Early morning confession

winery

There are days I wish I only had 1 son.

Then J and I could just go out all day long and play, run errands, hang out, do fun stuff.

Having a baby really limits what J and I get to do, unfortunately.  And it kinda sucks.

Mrs.JDD

I am really worried about feeling that way when baby #2 comes.  I'm nervous..big time.  I guess the only thing to do is just keep reminding yourself is that this is only temporary and before you know it, you'll be out running errands and making playground trips that both boys can enjoy

joseysbride

Oh geez, I didn't need to read this.  I have been holding out on ttc #2 (but we started ttc this month), and a big part of it is this...I am really enjoying my dd and feel like we have it all figured out right now.  What am I doing?  Make another post about why you love having two, please!  LOL!

Chrisy-Wyobride

It'll be that way for a year or so but it'll get better.  I have #3 coming & honestly I am dreading the next 1.5 years (the pregnancy & newborn)...but I know by the time baby is 1 or so, it'll be fun. 

amiamish

Totally understandable... I'm scared about having two too...however, I have a while till it becomes a reality.

rach&jay

I totally agree.  Over the summer I really think Riley got the 'short end of the stick'.  We were very limited with some things because Syd isn't the most mobile yet.  But, once we get to spring, it will all be better.  They will have each other to play with and perhaps I can read a few pages in my backyard while they play.

**BAC***

I worry about this too.  And mine will be almost 4 years apart.

I wonder how it will affect Regan since we are so used to doing our own thing.  The baby will throw a kink in that.

Jodi&Joe

That will eventually change --- and you will feel that way about BOTH boys, just at different times.  There are times that I wish it was just me and Cam.  And there are times that I wish it were just me and Joey.  But all in all, having a sibling is way more important than extended one-on-one time, IMO.  It all balances out in the end! 

DandR

and yesterday (well, maybe not yesterday, but a few days ago) you were saying you wanted #3.

 

Jamaica_Bride

It will get easier! My boys are on the same schedule and it's SO easy to plan things/ run erands during the day.

 In due time, my love!

shouldbeworkin

Is your older DC in preschool or anything like that?  when I had #2, #1 was in daycare a couple days a week.  I would use those days to run my errands with #2 in tow, clean up the house and rest a bit.  Then, on the days that #1 was with us, I had the energy and time to take him some place fun.  I thought it worked out really well that way.  A couple times I left #2 with a baby sitter and took #1 out alone, as well.  He loved the one on one time. 

I also found that carrying #2 around in a bjorn or sling freed me up to focus on #1.  #2 was happy to be "held" and #1 was happy to have my undivided attention. 

KoriBrett

I have those days too.  It's getting better as DS gets older though.  I'm thinking next summer it'll be back to fun again and I won't be so worried about dividing my attention.  Even now, DD is starting to try to play with him now & then, and DS crawls over to DD to check out what she's doing.  It's fun to watch. 

We've been taking turns on weekends - I'll run errands and just take DD so we have some time together, DH will take her somewhere... we kinda split up our time so they each get more 1-1 with us.

winery

DandR:

and yesterday (well, maybe not yesterday, but a few days ago) you were saying you wanted #3.

 

 

Yeah, there are days when I want more and there are days when I want none. 

amw80

I getcha. I feel like that sometimes also. Honestly, I think that's one of the hardest things about having 2 close in age. I feel sorta limited on what we can do. It was actually easier when DS was in his infant carrier, but now that he is running it's stressful to take them both places.

 Sometimes I see things to do like classes, events, etc but I feel like no way am I going to attempt to do that with 2 toddlers.

We just started going back to storytime once a week and I have to keep DS in his stroller because the minute I let him out he is gone like a mad man. I think it will get easier as they get older, but I get what you are saying.