moms pg with their # 2+

Baby_Bunny_Hopeful

I just found out we're expecting again!!  We are super excited... but I can't help but feel twinges of guilt that DS won't be the sole focus of our attention... and that he'll have sooo many changes in the next year (moving to a big boy room, potty training and birth of a sibling).  He is my absolute world!!

Did you feel anxious and guilty, too??  How did the transitions go?  

I just don't want him to feel like we're changing too much and upset him. 

TIA 

EGMphoto

I am feeling those same things, as I know some others are too (it's been mentioned before)... seems totally normal! Your first baby is the center of your world, of course you'd worry about changing their little world

SHeins

I worried myself sick over that with my second pregnancy (now pregnant with #3) and my firstborn was so happy to be a big brother, that all my worry was really for nothing. We did all the 'big' changes one at a time. We moved him to his big boy room three months before the baby was due, we potty trained him a few months after his brother arrived. We just took it all in stride and tried to keep everything as 'normal' for him as we could.

I might have a harder time this time around because my second son is Mama's boy and doesnt like to share his mom....but I try to remind myself that they are so young they wont remember NOT having a sibling. That seems to calm the worst of it.

It will be ok. Deep breaths and drink up the One-And-Only days.

mariatech22

I have the same concerns.  My DD is a little older, but I know she's become very accustomed to our full attention.  I'm not sure how the transition will go and things might be tough for a little while, but they will be so glad to have a playmate when the baby gets a little older.

 

 

Baby_Bunny_Hopeful

SHeins:

It will be ok. Deep breaths and drink up the One-And-Only days.

ok, now I'm almost in tears! LOL 

MichelenDave06

I feel the same way.  This is part of the reason why we waited so long.  I couldn't shake these feelings of guilt and anxiety.  I know once the other baby is here, it will be so different and wonderful in their own way, that splitting time and attention will feel like nothing.  I think it is just so different having your first and then doing it again.  We did wait until DS was in a bed and potty trained before we started trying, so those things are taken care of, but it doesn't shake the little feelings that I will be sharing my love and attention.  You aren't the only one for sure.  I have spoken to many women that feel this way, but has ensured me that everything changes once the other baby is born.

yecal262

I'm pregnant with my second. Is it weird that I'm not really that nervous about any of that? I am so excited that my little girl is going to have a brother or sister in the next year! I was really worried that we were not goin to be able to get pregnant so easily this time and that she would end up feeling very lonely. She moved into a toddler bed a little after she turned one and loves it! We are potty training now, very slowly, and she is taking to that very well. When I tell her there is a baby in Minnie's tummy she giggles, pokes my belling button and then says "wa wa wa" cuz that's what. Baby says in "the wheels in the bus". I'm enjoying my last few months with my daughter being the only hold but can't wait for her to have someone to share her childhood with. I hope your anxiety gets better about it though because I do understand.

Randa&Jerm

Seeing how excited dd1 was to meet her new baby sister was so incredible and relieved any stress I had about it. We also did the big girl bed/room transition a few months before dd2 was born and potty trained within two months of dd2 (having 2 in diapers was LAME!!). Take one change at a time and make it exciting. 

 I think it's a very important lesson to teach your children that they will not always be the center of attention and get everything they want every time.  My girls are my heart but giving dd1 a little sister was the best gift I could have given her and now that dd2 will have a little sibling too is very exciting too. 

CoreysGal

I am with some of the others in just being super excited to give my DD a little brother or sister. I do not have any siblings near my age and I am just so so happy that she is going to have that.  The transition will surely be somewhat difficult but it will be over and they will be playing together and loving on each other before you know it!

skyejo

I can't wait to be able to give DD a sibling I'm am worried about how the transition will go though.  I want to make it as smooth as possible for DD going from an only to a big sister.  Now I just have to figure out how to do that

ATMmom324

I am feeling such mixed emotions.  We are so eager for #2 and want a huge family but on the other hand I don't know how our first will be and I can't imagine loving anyone else as much as I love her.  I am also feeling really sad because I wanted to BF her until she self weaned but I just don't think I have it in me to tandem nurse if need be.  I am considering weaning her in a month and half when she turns 1 just because I am so exhausted.  I feel like I am already putting new babies needs before her and feel like crud because of it.

clussyK

I honestly wasn't even sure that I wanted to have a 2nd (though MH insisted I'd change my mind) because our little one now is just the center of my universe and I can't imagine loving anyone else as much as I love her but this surprise pregnancy came around and now I'm very excited. I think this is best to force me to share her more with MH as well (seriously, I am a puddle of drool around her and tend to hog her time up) and for her to bond with her Daddy more while I'm wrapping up this pregnancy and then BF'ing her little sibling. In the end, I know this is going to be as wonderful for her as it is for us.

pamiva1

I have a 4 yo, an 18 month old and am pregnant with #3. I think each new baby is a blessing to the ones you already have. Sure, it may  mean less time that you have with each one, but I can say from experience that there is an amazing bond between siblings that more than makes up for any less attention they get from parents. Everything is going to be fine! Congrats

Mrs_Bennett

I totally understand how you're feeling!!  I've been feeling the exact same things, but I keep reminding myself that (IMO) a sibling is one of the best gifts a child can receive.  I know it will be hard, but I think it's best that we're having #2 early enough that DS will not remember being an only child.  We have a lot of transitions that we'd like to make with DS before the baby is born (the biggest being moving him to his own bedroom), and we're starting to slowly work on them already.  I think that 8 months is a long time (especially to a kid!), and you'll have plenty of time to work on transitions at his own pace before the baby comes.  If something doesn't get done in time--not a huge deal!

Good luck, Momma!