Babies: 0 - 3 Months

H driving me friggin crazy

wants me to let dean cry for a while before i go in and check on him.  he agrees that baby needs to be checked for wet diaper/hunger.. but if we put him down for a nap and he starts to cry he keeps giving me shiit for wanting to comfort him.  it is making me MAD and hateful toward H.  anyone else run into this?

Re: H driving me friggin crazy

  • show him in the NUMEROUS baby books where it says that newborns don't have the ability to "self soothe"

    It's crappy that he's giving you a hard time, but maybe he just has the wrong impression about newborns?

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  • I would tell him that you're the mommy so he needs to back off when you make a decision.
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  • No.  My DH doesn't want K to ever even fuss.  I mean, he can't comfort her any, but if she's fussing any at all, he runs her straight to me.

    Open up a post about Babywise/CIO tomorrrow when more people are on and let your H read the responses.  Tell him 3 week old babies only cry because they NEED something, even if it's just to be cuddled.

  • yes!! my hubby got super crazy this week and said that the house was dirty etc and that i would have more time to do things around the house if i let DD cry it out....per his sister's advice.... (im so mad at his sister....yeah, i would have a clean house if i had a maid like she does!)  so yeah, i tried that today and he freaked out....he was running towards her and helping me out more....maybe its a good thing i tried it so he can see how hard it is to let them cry it out.....gggrrrr

     

     

  • Tell your DH that DC is way too young to cry it out.  At that age, all they want is the closeness of their parents.  If he doesn't believe you, maybe bring it up ah the next pedi appt.  I'm sure they'd back you up.
  • I still have to remind DH that babies can't be spoiled before 6 months. They need to be soothed and reassured that you are there for them. I'll let DS grunt for a while, sometimes she'll go back to sleep but if she cries I'm getting up to check on her. Usually she only needs to be picked up and rocked for 30 seconds and she's out cold. Other times she need to eat, and babies main job is growing so I never deprive her of food. Don't worry about sleep training until she's 6 months, until then you follow her lead. GL!
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    yes!! my hubby got super crazy this week and said that the house was dirty etc and that i would have more time to do things around the house if i let DD cry it out....per his sister's advice.... (im so mad at his sister....yeah, i would have a clean house if i had a maid like she does!)  so yeah, i tried that today and he freaked out....he was running towards her and helping me out more....maybe its a good thing i tried it so he can see how hard it is to let them cry it out.....gggrrrr

    Wow, I'd be pissed if my DH acted like this.  I hope he did see how hard it is!

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  • um, no. i would be mad and hateful too. sucks that he has that attitude. he definitely needs to be educated in infant care.
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    imagecalicoast:

    yes!! my hubby got super crazy this week and said that the house was dirty etc and that i would have more time to do things around the house if i let DD cry it out....per his sister's advice.... (im so mad at his sister....yeah, i would have a clean house if i had a maid like she does!)  so yeah, i tried that today and he freaked out....he was running towards her and helping me out more....maybe its a good thing i tried it so he can see how hard it is to let them cry it out.....gggrrrr

    Wow, I'd be pissed if my DH acted like this.  I hope he did see how hard it is!

     

    He did see it.... he was thanking me a lot today and totally taking care of DD more....it was great! But i felt like crap all day because i didn't hang out with my DD too much like i usually do....I think DH learned his lesson, i'll go back to normal tomorrow! :) 

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