Newbie with baby fever!

dresthelpless

I am new to the boards here but an avid knotie a little over a year ago. Yup, my hubby and I just celebrated our one year wedding anniversary in November 2011! And man, lemme tell ya...the baby fever has never been worse!!

When we were sitting at dinner the night of our anniversary we finally started to talk about setting a time frame for TTC. We have been together for 6 years and even before we started dating we talked about how we wanted a family. I am 25 and he is 29.  He is currently working on his Masters degree and wont graduate until December 2012. I had the idea in my mind that we would have to wait until at least then to start trying. Our ultimate goal is to allow me to be a stay at home mom for the first year (currenly I have three jobs and he has two on top of school). But of course in order to do that he has to secure a better paying job. During our talk I made sure to point out that getting pregnant is a process and will take time. It could take a month or years....only God knows! But even so...I would carry the child for 9 months so why not start trying sooner? To my surprise my husband said we could start in August! Even if we get pregnant right away I wouldnt even be due until June 2013 which would give him 6 months to find a better job. I am super excited and literally counting down the months! Not to mention I am being a good girl and started taking my prenatals and had a chat with my gyno. Hoping to shed a few pounds as well.  I have been on the Nuva ring for about 6 years. Going to take that out in July. Anyone else used Nuva ring and now TTC?

But I must admit (like many of you were/are I am sure) that I am REALLY nervous about our fertility. I am so scared of being the couple that "can't conceive." I have seen SO MANY women around me recently (friends, family, co-workers) getting pregnant that I can't help but fear that we won't have the same kind of luck.  I know the best thing to do is sit back and relax, letting nature take its course and "NOT try" but how can you NOT think about it?

Thoughts? Advice?

Thanks!

BellaLux

Welcome! This is indeed a very exciting time for you and DH! You are off to a great start - prenatals, chat with gyno; in addition I would recommend checking out the newbie link, lurk, fertility friend to learn the basics of conveiving, as well as charting if you plan to remove nuva ring sooner!

You will find a lot of great information here and be a pro by August:-)! Good luck!

D&J2008

I would definitely agree with the PP that there are things you can do that may help when you get closer to August and your first TTC months.  

I would recommend losing the Nuva Ring maybe 3-4 months before you are wanting to TTC.  That will give your body time to adjust being off BC and you can start charting on FF so that by the time you are ready to go, you will know A LOT more about your own cycles. For me, I didn't start charting until month 2 of TTC and I wish I would have started a little sooner. Now, 3 months in, I have a pretty good idea of my cycle, my O-date each month and the length of my LP (If you don't know what all of that means, its OK...just lurk on the board a little longer and it will all make sense).

My best piece of advice is not to obsess over it.  Start doing some other fun things to keep your mind off of it.  8 months is a long time and you will probably kick yourself later when you realize that you didn't enjoy your time with your husband, friends and family when you had it. Have fun "practicing"

 

Twinkie0612

I do have a little advice...

First, while it is very exciting to have a date set to begin the TTC process, don't get too obsessed.  You can run the risk of driving yourself and those around you crazy (I know this is probably easier said than done ).  It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive, so try to relax and enjoy your time with DH.

Second, I would use the next few months to do some financial planning.  Make a budget, look into the cost of delivery, the cost of adding a baby to your insurance, how much a baby will cost per month (formula, diapers, doctors visits etc.).  I know you are allowing 6 months for him to find a new job, but what if he can't find one that quickly?  What if the baby comes early?  If he can't find a job that allows you to stay home, what will be your daycare plans?  How much would daycare cost?  I would make sure I can afford all of the baby related costs on your current income, because you don't know what will happen in the future.  Also I would take the next few months to save money and pay down all the debt I can.

My last piece of advice is to look into temping and OPKs.  You may want to consider using these tools to help with the TTC process.  They can help you detect and confirm ovulation, which can help you make sure you are timing sex correctly.  The newbie link has great info (top of the page) and Fertility Friend is also a great site.  FF makes charting easy and has great tutorials.  You can check it out by clicking on my ticker.

