Why is MH more tired than I am?

LauriJean_2009

He doesn't put her to bed or get up with her since I breastfeed. I'm starting to worry that he's not more energized after getting what seems to be a good night's rest. Or do Moms just have super powers?

thetheisens

You're just super mom. I think bfing a baby every hour or so at night for the first couple of months helps you appreciate stretches of sleep longer than 3 hrs. My dh is the same way sometimes when I know he got a heck of alot more sleep then I did!

LadyMadrid08

MH is constantly saying how tired he is after sleeping 7/8/9 hr stretches. His reasoning is that he was alwaays tired like this begore dd so he is still tired the same way. I always tell him at least he got to sleep more than 3/4 hours in a row but I really think he doesn't get it and can't unless he is tbe one waking up with her. He also says I can nap with her dueing the day, but I never do that. So sometimes I am annoyd with him but I always want him to get enough sleep for work the.next day so I never wake him. Plus with bf there isnt much he can do usually.

pearblossom

I think they are just whinier. MH complains too, but I know I am the tired one!

amyc216

Totally!  MH stayed home the other day when I was working at home and he took 2 naps!  He doesn't get up with LO either and I know he doesn't even hear us in the middle of the night.  I don't get it!

Sweetpea1718

DH  is the same way. He gets a minimum of 7 hours a night and I'm getting a couple of 3 hour stretches.i think they are just weak. 

I get a kick out of DH saying things like, "we are exhausted and get up with G all the time." We? What do you mean we?

LauriJean_2009

This coversation started when I said to him "If you ever want to have sex again, let me know."  To which he replied that B needed to go to bed earlier for that to happen since he becomes too exhausted for anything by 8:00 PM!!!!

B goes to bed around 9-10.  It's not like she's up until midnight.

xandb

YES. It's so frustrating - we EBF, and Constantine feeds close to every two hours much of the time, so if I ever get 3-hour stretches at night, it feels like a blessing. Plus he's super-hard to put back to sleep, so I'm sitting up freezing and rocking him. Oh, and I'm the one getting up for work in the morning. I let him sleep in in the a.m. if Baby's still asleep or happy enough to let me get ready.

He says he has trouble sleeping, and claims to be woken by the feedings as much as I, but after we had the "nighttime resentment putting a strain on relationship" conversation, which ended with me asking that he at least help make me comfy for the feedings, he put the blanket over me for exactly one night and then went back to turning over and snoring through them.

I know taking care of the little one all day is exhausting (I've done it before going back to work), but I let him have twho hours or more sleep on top of what I get, and he's still a wreck - why won't this man go to a doctor or do SOMETHING?! Arrgh. *end rant*