What do you call your MIL?

MrsDe2008

Assuming you like her. lol

When DH and I were getting married my MIL said "You can call me mom.". I politely told her that I wasn't comfortable calling her mom because my mom is still alive and I don't want to be disrespectful, but now that I think about it, it really isn't disrespecting my mom, but respecting my MIL. Anyway, it's not like I have been sitting around dwelling on it for the last 4 years, just wondering what others do. ooh, also...through the last 4 years, MIL would always sign cards "Mom and then her name". I kind of feel bad now. =/

OhSewCrafty

I call her by her first name. She has never offered for me to call her Mom, but I wouldn't anyway. My mother passed away several years ago and I wouldn't feel comfortable calling someone else Mom - regardless of who they are.

rainydayluck

Nothing. I completely avoid refering to her by anything. I usually just start talking at her. It's embarrassing because I know she knows. DH and I have been together for 10 years and I have done this since the beginning.

bumpuser260585

I call her by her name. I think she would like me to call her mom, but I don't plan on ever doing it. My grandma (dad's mom) insists on my mom calling her "mom." It is very hard on my mom because her own mom passed away 25 years ago. Strangly though, I call dh's grandparents grandma and grandpa. I think I do that because I feel disrespectful calling them by their first names, but Mrs So and so is too formal.

jarebearsmom

I call her by her first name. She never offered for me to call her mom so it would seem to weird for me to do it. DH never met his grandparents so he called my grandfather "Papa" like I did simply because he had never had one and he was really close to him.

MrsDe2008

SpitsNGiggles:

I call her by her name. I think she would like me to call her mom, but I don't plan on ever doing it. My grandma (dad's mom) insists on my mom calling her "mom." It is very hard on my mom because her own mom passed away 25 years ago. Strangly though, I call dh's grandparents grandma and grandpa. I think I do that because I feel disrespectful calling them by their first names, but Mrs So and so is too formal.

My mom also called my dad's mom "mom" for years (they don't speak anymore), but she too lost her mom at a young age and was kind of forced into calling his mom "mom". I think it's because my parents were very young when they married and she felt intimidated by her. Like I said earlier, I don't want to be disrespectful to DH's mom, but I don't want my mom ever to feel disrespected because of it...KWIM?

jillybean800

Alice. Which is weird, because her name is Stephanie.

hee hee jk.

dee12807

to her face?  Lol... I call her mom generally.  11 months after my wedding my family was in Dominican republic for my sister's wedding and my ILs went also - they're great people who love a good party!  Anyway, we were there and my mom was telling MH and BIL they can call her mom if they want to, so I took the opportunity to talk to MIL about me and her - she was so excited for me to call her mom, and my mom was there and happy too, so I felt like I was lucky to have that conversation...

jarebearsmom

jillybean800:

Alice. Which is weird, because her name is Stephanie.

hee hee jk.

Ha Ha! 

lrn327

dee12807:

to her face?  Lol... I call her mom generally.  11 months after my wedding my family was in Dominican republic for my sister's wedding and my ILs went also - they're great people who love a good party!  Anyway, we were there and my mom was telling MH and BIL they can call her mom if they want to, so I took the opportunity to talk to MIL about me and her - she was so excited for me to call her mom, and my mom was there and happy too, so I felt like I was lucky to have that conversation...

Ahh, that's really nice that everyone is so cool with it!

I call her by her first name.  DH and I have been together for a looong time (since HS) and it was kind of weird back then.  I think I called them Mr. and Mrs. "Mr. lrn327" (ha ha!).  I only started calling them by their first names sometime when I was in college and DH and I got engaged. 

TMNTgirl

I call her by her first name.

 

OhSewCrafty

jillybean800:

Alice. Which is weird, because her name is Stephanie.

hee hee jk.

Ba-zing! Hahaha 

tiffanyp

Usually I call her Janice, even though she would love it if I called her mom. I do usually address cards and emails to her as mom. 

stephy1221

I call her by her first name but at times will call or refer to her as mom. For example if my fil is teasing her I will jokingly say something like"Ma, you going to take that from him?"

chickaboo1974

My MIL and FIL are both deceased.  I never met FIL- but MIL when she was alive I called her by her first name- after we were married.  Before we were married I called her Mrs. Lastname.  A little old fashioned - yes but she was of the generation that you did that- so I did.

