FFFC

lulu8109

I didn't see a thread started.

My confession:  BIL was sick when he came to visit last weekend.  I'm still pissed about it.  So when my sis asked me if C got sick, I let her think that BIL might have gotten C sick.  I said C was warm and extremely fussy but didn't have a fever, which was all true, but I think he's just teething.

On a related note, now I'm sick.  Thanks a whole lot, BIL!  Grrrrrrrr

jarebearsmom

DH and I are music ministers at a church. The pastor demanded DH be at church Monday night for a required meeting because he is the "music minister" I'm pretty offended because he didn't ask me to be there when I'm the one that gets the music ready, teaches it to the choir, and deals with all the stress that comes with it.

DH works crazy hours even though he's suppose to be 8:30-5:30. He's the sales manager at an insurance office so if a client comes in, it could be 8 before he gets home and we live 30 minutes away from the church.

DH doesn't want to go period because it wasn't asked. It was demanded. Literally. The pastor walked up to him and said "Be here Monday night at 8. No excuses." DH said "IDK if I will be home in time." Pastor said "I see you on FB at night you'll be off in time." FBing is part of DH's job because he's also the IT guy.

I know it's petty I'm just ill about the whole thing in general.

PGASTL

jarebearsmom:

DH and I are music ministers at a church. The pastor demanded DH be at church Monday night for a required meeting because he is the "music minister" I'm pretty offended because he didn't ask me to be there when I'm the one that gets the music ready, teaches it to the choir, and deals with all the stress that comes with it.

DH works crazy hours even though he's suppose to be 8:30-5:30. He's the sales manager at an insurance office so if a client comes in, it could be 8 before he gets home and we live 30 minutes away from the church.

DH doesn't want to go period because it wasn't asked. It was demanded. Literally. The pastor walked up to him and said "Be here Monday night at 8. No excuses." DH said "IDK if I will be home in time." Pastor said "I see you on FB at night you'll be off in time." FBing is part of DH's job because he's also the IT guy.

I know it's petty I'm just ill about the whole thing in general.

I agree with your DH. I wouldn't come if it was demanded in that manner - that's ridiculous! I'm assuming you are both volunteers, not paid, and deserve to be appreciated for your time.

lulu8109

luckystarz:

PGASTL:

jarebearsmom:

DH and I are music ministers at a church. The pastor demanded DH be at church Monday night for a required meeting because he is the "music minister" I'm pretty offended because he didn't ask me to be there when I'm the one that gets the music ready, teaches it to the choir, and deals with all the stress that comes with it.

DH works crazy hours even though he's suppose to be 8:30-5:30. He's the sales manager at an insurance office so if a client comes in, it could be 8 before he gets home and we live 30 minutes away from the church.

DH doesn't want to go period because it wasn't asked. It was demanded. Literally. The pastor walked up to him and said "Be here Monday night at 8. No excuses." DH said "IDK if I will be home in time." Pastor said "I see you on FB at night you'll be off in time." FBing is part of DH's job because he's also the IT guy.

I know it's petty I'm just ill about the whole thing in general.

I agree with your DH. I wouldn't come if it was demanded in that manner - that's ridiculous! I'm assuming you are both volunteers, not paid, and deserve to be appreciated for your time.

This. Also, if a pastor said that to me about FB I would tell him he could do the music job himself if he is going to be so rude. 

Ditto!  Even if the meeting is required (which it doesn't sound like since jarebear isn't required to be there), the pastor didn't need to be so rude.  I just love when people try to justify their craziness with more craziness (re the stupid FB comment).

lilmgirl

In the past two days, I've done maybe 3 hours of real, actual work.

jarebearsmom

lulu8109:

luckystarz:

PGASTL:

jarebearsmom:

DH and I are music ministers at a church. The pastor demanded DH be at church Monday night for a required meeting because he is the "music minister" I'm pretty offended because he didn't ask me to be there when I'm the one that gets the music ready, teaches it to the choir, and deals with all the stress that comes with it.

DH works crazy hours even though he's suppose to be 8:30-5:30. He's the sales manager at an insurance office so if a client comes in, it could be 8 before he gets home and we live 30 minutes away from the church.

DH doesn't want to go period because it wasn't asked. It was demanded. Literally. The pastor walked up to him and said "Be here Monday night at 8. No excuses." DH said "IDK if I will be home in time." Pastor said "I see you on FB at night you'll be off in time." FBing is part of DH's job because he's also the IT guy.

I know it's petty I'm just ill about the whole thing in general.

I agree with your DH. I wouldn't come if it was demanded in that manner - that's ridiculous! I'm assuming you are both volunteers, not paid, and deserve to be appreciated for your time.

This. Also, if a pastor said that to me about FB I would tell him he could do the music job himself if he is going to be so rude. 

Ditto!  Even if the meeting is required (which it doesn't sound like since jarebear isn't required to be there), the pastor didn't need to be so rude.  I just love when people try to justify their craziness with more craziness (re the stupid FB comment).

I was worried I was being petty so I've been waiting on FFFC so I could post it but I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling this way.

Also my IRL BFF and her husband are the youth pastors of the same church. Pastor demanded the BFF's H to be there and did not say she could be there. It's THEIR ministry together. THEY are the YP not just him. She does just as much work in the dramas and skits as he does in preparing the lessons.

And DH and I have a separate ministry from the church. We travel to different church and stuff and sing. There's another ministry in our church that does the same thing. He required one of their members to be there as a representative of their group but didn't say anything about our group. I just feel like the kid on the playground that didn't get picked for kickball.

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lilmgirl:

In the past two days, I've done maybe 3 hours of real, actual work.

