Present for IVF?

stgn01

Long story short...when I got pregnant with DD, my BFF and I both did some pretty hurtful things to each other and didn't speak to each other until this summer.  She was pissed I was pregnant and not her, and I was pissed she wasn't being supportive.  Well I'm pregnant again and we both said we would do things differently this time.  She's going for her final doc appt next week and probably doing IVF in March or April.

Is there an appropriate gift for that?  I don't want to get her any baby items just in case, God forbid, something happens.  I can do the standard food or flowers, but I was looking for something different.  Any opinions? 

schnappycat

Honestly, as a former IVF patient, I would think it's a little odd if someone got me a gift when I started the process. If a friend wanted to take me out to lunch or something similar as a way to distract me or offer support that would be nice, but not in the guise of a "gift." If she has a tough time during the process, you could offer to make her food or just hang out. I had some complications from the drugs and would have appreciated that.

I would wait on any real gifts until she is safely pregnant if it's baby related. 

ETA: I wasn't on bed rest at all, but did take it easy the day of the embryo transfer. So yes, I would have enjoyed some company during that time.  

I should also add that I did receive a gift around the time I started IVF for DS, but it was just a coincidence (I don't think the friend even knew we were trying). But it was a DVD set of one of my fave shows and I spent quite a bit of time watching it during that time, so it was a very good gift. So that might be an option. I just would definitely steer away from a specific baby gift. 

Brewtowngrl

She will be on bed rest for a few days if she does IVF.  trashy mags and your time listening to her. She is going to be going through a lot of emotions and scared out of her mind.  

monimonimoni

 

Brewtowngrl:

She will be on bed rest for a few days if she does IVF.  trashy mags and your time listening to her. She is going to be going through a lot of emotions and scared out of her mind.  

I agree with this. Personally, I'd skip buying her an actual "gift" of sorts. Even though you wouldn't mean it to be, she could see it as being a little patronising, you know?

stgn01

Thanks ladies.  I have no idea what she's going through and I'm trying to be supportive, but don't want to over step my bounds.  I like the idea of magazine and maybe a DVD.  Something to distract her.  Good idea.

Kimee13

You could take her out for a pedi before or afterwards for some girl time.  The dvd's and mags are a great deal, New Moon is coming out this weekend :-)