The men in my life surprised me

Heatherhah

Just when I thought I was the only one depressed about our Sydney dying DH sends me a text with a picture of her and said " I miss her so much". Then last night I was watching Tv the Tori and Dean home sweet hollywood season finale and they had their baby girl right around the same time that Sydney died and I sat there crying so much,  then my DS comes up behind me and kisses my shoulder and hugged me for 5 minutes. I guess they do remember her they just don't talk about her like I do. They are awesome!

Side note - I know they remember her but I am honestly  the only one talking about her every single day. I miss my baby girl she would be so big right now.

Heather 

 

magdalina.h

MH doesn't show his emotions, but every once in awhile I'll look over and see him staring at Aidan's pictures on our mantle. It melts my heart that he loves him so much and has his own way of remembering him.

pottermommy

I am glad you are seeing how she affected them too.  Sometimes we forget that just because we show it different doesn't mean they don't feel the same.

Huge hugs to you!

johnnys june

Men grieve so silently.  And they like it that way.  My DH rarely mentions Logan, but he never doesn't let me talk about him.  And every now and then he'll mention "I stopped by to see the boys today" (his brother and our son are buried next to each other).  Or he'll have a "quiet day" and I just know it's because he misses Logan.

*hugs*  Women and men are so different in their grief.  And that's ok.

pb127

Your DH and DS are so sweet~ Sometimes it takes smaller reminders like this for me too that other people also miss our little ones, even if they don't mention it all the time. (((hugs)))

may2806

I agree with pp that men grieve silently. I didn't realize how much my DH was grieving until he started his blog about a month after we lost Samantha. Then on Christmas Eve, we were in Florida with family, and my DH sort of just disappeared. I found him on the beach alone, drunk and bawling his eyes out. When I asked him what was wrong he said, 'My daughter's f-ing dead!' and later I saw that he had posted on FB 'Daddy loves and misses you Samantha'. I had never seen him melt down like that and it shocked me. 

But in general I feel like I want to talk about it so much more than he does. I know he's just dealing with it differently.