UPDATE to "need some advice here"

pumpkinwife07

First, I'd like to say thanks for all of the advice. Clearly, I'm not DH's mother, but I do believe in checking in with a spouse before doing anything outside of the norm. Like I said because of his work schedule, I do all of the heavy-lifting at home in the evening and the thought of him getting out of work early and not even thinking about coming home to help really p%^^$% me off.

To those wondering I have a toddler and I'm pregnant. So of course I'm a bit emotional, moody, and sick. All of which can easily contribute to getting worked up, angry, etc.

I think he knew I was hurt. He came home a bit early last night and immediatly took over with LO. I never asked him to help (which is a bit) rare. While he was giving LO a bath. I decided not to even bring it up. He knows that I know he went out and that clearly I didn't think it was okay to not even call. No need to start a huge arguement over it.

Thanks again!

NewStepMom2ndBride

Yay for no fighting!

However, I would still recommend letting him know that you're *only* upset that he didn't let you know, NOT that he went out.

Also, I would definitely talk to him about you getting a night out every once in a while as well. Since you're not feeling well, your night could always be trashy TV or a long bubble bath.

:-)

EastCoastBride

NewStepMom2ndBride:

However, I would still recommend letting him know that you're *only* upset that he didn't let you know, NOT that he went out.

This.