Yes... I'm Being THAT Girl! Cramps, Discharge - UGH!

tarasue21dg

This is a Could I Be? .... questions.

As some of you may remember, I am very new to  The Bump and TTC.  My husband and I decided we were going to, as one poster put it, "pull the goalie and see what happened."

I have very irregular periods (and am considering trying this charting thing) ... but staying on topic...

Last Saturday (21st) my husband and I had sex, and for the time... ahem... "removed the goalie from the situation".  I did not think much of it - it was the first time!  By Wednesday night/Thursday morning I was having my normal period cramps that I get 24 hours before my period.  My period never came... in fact it still has not visited but this afternoon I noticed a dark brown discharge.  I have had this before but always after my period. I still have period type cramping. 

 I am trying not to stress but I don't know what's going on "down there".  And I can't help but think... did it only take one time? Could I Be?!?! 

I am very hush hush about this to my husband... I certainly don't want to freak him out or excite him for no reason so it feels kind of good to throw this out into cyber space and know that other women are going through the: Could I? What if? Is this normal? with me.

Thanks for listening ladies - and, if you have thoughts on this - I'd love to hear em!

bunnymay

Oceanbabe2012

Do you even know when you ovulated?

Ladylec

tarasue21dg:

This is a Could I Be? .... questions.

As some of you may remember, I am very new to  The Bump and TTC.  My husband and I decided we were going to, as one poster put it, "pull the goalie and see what happened."

I have very irregular periods (and am considering trying this charting thing) ... but staying on topic...

Last Saturday (21st) my husband and I had sex, and for the time... ahem... "removed the goalie from the situation".  I did not think much of it - it was the first time!  By Wednesday night/Thursday morning I was having my normal period cramps that I get 24 hours before my period.  My period never came... in fact it still has not visited but this afternoon I noticed a dark brown discharge.  I have had this before but always after my period. I still have period type cramping. 

 I am trying not to stress but I don't know what's going on "down there".  And I can't help but think... did it only take one time? Could I Be?!?! 

I am very hush hush about this to my husband... I certainly don't want to freak him out or excite him for no reason so it feels kind of good to throw this out into cyber space and know that other women are going through the: Could I? What if? Is this normal? with me.

Thanks for listening ladies - and, if you have thoughts on this - I'd love to hear em!

We are all adults and on a TTC board you do not need to use stupid metaphors. 

You can say you had sex to TTC.....and.....vagina.

We cannot tell you if you are pregnant. Only a test can. So take a test.

shellb1978

I really don't see this going over well.

RequiresExalted

jonesdouglas

If you think your pg then take a test. Also, even if you are pregnant it's still a little early for symptoms.

Ashbear2

I think you are being silly.

1. You dont even know if you ovulated. So, get educated about your body.

2. Stop talking like a 7th grader; we are big girls.

3. We arent going to gratify you with "OMG youre preggers" comments. Your husband should be your #1 confidante in TTC before anything else, so talk to him. 

4. It takes a typical couple up to a year to conceive. The chances of your conceiving after one random act of intercourse is astronomical; otherwise, there wouldnt be a TTC board.

MrsFelts

bunnymay:

I love your siggy! I could watch that bunny pole dance forever.

Shayliz

tarasue21dg:

This is a Could I Be? .... questions.

As some of you may remember, I am very new to  The Bump and TTC.  My husband and I decided we were going to, as one poster put it, "pull the goalie and see what happened."

I have very irregular periods (and am considering trying this charting thing) ... but staying on topic...

Last Saturday (21st) my husband and I had sex, and for the time... ahem... "removed the goalie from the situation".  I did not think much of it - it was the first time!  By Wednesday night/Thursday morning I was having my normal period cramps that I get 24 hours before my period.  My period never came... in fact it still has not visited but this afternoon I noticed a dark brown discharge.  I have had this before but always after my period. I still have period type cramping. 

 I am trying not to stress but I don't know what's going on "down there".  And I can't help but think... did it only take one time? Could I Be?!?! 

I am very hush hush about this to my husband... I certainly don't want to freak him out or excite him for no reason so it feels kind of good to throw this out into cyber space and know that other women are going through the: Could I? What if? Is this normal? with me.

Thanks for listening ladies - and, if you have thoughts on this - I'd love to hear em!

#1 - It's sex.

