Is it weird?

rosij7 · January 2012

Hi everyone, well I'm 17 wks along, and its still surreal. I guess it wont hit me until im huge. eventhough my pants dont zip anymore and i just bought a maternity pant. Anyway i was Wondering, If i'm weird or just selfish. The thing is that i dont want any of my Family members at the hospital. well to be honest its my husbands family. my family lives in Tx. i just feel that if they go is only becasue they are feeling obligated to do so. when my husbands sister in law had her baby last august he went and took me with him (we wernt married yet) to see them, only becasue he felt obligated to do so out of respect and becasue it was his brothers baby. Thats the issue that i havethough, i dont want anybody to feel obligated to go to the hospital. i would prefer just to be us two. i know that if it was my family, they wouldnt feel that way. and i feel horrible i guess becasue i feel lonely sometimes, eventhough I'm happily married. I get along just fine with the sister in law, im just not close to her.

What do you Ladies Think?

Rosa

Chellezy · February 2012

I dont think your weird of selfish! You sound like a perfectly logical person to me, stuck in a surreal state because it simple is an amazing thing thats happening and we all need time to just come around to it. Maybe wait for it to be "real" when baby kicks, or maybe it wont be "real" until baby is in your arms. Eighter way, I would talk to family members about how your feeling and your suggestions, its a step closer to having the experience You want.

You sound just like me. Read my post, its right above yours
You are not alone in your feelings!

Good Luck!

AmberMH08 · February 2012

not wierd im not close with my dh family his mom is nutcase..the rest just not close at all im sure they will show up but this time i chose a hospital 1hr from me 2hrs for them so they will probably only make 1 trip if that and stay a few min just 2 see LO..most ppl are curious about babies and just want to see them so you will probably see them

dreambig527 · February 2012

i don't know. I don't want any family there while the whole birth process is going on- and i know one member of his family in particular tends to overstay his welcome and get very intrusive in my eyes- so I'm a little nervous about him being there. BUT I like the idea of them coming to visit to see the baby the next day.

Taryn M · February 2012

Not weird or selfish at all! With my first pregnancy I didn't want anyone there but allowed them to be anyway because i was like you, didn't want to come off as selfish. You know what? I totally regret it now. The whole time I was worried about people having to wait in the waiting room forever. Also, when DD came out they came and "got the family for me" which meant I didn't even get a minute to enjoy her before everyone rushed in. This time our famioly is still coming into town but staying at our house/a relatives house until we call them and tell them it's okay to come.