This is odd, no?

ASmallWonder

DH's brother and his wife are baptizing their son at the end of the month and we go the invite probably a week or so ago.  I mentioned to DH that obviously he wasn't the god father since we had the invite and no one had asked him, which didn't really bother him particularly but he and his brother are super close so it just seemed a little strange.  We figured they had asked the wife's sister and brother to act as god parents.  Then a couple days ago DH's brother called and said "I wanted to ask you this in person but I don't think I'm going to see you.  Will you be J's godfather?"  Ok so sweet and yes of course but isn't it odd that they actually scheduled the baptism and sent out invites without even checking with the godfather first?  What if he absolutely couldn't go (like because he had to travel for work).

Smootchy

yeah. A little odd, you would think you'd check the date with the Godparents before you set the date.

 

hmp1

What religion is the child being baptized?  I'm Methodist and it is not required to have a Godparent. I don't have one and DS doesn't have one. But my sister's kids do have them. So if it's not required and it is just a special thing they wanted to ask your DH, I don't think it's weird to ask him after the invites.

Emiliana7

In my church (Catholic) if one (or both) of the Godparents cannot be there (work, travel, etc) then someone can stand in place at the ceremony. Just as long as the actual Godparent got all their paperwork mailed in and approved prior to the event (paperwork, being that assuming the local church wasn't the Godparent's church and they needed to send a letter from their church saying they are in good standing and are baptized,etc)