#2 You should learn a bit more about your body and chart your temps. If you think you're pregnant - take a test.

angi3b8a

Hi Tarasue, 

  When was your LMP? and when is it due?

I wouldnt say its impossible to be pregnant from one time. Hooray for you if you are I would not get my hopes to high up...just in case. If you have a gut feeling I would take a test. 

Best of luck to you.  

tarasue21dg

I wasn't hoping for a "OMG your preggers!" and I certainly wasn't trying to talk like a 7th grader.

I really thought my post seemed more of a ... This whole ttc can get a little overwhelming with the Could I? Maybe? Did it happen? type thing.  In addition to... something new happened to my body and I don't know what it means.

I am NEW... I am trying to learn from these boards.  Instead of a "Hey, I've had that feeling before!" I am instantly attacked as are lots of other new posters who are seeking support and answers.

Instead of making women feel embarrassed, alone in their feelings and downright dumb. Please don't say anything. 

As this is my second post (The first took a lot of courage for me to write) - I have learned my lesson and will seek other sources of getting information and support so as to not annoy, bother or make seasoned posters feel as if they wasting their time.

Good luck ladies and may you all be treated with respect and not be made to feel like you are an ignorant twit.

 

tarasue21dg

angi3b8a:

Hi Tarasue, 

  When was your LMP? and when is it due?

I wouldnt say its impossible to be pregnant from one time. Hooray for you if you are I would not get my hopes to high up...just in case. If you have a gut feeling I would take a test. 

Best of luck to you.  

My last period was December 15th. However, I have very irregular periods... ranging anywhere from 60-120 days between periods. I have been this way since my first period because of my being active and my doctors tell me it's "Normal" for my body.  However, I am learning that it is going to make it very difficult to chart.

Ashbear2

tarasue21dg:

angi3b8a:

Hi Tarasue, 

  When was your LMP? and when is it due?

I wouldnt say its impossible to be pregnant from one time. Hooray for you if you are I would not get my hopes to high up...just in case. If you have a gut feeling I would take a test. 

Best of luck to you.  

My last period was December 15th. However, I have very irregular periods... ranging anywhere from 60-120 days between periods. I have been this way since my first period because of my being active and my doctors tell me it's "Normal" for my body.  However, I am learning that it is going to make it very difficult to chart.

Chances are even more slim if you have such long cycles. 

bunnymay

MrsFelts:

bunnymay:

I love your siggy! I could watch that bunny pole dance forever.

 Thanks! An amazing lady ::cough:: shayliz ::cough:: gave it to me. :-)

Lelo2006

Try calling your doctor. I think it's normal to get symptoms that you might equate with pregnancy. It happens to everyone. It's possible you got pg after one time, but you should try an hpt and then start charting next cylce. Good luck!

OneHotMama89

tarasue21dg:

I wasn't hoping for a "OMG your preggers!" and I certainly wasn't trying to talk like a 7th grader.

I really thought my post seemed more of a ... This whole ttc can get a little overwhelming with the Could I? Maybe? Did it happen? type thing.  In addition to... something new happened to my body and I don't know what it means.

I am NEW... I am trying to learn from these boards.  Instead of a "Hey, I've had that feeling before!" I am instantly attacked as are lots of other new posters who are seeking support and answers.

Instead of making women feel embarrassed, alone in their feelings and downright dumb. Please don't say anything. 

As this is my second post (The first took a lot of courage for me to write) - I have learned my lesson and will seek other sources of getting information and support so as to not annoy, bother or make seasoned posters feel as if they wasting their time.

Good luck ladies and may you all be treated with respect and not be made to feel like you are an ignorant twit.

 

I don't think anyone is trying to make you feel ignorant. In fact, the ladies on this board are incredibly supportive. We get that the questions can be overwhelming, especially when you first start trying. We get the excitement of wondering if you're pregnant. We just..

1) Find it hard to believe that a woman that is actively trying to get pregnant can't say words like "unprotected sex" and "vagina".

and 

2) Know that there is absolutely no way we can tell you if you're pregnant. If someone could do that, they'd be making lots of money.

jeng507

I'm confused about the timing....OP, you said you had sex on Saturday and by Thursday (of the same week....so 5 days later) you were "late"?? Unless you have an extremely short LP (which if you have 60-120 day cycles you obviously don't have a short LP) there's no way you are pregnant.