Me too.  Eep.  Well, that's at my day job.  My weekend job is kicking my arse.  I work at a floral wholesale warehouse.  Pallet & pallets & pallets & pallets of flowers.  ZOMGGGGGGGG. 

My FFFC, because of the season, I've been going into work early (4am) and working more days.  This makes me cranky & short with DH.  I also have a case of the Idon'tgiveafucks about it & he can deal.  I figure that if he gets to be cranky from his job, so do I.  Suck it. 

lulu8109

sofamonkey:

lilmgirl:

In the past two days, I've done maybe 3 hours of real, actual work.

Me too.  Eep.  Well, that's at my day job.  My weekend job is kicking my arse.  I work at a floral wholesale warehouse.  Pallet & pallets & pallets & pallets of flowers.  ZOMGGGGGGGG. 

My FFFC, because of the season, I've been going into work early (4am) and working more days.  This makes me cranky & short with DH.  I also have a case of the Idon'tgiveafucks about it & he can deal.  I figure that if he gets to be cranky from his job, so do I.  Suck it. 

  to both of you.

jarebearsmom

mands629:

luckystarz:

My FFFC is that we have the last attempt at Mediation on Monday with both of our attorneys present and the judge and/or her assistant. His attorney has already told mine that they WON'T agree to anything...it's a colossal waste of my time and money because it's going to cost me at least $300 for my attorney to be there. But we HAVE to go or the judge won't set our trial date...UGHHH.

Have I ever mentioned to you that I HATE him?!? 

This. I'm so sorry you're having to go through all of this LS

--halo--

luckystarz:

jarebearsmom:

mands629:

luckystarz:

My FFFC is that we have the last attempt at Mediation on Monday with both of our attorneys present and the judge and/or her assistant. His attorney has already told mine that they WON'T agree to anything...it's a colossal waste of my time and money because it's going to cost me at least $300 for my attorney to be there. But we HAVE to go or the judge won't set our trial date...UGHHH.

Have I ever mentioned to you that I HATE him?!? 

This. I'm so sorry you're having to go through all of this LS

 

Urgh, it's the beginning. Last week he accused me of some horrible things, and when he was proved wrong (in writing by a third party) they acted like it never happened and was no big deal,  and moved on to something else...ridiculousness I tell you.  

This makes me so mad for you!!  I hate injustice and when people don't acknowledge when they are wrong. :P

My FFFC:  Jackson and I have both been sick this week.  He has a super runny nose, a fever, and TONS of energy somehow.  I have a sore throat, headache, NO energy and very little patience.

When I use the nasal aspirator he fights me so hard, but he can't nurse with a stuffy nose.    So I have been holding him down while he screams his head off.which just makes his nose run more.  And I'm sure that it gives him a headache.  It makes me feel terrible, but I'm not sure what else I can do.   

janneann1127

My FFFC is that Griffin is currently watching an Elmo DVD so I can bump for a minute. Or 15.

bosha711

My FFFC is I went BSC on this guy at the library the other day (of all places for there to be drama, right?)

Rewinding a little bit, last time I was there about a month ago, DS & I were there for all but 5 minutes before this guy & I'm guessing his grandson came in. The kid was about 3 & was out of control. He was dirty, covered in snot & totally obsessed with DS. He just kept saying baby! baby! baby! and shoving books at him, rubbing his hands on DS's head & just all up in our space non-stop.

For like 15 minutes, I kept my cool politely saying things like, "excuse me", "please don't touch!", "ok, we're going to pick out a book now" & just had to keep moving DS away or picking him up to bring him to a different section. All the time, the guy did nothing to control his kid except say, "yes, that's the baby" Seriously WTF?

So, we ended up leaving b/c it was ridiculous. Then the icing on the cake was going out to my car to see I had a flat tire!

Anyway, so the other day, again we are there for 5 minutes before guess who walks in! I said, you gotta f*cking be kidding me. 2 seconds later, here comes the same dirty snot nosed kid running straight for Ds yelling baby! baby! baby!

So I said flat out to the guy, "Look, let's not go through this again. Keep your kid away from mine." Did he? No, of course not. I couldn't even pick out a board book b/c the guy was sitting right in front of the display. He tried to get his kid to stay & read a book there, but he kept trying to pull away to get to DS. So it was like even when he DID have a hold on the kid, I just had to wait in the sidelines b/c they were in the exact spot I needed to be.

It ended up being an exact same repeat of the smothering my kid & shoving books at him & following us wherever we went.

So I finally said to the guy, "What is wrong with you? Control your kid! I can't even come here with my son & enjoy ourselves b/c of this BS! This is ridiculous! And wipe that disgusting snot that is streaming from his nose & take him to the doctor for God's sake!" aaah I was so furious!

It's like Anthony is being punished b/c we can't even stay there for something totally not his fault. God forbid that guy had any decency to be the one who leaves, right?!

I went off to the librarian about them as we were checking out our books & she said that they're usually gone by 2, so I know to come next time after they are gone!

So we are pulling out of our parking space & they are walking out of the library! Seriously A-hole?! 

Mommysaurus123

bosha711:

So I finally said to the guy, "What is wrong with you? Control your kid! I can't even come here with my son & enjoy ourselves b/c of this BS! This is ridiculous! And wipe that disgusting snot that is streaming from his nose & take him to the doctor for God's sake!" aaah I was so furious!

It's like Anthony is being punished b/c we can't even stay there for something totally not his fault. God forbid that guy had any decency to be the one who leaves, right?!

Good for you, Momma! I really can't stand when people don't parent their children (or children in their care!) My cousin's kid is the same way... Snotty, always yelling "baby! baby!" and getting in Landon's face and usually knocking him down. GAH!