 weeks, so I just need to get these things scheduled, but I am just so frustrated!!!!

TJ1979

How frustrating!  Well, if it makes you feel better, you're way ahead of me.  I don't even know what I need to do.  GL, hopefully that instructor was just having a bad day.

amberleeb

We are going on our carnival cruise next week.  Carnivals policy is you can not be more than 25 weeks on the last day of the cruise.  We just made the cut I will be 24wks 1 day the last day of our cruise.  So that gives you an extra week than you thought!  Good luck getting everything in.

tarajayne

That seems kind of harsh from the instructor... you are choosing to take this class, it's not like it's school.  Good lord is she going to give you an exam too?

If it were me, if you want to do the cruise and think you can do it, don't worry about missing 1 class.  I'm sure you will still have to pay for all the classes so really why is she bothered if you miss one.  Sheesh.

DrRx

Um, right. So, if an instructor was like that to me, I would say thanks but no thanks.  I don't like how she is trying to scare you that if you miss 1 class you will not have the birth experience that you want. Is her whole class going to be that if you don't do things the way she tells you to do them you will have a horrible birth experience?

DH and I had talked about doing a babymoon, and I'm glad that we didn't.  Not because of my complication, but because time just starts FLYING by and we felt that if we went on a babymoon, it would actually be more stressful! 

GL with whatever you decide to do! 

Toni79

amberleeb:

We are going on our carnival cruise next week.  Carnivals policy is you can not be more than 25 weeks on the last day of the cruise.  We just made the cut I will be 24wks 1 day the last day of our cruise.  So that gives you an extra week than you thought!  Good luck getting everything in.

Hey amberleeb - Thanks for the info about Carnival.  I actually read about their policy a week or two ago (letting you go up to 25 weeks).  I was so excited becasue this opened up another week for us.  Actually I'd prefer this other week.  However, DH already has a work commitment that he can't get out of.  He's a police detective and his "big" case goes to court that week.  If it were any other case of his I'd make a big deal and beg that he miss it, but I know this one is too important and means too much to him.  Plus he told me it was too late to reschedule.  So it looks like we are back to that one week!  Ug!  At least that helps me focus my searches on just one week!  LOL!

BTW - Where are you going on your cruise?  Just curious.

Toni79

Thanks ladies!  I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought her reply was condecending.  I had DH read it and he was pretty put off by it too.  There is really no way around it, I'm going to have to miss a class.  So if I take her class, she will just have to deal with that.  I'm really hoping that she just replied without thinking.  All the other replies and info I've gotten from her has been helpful, except that.