Mom Vent....grr.

AlabamaMamma224 · January 2012

I get it! My Mom lives out of state and wants to start planning when she'll come to help me out with the kids while I have the baby. I understand where she's coming from.....but........

Every time I speak with her, she asks me "are you going to pin down when you're going to have this baby?"....grrrr

I'm not quite 36 weeks and I have an U/S this Friday to determine size (estimate) and position.... since he's been hanging out transverse this whole PG...

I tell her she's welcome to come whenever, and stay for as long as she likes (she's retired so that isn't an issue) and that my EDD is 2/29.... apparently not good enough for her.

Both DD and DS were induced, so there was a 'date set' and I'm sure she's looking for the same thing this time. Well, I'm trying to avoid induction here, and will be declining an early induction (much to her dismay) unless the Dr. can come up with a better reason than 'big baby'............

I should know more at the scan this Friday, but I don't know how many times I have to say it.... not to mention that she's stressing me out! I'm inclined NOT to tell her when I go into labor this time around, though I really could use the help around the house.....

I get it she wants to pick her flight dates and not pay through the nose for those flights, but still......

anyway,

thanks for reading...

Ivana_Stolichnaya · January 2012

Simply say, "Mom, how am I supposed to know when the baby will arrive? Stop asking me such a stupid question"

BabyD15 · January 2012

I had the same issue with my MIL. She kept stalking me and my husband about when she could come and visit the baby. I told her on more than one occasion that I a) had no real idea when exactly this baby was coming and b) I had every intention on waiting at least a few days after getting home with the baby before anyone came to visit for an extended period of time and c) that MY Mom had first dibs on an extended visit. We ended up setting a date for her to come and visit well after this baby is supposed to be due. That way, early, on time or late, she has her date and come deal with it that way.

ani25 · January 2012

Ivana.Stolichnaya:
Simply say, "Mom, how am I supposed to know when the baby will arrive? Stop asking me such a stupid question"

This made me laugh!

AlabamaMamma224 · January 2012

I've been telling her that since week 22, when she started asking! It's like she has a brain fart every time we talk (ok we talk a lot) and can't help herself.....poor Mom, this is her 6th (and probably last) grandchild. Hmm

blueyedsweety28 · January 2012

haha, maybe change the subject next time she asks what day baby is coming .. or just keep saying it's still February 29th, if that changes, I'll let you know ..

boydstm · January 2012

Ask her when she would like for you to have the baby, what would be convienent for her and you will make sure to tell the baby the next time you talk to him/her :-)

devious1031 · January 2012

I feel your pain. My inlaws (4, possibly 5 adults and 3 children) will be driving up here April 8-13 from NC (at 24+hr drive) because thats the only week they can come since that's when SIL's children are on spring break. Unfortunately my due date is April 8 and, aside from DD3 (who came early due to pre-e) I have a bit of an issue with going over due. Everytime we speak I'm constantly reminded that the baby better either A-be here when they get here or better get here shortly after they do.... MIL even told me I needed to talk to the doc about induction methods and was surprised when I, again, informed them that I would NOT be inducing unless something was medically WRONG and that baby will come when he/she is ready to come and not a day sooner. They're not thrilled but oh well.

I'd tell her to head out there like 10 days before your due date and to get her ticket to head back like 3wks after. That way she's got plenty of time to be with you and baby. GL!

Lisa9926 · January 2012

She's just being a normal mom...dont let it get to you. However, Sounds like you just need to be blunt with her and say, it's going to be around the 29th and you are not inducing, so she just needs to plan for that and stop asking because you are getting stressed.