Welcome and GL.

BurgHeaven

Congrats on setting a time frame for TTC. I would suggest stopping the Nuva Ring a couple of months before you try and conceive. Some women have trouble getting their cycle normal after BC so this would give you some time to see how your body reacts. I stopped my BC in September even though we weren't planning on TTC until January. DH just used condoms during that time.

GrangerWifey

Welcome to the board! My best piece of advice would be to start charting now using Fertility Friend so once you're ready to TTC in August, you'll have a good idea of your body's cycles. Invest in a good BBT and spend some time getting to know your body's rhythm.

And like PP's have said, since it's 6 more months before you start TTC, try not to let it take all of your focus. Enjoy your time together as a twosome without the stress of TTC GL!

heather4hawks

Twinkie0612:

I do have a little advice...

First, while it is very exciting to have a date set to begin the TTC process, don't get too obsessed.  You can run the risk of driving yourself and those around you crazy (I know this is probably easier said than done ).  It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive, so try to relax and enjoy your time with DH.

Second, I would use the next few months to do some financial planning.  Make a budget, look into the cost of delivery, the cost of adding a baby to your insurance, how much a baby will cost per month (formula, diapers, doctors visits etc.).  I know you are allowing 6 months for him to find a new job, but what if he can't find one that quickly?  What if the baby comes early?  If he can't find a job that allows you to stay home, what will be your daycare plans?  How much would daycare cost?  I would make sure I can afford all of the baby related costs on your current income, because you don't know what will happen in the future.  Also I would take the next few months to save money and pay down all the debt I can.

My last piece of advice is to look into temping and OPKs.  You may want to consider using these tools to help with the TTC process.  They can help you detect and confirm ovulation, which can help you make sure you are timing sex correctly.  The newbie link has great info (top of the page) and Fertility Friend is also a great site.  FF makes charting easy and has great tutorials.  You can check it out by clicking on my ticker.

Welcome and GL.

 

I agree with Twinkie about the budgeting. Babies are incredibly expensive, especially if you end up having to pay for daycare. DH and I looked into this when trying to figure out when to TTC and were shocked that daycare for an infant in our area runs around $1200 a month! If we hadn't done our research and started TTC earlier, we would have been in a bad situation financially. The last thing we want to worry about when caring for our first baby is if we have the money.

Indynurse12

I don't have any better advice than what has already been given, but wanted to say welcome and good luck! It's an exciting time for sure and once it's on your mind, it's almost impossible to get it out : )

kelly321

Welcome and good luck!

blp0118

I hear you sister!

My DH and I were together 7 years before we got engaged, and now have been married for over 3 years. - I am 25 and he is 27 and we talked about starting TTC about a year before we actually did. I was excited too, and I had baby fever like crazy!  --- I still do.

We have really only been TTC for a couple cycles now, and it can get a little stressful, especially when you are overly-excited like I was. I can't tell you to not do that, cause I wish I knew how. I don't think it's possible.

I can't tell you anything better than was pp have already said. But it is nice to have the support on this board from a bunch of wonderful ladies that know exactly how you feel! -

Some days are better than other, and some cycles are better than others.  Remember it's a journey and to enjoy the ride (something I have to remind myself of often) -

GL!

OCfish82

Welcome. GL to you come August

kerryann22

Indynurse12:

I don't have any better advice than what has already been given, but wanted to say welcome and good luck! It's an exciting time for sure and once it's on your mind, it's almost impossible to get it out : )

I definitely 2nd this. I occasionally feel like I am taking crazy pills!

Welcome & Good Luck! 

ChevelleRivers

Welcome!

 I agree with other posters that you may want to quit birth control sooner than later so that your body has time to regulate itself again. 

 Good luck!

cynthiar2003

D&J2008:

I would recommend losing the Nuva Ring maybe 3-4 months before you are wanting to TTC.  That will give your body time to adjust being off BC and you can start charting on FF so that by the time you are ready to go, you will know A LOT more about your own cycles.  

This. Good luck!