As a teacher being due in June, I will probably be able to finish out this school year. I would love to be able to stay home with LO, and not return to work in September. I really do not like my job, and today especially I began to really second guess if I want to return. Long story short, I have hall duty during dismissal, and a fight started and one of the students was pushed into me. I was not hurt, it just scared me more than anything.
So the way I see it, I have 3 options:
1. Take the 12 weeks FMLA and return to work later in the fall.
2. Stay at home and watch an additional child, but I would have to make between $400-$450/week in order for DH and I to make it work.
3. Stay at home and watch 2 additional children, which would probably bring in the income I need. I have been a nanny for 3 kids before, and I did love it. But I know it would not be the same with 2 children and my own.
Any thoughts or insight would be appreciated, as I truly have no idea what route to take.
Re: Torn Between Returning to Work and Being a SAHM
Elonah [3], Bentley [1]
It's interesting that you're a teacher and considering leaving your job for family reasons. I'm actually thinking of going back to school to get my master's and get certified to teach so I can have summers/holidays off with the family and earn double the salary I'm getting now. Funny how there's always two sides to every coin.
Do you truly hate teaching or just your current school? Would switching to a different school or area help?
I actually really love teaching. The school I am currently working at is the problem. Things are starting to fall apart, and a lot of people are leaving for various reasons. Plus, the pay is not good and it is looking like we will be getting pay freezes for the second year in a row. Unfortunately, where I live a lot of schools are not hiring, and the city district and a bunch of private schools recently laid off a ton of people. So finding a new job is not likely at this point.
My heart is set on staying home, but I know I need to do the most responsible thing financially.
I completely understand how you feel. I'm a teacher who decided to stay home after the birth of my DD ... I was laid off mid-year so the decision was kind of made for me, but I didn't seek work after she was born.
Have you considered returning to work late after taking FMLA and then possibly getting an MA in something that would allow you to leave the classroom setting? (Administration, Media Specialization/ Librarian, Counselor, or even a completely unrelated field)? This is the route I have chosen because I, too, was shoved in the gut during my last pregnancy... on purpose, though. I told a student to go to the office instead of walking towards a girl she planned to fight... she got me out of the way knowing I was pg. It's not the only reason I wanted out of the classroom setting but it was a contributing factor. I'm getting an MA in School Counseling and will keep the same hours and schedule as I had before, so that's nice.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do, I know how hard the choice can be.
I didn't make the decision until after DD was born that I wouldn't return in the fall. I did go back to work for a year when DD was 1-2 years old.
Something to think about: I don't know how many sick days you have saved up, but between DH and I, him being at school (graduate/residency program) was more important than me being at school. The getting called in the middle of the class and having an hour to find a sub and get DD when she got sick at school was hard. I've always felt getting a sub is more work than being at school, so that work was grating on me as well. I am back at home with DD now.