Frustration..any suggestions?

RRL2012

I feel stupid for already starting to get frustrated because we've only been TTC for a few months, but literally within those three months, four coworkers, one best friend, and three other close friends have announced pregnancies. What is most frustrating is that we are in the midst of sorting out my PCOS (just started Metformin and will likely be starting Clomid next cycle) and every single one of them got pregnant within their first 2-3 months trying.

I am really trying to stay positive and feel genuinely happy for them, but it is really difficult to be around them constantly (both in and outside of work), hearing updates about morning sickness, showing ultrasound photos, how they found out they were pregnant, hearing about them telling other friends and family, whether or not to find out the sex....you get the point. What's making it even worse is that out of these pregnancies, I will either be entirely or partially responsible for planning 4 showers over the next several months!

I am really trying to stay positive because they deserve happiness and I would want them to be just as happy for me, but it's so hard to keep myself positive and relaxed while it's constantly in my face and I can't get away from it. And I know that with my PCOS I could be in this for a long haul. Any ideas on how to cope??

Shayliz

Why are you starting Clomid? Are you seeing an RE?

nbalkin

I hate to tell you this but it has always been in your face, you are just more aware of it now because you are ttc.  Maybe find some new hobbies to keep your mind off of things and reduce your stress!

E&Jhssweethearts

Something that stuck with me was a reponse to a similar post recently. Of all of those ladies experiencing such a wonderful time in their lives, not one of them is taking YOUR turn. Your journey to that point may be different, but when it happens for you, it will all be so worth it.

HTH

RRL2012

Shayliz:

Why are you starting Clomid? Are you seeing an RE?

Starting Clomid because my cycles have ranged from 35-95 days over the past 14 months, we're pretty sure I don't ovulate most of the time, and I have pretty bad cysts in my ovaries. I am seeing a regular OB/GYN, but this office seems pretty good. They will be doing b/w and u/s while using Clomid, and he said he would only have me on Clomid 2-3 cycles and if I don't get pregnant, would refer to a RE. I'm pretty comfortable with this offfice so far, I feel like they are being pretty thoughtful and thorough with their planning and monitoring so far. I've had numerous u/s just over the past few months to monitor cyst sizes, had my CD3 b/w, DH did SA, etc.

amay7186

I know exactly how you feel but people get pregnant on a daily basis and it just seems that when you are ttc, everyone else around you gets pregnant. I am in the exact same boat. You can't let it effect you. Try and get a hobby or focus your mind elsewhere. I know it is difficult but it works. I was stressing daily about my chart, temps, phantom symptoms, how often we have sex, and I was constantly talking about it! My mind is just soooo exhausted!! I have decided to just take a deep breath and I actually started a work out/weight loss challenge with all my sisters. It is actually taking my mind off of ttc. I hope this helps you a little, keep your head up.

MTDB

I know how you feel. I'm not very far into this either in the big realm of things (CD1 of cycle 4 today), but it is discouraging when everyone around you seems to be getting pregnant. And it is even more discouraging when it seems that it comes so easy to everyone else. I have to remind myself that this isn't true. Lots of people I know have gotten pregnant the first month trying (because they always seem to have to announce this fact...I know they're probably  just excited and maybe surprised that it was so easy for them, but man I wish they didn't have to throw that fact around so much!), and that fact can make it easy to forget about those people you know who took longer to get pregnant (but still did!). When I start getting really down, I try to think of friends with babies who didn't get KTFU right away and may have taken a long road to get there. I hope that I'm not on that long road, but I remind myself that even if I am, things can (and do!) still turn out well. Good luck. I hope things work out well for you!

WiscoMom67

I know that would be a hard situation... BUT - think about all that you can learn from these ladies as they go through their pregnancies!  They'll be researching products and getting gifts and gear at their showers... You'll be one step ahead when it comes to registering for yours, and you'll have some solid hints/tips stored away for getting through the rougher times of pregnancy.

Keep your head up.  Your turn will come

RRL2012

Thanks to everyone! These are great suggestions and the support and understanding from you all is tremendously helpful too!! I really appreciate it.