Normal emotions or baby blues?

Redsoxchick

I've been so nervous/anxious since LO was born Sunday. My birth expirience was tough, 31 hours of labor, infection from water breaking causing a fever, 3 hours of pushing, c section and then in recovery I hemorrhaged. So recovery has been tough and I'm constantly worried about doing something wrong with LO and not being a good mom etc. I cry from time to time out of nowhere. Overall I'm happy, I love LO and my DH has been amazing. I just want to feel myself again...I want to feel less stressed/more confident. Are these feelings normal for a ftm?

EveryNameIWantIsTaken

With both my kids I felt way too emotional and broke down so easily for about 3 weeks or so after they were born.  With ds, I was probably bordering ppd but it eventually turned around.  I only realize that because this time I haven't had the emotions of wanting to just run away and wondering why on earth we had a child.  For the first bit it's totally normal to be like that, but if you are concerned you can always call your doctor and talk with them about it.  Since you've had a c-section you'll have a 2 week appointment and that could be a good time to bring it up if you're still feeling overwhelmed.

StephyMarie

I felt the same way. I was crying a lot of the day. I'm still very worried about my LO.  At about 2 and a half weeks my emotions began to turn around. I'm feeling better now but DH seems to still be worried about me. He thinks I'm still down. I would say keep an eye on it and mention it to your doctor but I think it is normal for a ftm.

hlc820

Totally. Normal!  I also had loooong labor and three hrs pushing and LO wound up in NICU. I had an episiotomy and at home I didn't feel better about LO until my body started to feel better. It takes a bit for our minds to be ok with a 360 degree life change. I felt it sucked. I don't want to relive the first few weeks. I'd say after four weeks each day got better. I'll be 6 weeks PP Monday and things are a bit easier. I hated everyone saying it gets better but it's so true. It does so hang in there. I crud every day many times a day. 

Cinamom

It is completely normal. For me it was this insane amount of love and I expressed it by crying. I couldn't talk about DS without crying. I was also anxious about something going wrong. It got better after two weeks.

MesmrEwe

Totally normal!!!  Remember, you just went from producing another human being and the sheer hormonal adjustment you're going through right now is huge!!!  Plus you're healing up from major surgery...  Cut yourself some slack and know that things will turn out just fine!  Your parenting skills and abilities aren't judged by the first weeks where it's just about getting through the day/night!!

Lena122

It sounds normal to me. I think I cried every day that first week for various reasons. One time I cried and DH begged me to tell him what was wrong but I had no idea why I was even crying. My birth experience was not nearly as traumatic as yours but it was traumatic to me as it was probably the most intense/painful/emotional experience of my life. Every time I closed my eyes for the first week or so I kept reimagining the whole labor and delivery.

I think your body just needs time did the hormones to adjust. If you still have these feelings in a few weeks you may want to tell your OB. 

xraychick07

Definitely normal!! I cried all the time but I was so happy! I would just look at her and start crying just because I loved her so much. DH thought I was going insane  

Good luck with recovery, you sure did have a rough time! I couldn't imagine..... 

VMichonski

MesmrEwe:

Totally normal!!!  Remember, you just went from producing another human being and the sheer hormonal adjustment you're going through right now is huge!!!  Plus you're healing up from major surgery...  Cut yourself some slack and know that things will turn out just fine!  Your parenting skills and abilities aren't judged by the first weeks where it's just about getting through the day/night!!

Exactly this!

yellowtulips80

My first delivery went a lot like yours.  I was also a big emotional mess but instead of crying I was angry all the time....I lost a lot of blood, pushed four hours, and after having my second child, I'm certain that I had ppd. I tried to do everything by the book and be the perfect mom which didn't help matters and stressed me out even more. 

Delivery with my second child was a totally different experience and I feel a lot more emotionally stable.  Sure, I cry here and there and snap at DH.  But it isn't the deep resent, anger, and sadness I had with my first.  If you are feeling that way, be sure to get help.  Some tears are ok.  But if you find that you can't function or think straight you should seek out help.

When in doubt ask for help.  Don't wait around for things to get worse.