3wks & no weight gain + DH frustration

bonnin507 · February 2012

I'm EBF & DD hasn't gained any weight back. Dr suggested more frequent feedings, but I can't make her eat more if she's not interested. I have adjusted her feedings to let her feed longer on one side to hopefully get more hindemilk, but so far it hasn't made a difference. She also doesn't sleep very long unless she's held, so I snuggle her most of the night, but then she sleeps most of the night. perhaps I should be waking her up for a feeding then?

DH is also frustrating me. He seems to think nothing has changed now that we have 2 under 2, but I'm struggling to keep up. I don't mind that I can't do everything, but it'd be nice if he appreciated what I do and/or could show a little sympathy. more help around the house & w/ DD#1 would be great too. and it really pisses me off that he complains about wanting sex (really @ 3wks?) and although I had no tearing, I'm not ready for that just yet. He suggested there are other avenues; I was not impressed. give me a frickin' break!

mben1119 · February 2012

If she hasn't returned back to birth weight, you should absolutely be waking her every 2 hours for feedings. Otherwise, you might need to supplement.

Husbands just don't get it, sometimes. I do understand his want/need for intimacy, and you should try to make time for him. That doesn't mean sex, but there are other avenues, and as tired and busy as you are, remember your relationship with your husband is just as important.

bonnin507 · February 2012

I guess i will have to try harder w/ the more frequent feedings. I tend to let baby lead like we did w/ our 1st but that's obviously not working.

I don't mind making time for me & DH, but when he suggested other avenues, he was referring to other sexual acts....which is why I was not impressed.

mben1119 · February 2012

bonnin507:

I guess i will have to try harder w/ the more frequent feedings. I tend to let baby lead like we did w/ our 1st but that's obviously not working.

I don't mind making time for me & DH, but when he suggested other avenues, he was referring to other sexual acts....which is why I was not impressed.

Why not take a shower together, or make out, or anything? I know at about 3-4 weeks PP, I just wanted to feel wanted again, and we started small and slow.

bonnin507 · February 2012

mabenner1:
bonnin507:

I guess i will have to try harder w/ the more frequent feedings. I tend to let baby lead like we did w/ our 1st but that's obviously not working.

I don't mind making time for me & DH, but when he suggested other avenues, he was referring to other sexual acts....which is why I was not impressed.

Why not take a shower together, or make out, or anything? I know at about 3-4 weeks PP, I just wanted to feel wanted again, and we started small and slow.

that would be nice, but I'm not sure we could time it right w/ our 2 girls. plus I think he would only get more frustrated if I got him all hot & bothered but didn't finish.

Mustardseed2007 · February 2012

You know, you may want to discuss with your husband that you'd probably feel more like being intimate with him if he could assist you more with ya'lls two babies.

Nothing is sexier than a dad helping out around the house IMO.

Yes you should make sure you are making time for your DH, but that's a 2 way street!