Ltlsktl30

OhSewCrafty:

I call her by her first name. She has never offered for me to call her Mom, but I wouldn't anyway. My mother passed away several years ago and I wouldn't feel comfortable calling someone else Mom - regardless of who they are.

...     this exactly

amberleeb

Her first name Jan or Grandma Jan.

[Deleted User]

I usually call her "that drunk b!tch" or some version of that.  To her face I either call her Joyce or "hi" for short. I don't particularly care for that woman.  She's a real prize. 

Mommysaurus123

I call my IL's "Madre" and "Padre" to their faces... only because I apparently don't say my FIL's name correctly. I sometimes call them "Millie" and "Phil" (get it? MIL and FIL?)

On cards and stuff, from both of us, I write "Mom and Dad," since they are from DH and he obviously wouldn't call them by their first names.

If I'm talking about them with anyone else (SIL, my parents, etc) I call them by their first names.

lswivel

jillybean800:

Alice. Which is weird, because her name is Stephanie.

hee hee jk.

 

FTW!

And I call MIL by her first name. 

Cheekers2010

TMNTgirl:

I call her by her first name.

 

Yep!

Five Months to Plan

To her and with DH's family. I call her mom. When I am speaking to about someone else, I call her by her first name. I cal FIL, dad also. When we were first married I was not really in contact with my parents for a few years, but now that we are and both parents have been in the same room for birthday etc. I sometimes slip up becuase I feel like I can not call her mom with my mom in the room. DH calls my parents by what DD call's them.  

JLSmith124

I call her Marie, but most of the time I actually say Grammy because we are trying to get Aaron to learn to say it

xxbabycakesxx

I usef to call her by her first name but after we got married she told me to call her mom.  I'm so not comfortable with that and too chicken to tell her so TBH I haven't called her anything for the past 2 years!  

mayanut

This is the wonderful thing about having kids.  Now I can just call her Grammie and she loves it.  I also never felt comfortable calling her Mom, since we had only met a handful of times.  (They live on the opposite coast).  So before LO, I would call her by her first name or avoid it entirely.  I would also refer to her as "DH's Mom" when talking to others.

Having the baby cleared it all away. Yea!

mrslucid

Kellog+1:

TMNTgirl:

I call her by her first name.

 

Yep!

Ditto

PGASTL

No way would I ever call MIL "Mom". She's not my mom! I use her first name - that's how we were introduced so it makes sense. It would feel so weird if LO ever called another woman "Mom."

My dad passed away almost 10 years ago and I can't imagine calling FIL "Dad" either.

I will refer to her as "Grandma" when LO is around, but would feel so weird calling her "Mom."

 

EVM1216

I am so relieved that I can get away with just calling her grandma now.  When I've had to I have called her by her first name, I just can't call her mom.  It's better for her anyway because I have alot of baggage with the woman I call mom.  Since we've been married MIL always signs cards and xmas presents from "mom and dad EVM" so I think they want to be called mom and dad, but it's just too weird.

lulu8109

I try to avoid calling her anything.  DH said she would love if I call her "Ma," but I do not feel right calling her any variation of "Mom."  Now that we have C, if I have to, I'll refer to her grandma.

My sister calls her ILs "Mom" and "Dad" which is what we call our parents and I find it soooo weird and so does DH.

lilmgirl

I call her by her first name.  She never asked/offered to call her mom and I wouldn't feel comfortable with it.

desertlady86

I call her by her first name and always will. She is far from my mom!

heyitsme

Mae, which is mom in Portuguese (DH is from Brazil).

Rink08

I just start talking. DH and I met when I was 15 and started dating as soon as I turned 16. If I do have to call her something, I say Mrs. Lastname. I'm not comfortable calling her anything else.

bosha711

I avoid having to address her by name at all costs out of some irrational fear I have. But, when I must, I call her by her first name.

GeauxTigers82

I call mine Mrs. Chavez. She has never offered for me to call her something else, so I guess that says it all. My DH calls my parents Mr. and Mrs. also, but they always tell him to call them something less formal! I think it's just because we've known each other since high school, so 15 years later, it's hard to change that!