Are deaths harder for you now that you have kids?

Jamaica_Bride · October 2008

I found out last night my young cousin (23) died suddenly yesterday- and my heart is just shattered. We weren't super close as adults but as kids we sept a lot of time together- I would stay w/ my aunt and uncle for a few weeks in the summer and care for my cousins.

Anyway, I cannot imagine losing one of my sons. My heart is shattered for my Aunt (my Uncle died about 11 years ago at 40 of leukemia (sp?)). I can't imagaine losing my MH at such a young age then losing my son. This is way harder on me now that I have kiddos of my own.

kevschickee2 · October 2008

yes much harder for some reason. I am so sorry for your loss. 23 is way too young to die. ((((hugs)))))

belle204 · October 2008

Yes. That's how I felt when my cousin died in July. All I could think about was how awful it would be. Sorry to hear about your loss. ((hugs))

emilykristene2006 · October 2008

I lost my mom to cancer when DD was 2 months old (she was 48). Two months later, lost my grandmother to cancer also. The next year, my grandfather to cancer.

I am not handling death well at all. I am so terrified that I am going to get cancer and leave DH, DD and DS behind. DH is worried too. It sucks because every little lump I find I freak. I cannot stand worrying all the time. But I do. I was never a hyperchondriac (sp?) before. It just scares me to death to leave my kids. I was not expecting to lose my mom at all. I know that no one expects it. I just took for granted that my mom would be around for a long time.

Okay, I need to stop. Yes, deaths are way hard on me now.

**BAC*** · October 2008

So sorry for your loss. ((HUGS))

I have taken deaths alot harder since I had Regan. Having a child just makes you think more about it.

I can't even hardly to stand to watch the news anymore!

REOM · October 2008

Hell yes. I can barely watch TV shows where things happen to kids anymore.

So sorry to hear about your cousin, that's just awful

jennrg1019 · October 2008

Yes. I couldn't imagine losing one of my children. My heart breaks for every mother who has been through this. DH's 91 yr old grandmother is watching her daughter (my MIL) die of cancer.

I'm also very scared of something happening to me. I pray that I live long enough to raise my children until they're adults and can take care of themselves. A young mother in our community just passed away and left a husband and two small children. The community really came together to help them, but still - they're 3 and under and they're going to grow up without their mother.