**mommysaurus**

lilmgirl

I'm just checking in to see how things have been this past week.  I really hope there haven't been any more "incidences" of douchey-ness.

 

OhSewCrafty

Mommysaurus123

Thanks for checking in! I think he really does have PMS... Pissy Man Syndrome, or something. He was all grumpy when he got home from work, so I told him that I would listen to him when he was done being a jerk all the time. Since then, no problems.

I think he's really stressed about the thought of moving. Most of the work WOULD fall on him, since he does the finances, and he'd be doing a big repainting job around here before we could even put our house on the market (apparently homebuyers don't want bright orange walls in their living room/dining room/kitchen).

DH was good yesterday because his friend just refinanced at 3.25% and we thought we might be able to refinance again (just did it a year ago) at the lower rate and stay in our house, but today he realized that we'd have to do a 15 year mortgage to get the better rate, so we'd actually be spending more.

So I'm pretty sure it's all tied to the finances/moving issue. Tomorrow we are going to look at the one townhouse, so hopefully that will make him happy.

PLUS we realized my cousin is a realtor, so even though someone else considered using an uncle and the board kind of made that out to be a downer, I think if my cousin could help us both sell and buy, she might be able to cut us a 1% break, which would be great.

BUT as a whole, things have been MUCH better since I told him off last week.

Thanks for asking, and sorry for responding with such a longwinded update. Buuuuuuuuuuuuut, on the bright side, it means you get a reward:

lilmgirl

I'm glad to hear things are better and of course, your gift at the end is tasty treat  

Since his stress seems to be financial and move related, you already do so much right now, but is there anything you can do to help him out?  Is he a control freak when it comes to you household finances?  Are you guys on a budget?  Would that help him not worry about where money is going or are you saving enough, etc?  In short, is there anything you can help him feel like he has more stability and not have to stress about it?

Mommysaurus123

lilmgirl:

I'm glad to hear things are better and of course, your gift at the end is tasty treat  

Since his stress seems to be financial and move related, you already do so much right now, but is there anything you can do to help him out?  Is he a control freak when it comes to you household finances?  Are you guys on a budget?  Would that help him not worry about where money is going or are you saving enough, etc?  In short, is there anything you can help him feel like he has more stability and not have to stress about it?

Well, today was even better than yesterday. He found out that refinancing will not help at all. Then one of the 2 houses we liked (and we were supposed to go visit today) is now under agreement... So we've had some disappointment today but his attitude today is great, and we've been able to be silly and have fun!

Really, the only thing I can do is just encourage. I know he gets stressed about money, and he HATES when the house is messy. So I've been using Pinterest to inexpensively craft some little storage things for Landon's toys, so they're not laying all over the floor. That helps. And I'm trying to keep the sink empty, the kitchen table cleaned off, and the floor swept. And our bedroom clean.

Our budget is "don't buy anything you don't need." So I'm also trying to do a good job with that. We made a menu board and are sticking to it, so we don't have to go out for dinner because we don't have anything at home to make. I have been making and selling jewelry, so I need to buy some supplies for that since we have a craft show coming up, but I don't buy anything unless I sell a pair of earrings and have a few bucks to go get the supplies (if they are on sale.)

Anyway, every day is an improvement. I had another "follow up" talk with him last night and just told him that I already feel like our financial woes are my fault, since I'm the jobless one, and to then have to deal with his attitude and his constant complaining, it makes me feel worse. So he has been really sweet since then and was holding my hand in the car tonight, like the good old days, telling me how  much he loves me and how sorry he is. And it's nice, because I can tell he means it, and he's not just saying it for the heck of it.

Thanks again for checking in!!! I really do appreciate knowing that there are bumpies who care (since I have a hard time finding anyone IRL who I can talk to about this), and I think we're starting to communicate well and work together to ease the stress on each other. YAY!