JessaPrimate

CLECyclist:

But...If people didn't give you a reality check, you'd just keep doing silly things. Just because you're new doesn't mean you're going to get pats on the back and a face full of glittery unicorn kisses. 

Okay, just so we're clear, what exactly does a girl have to do to get some glittery unicorn kisses? 

MrsMDem

If you don't know when you ovulated then there is no way to know if by"pulling the goalie" one time you got KU. If you think you could be pregnant, pee on a stick.

ETA: added

Ax2

lalvillar06:

Try calling your doctor. I think it's normal to get symptoms that you might equate with pregnancy. It happens to everyone. It's possible you got pg after one time, but you should try an hpt and then start charting next cylce. Good luck!

PLEASE don't waste your doctor's time. If you are pregnant enough to get symptoms, you are pregnant enough to get a positive test. 

BurgHeaven

I would not recommend testing quite yet because it's a little too soon for that. I get some brown discharge before my period starts every once in a while so it might just be that. Wait a week and if you still haven't started, then test.

heather_09_15_07

tarasue21dg:

angi3b8a:

Hi Tarasue, 

  When was your LMP? and when is it due?

I wouldnt say its impossible to be pregnant from one time. Hooray for you if you are I would not get my hopes to high up...just in case. If you have a gut feeling I would take a test. 

Best of luck to you.  

My last period was December 15th. However, I have very irregular periods... ranging anywhere from 60-120 days between periods. I have been this way since my first period because of my being active and my doctors tell me it's "Normal" for my body.  However, I am learning that it is going to make it very difficult to chart.

Actually, you are a great candidate for charting, BECAUSE of your irregular cycles.

Also? I'm sure you are pregnant. Of course you are.

lycih

tarasue21dg:

I wasn't hoping for a "OMG your preggers!" and I certainly wasn't trying to talk like a 7th grader.

I really thought my post seemed more of a ... This whole ttc can get a little overwhelming with the Could I? Maybe? Did it happen? type thing.  In addition to... something new happened to my body and I don't know what it means.

I am NEW... I am trying to learn from these boards.  Instead of a "Hey, I've had that feeling before!" I am instantly attacked as are lots of other new posters who are seeking support and answers.

Instead of making women feel embarrassed, alone in their feelings and downright dumb. Please don't say anything. 

As this is my second post (The first took a lot of courage for me to write) - I have learned my lesson and will seek other sources of getting information and support so as to not annoy, bother or make seasoned posters feel as if they wasting their time.

Good luck ladies and may you all be treated with respect and not be made to feel like you are an ignorant twit.

 

I'm just wondering... if you knew you were being "that girl" enough to say so in your subject line, why are you surprised that you got replies that normally go to "that girl"? 

Regardless, if you're not pregnant this cycle, I definitely recommend charting, and reading the newbie link.  Good luck.

Mrs. Mo

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GrangerWifey

lycih:

tarasue21dg:

I wasn't hoping for a "OMG your preggers!" and I certainly wasn't trying to talk like a 7th grader.

I really thought my post seemed more of a ... This whole ttc can get a little overwhelming with the Could I? Maybe? Did it happen? type thing.  In addition to... something new happened to my body and I don't know what it means.

I am NEW... I am trying to learn from these boards.  Instead of a "Hey, I've had that feeling before!" I am instantly attacked as are lots of other new posters who are seeking support and answers.

Instead of making women feel embarrassed, alone in their feelings and downright dumb. Please don't say anything. 

As this is my second post (The first took a lot of courage for me to write) - I have learned my lesson and will seek other sources of getting information and support so as to not annoy, bother or make seasoned posters feel as if they wasting their time.

Good luck ladies and may you all be treated with respect and not be made to feel like you are an ignorant twit.

 

I'm just wondering... if you knew you were being "that girl" enough to say so in your subject line, why are you surprised that you got replies that normally go to "that girl"? 

Regardless, if you're not pregnant this cycle, I definitely recommend charting, and reading the newbie link.  Good luck.

This. You seemed aware that you were posting something that probably would not give you the feedback you were looking for. Definitely start by reading the newbie link.

There's also a search box at the top of the page that says "Search The Bump." You can enter anything you want in there and it will pull up old posts and articles that might be helpful to you.