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Pregnant after 2 losses? Please share your story

Unfortunately I just lost my second pregnancy last week, after seeing a heartbeat at 5w and 6w, there was no further development at 8w.  I had a D&C on Friday, and I'm feeling pretty wrecked emotionally.  I also had an early loss in June, probably a chemical pregnancy, betas never went over 100 and I never got an u/s. 

I've been reading about recurrent losses and I'm starting to get scared that our chances for a live birth are not great.  I already have an appointment with a fertility specialist scheduled in 2 weeks, where they will go over my records and start a plan of action for tests to try.  I'm 34, so I don't have a lot of time to waste.

If you have had 2 losses, would you mind sharing your story?  Why do you think you lost the first two, and what did you do differently for this pregnancy?  What rests did you have done, and how long did you wait to try again? 

Thanks in advance, I'm trying to find some hope right now, but I am really struggling. 

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    RSP, I am so sorry.  Big hugs to you.  Feel free to FB me if you want to vent.

    I have had two losses and am on my third pregnancy.  The first was a blighted ovum which wasn't discovered until 10w3d--the baby never made it past 4w or so but I continued to develop a placenta and sac and whatnot.  The second was a c/p--got a BFP and literally started bleeding an hour later.

    I attribute the first loss to low progesterone.  It was discovered at 7w, but by then it was too late.  My second loss was my first cycle post-D&C, and although my doc didn't tell us to wait, I do think it was because my lining hadn't fully recovered from the surgery--I had very light bleeding after the c/p.

    Obviously I have no idea if this pregnancy will be successful, but I am still hopeful and will know more on Thursday.  I've been on progesterone support since 3DPO and I hope that helps.

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    I started progesterone supplements the day I got my BFP.  My OB also put me on baby aspirin, but I didn't start that until after the 6w appt.  I didn't understand why she was recommending it, and I probably waited a week before I started taking it.  I don't know, maybe I waited too long. 

    I don't really care about insurance costs, we can pay OOP for tests if needed.  I cannot handle another loss not knowing that I didn't try everything. 

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    I'm so sorry for your loss, I know it sucks :(

    I've had two losses. For both, growth stopped around the same time, 8w4d (discovered at almost 11w) and 8w1d (discovered at almost 10w).

    The first loss was for an unknown reason, I miscarried naturally at home. (terrible)

    The second time I had a D&C (better) and we had testing done. It was determined that this one had a chromosomal defect known as Triploidy.

    My blog is pretty detailed as far as physical and emotional progression for each m/c, TTC details, etc.

    I have my second u/s with this (3rd) pregnancy on Thursday. If this goes well it will be the farthest I have gotten yet (growth wise).

    Feel free to PM me if you need support or have other questions. 

    It will get better, I promise ((hugs))

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    I am so sorry for your losses. :(

    I had two losses within a few months of each other. The first was in November 2010 - I started bleeding around 6 weeks, went to the doctor, had an ultrasound to confirm, and had a natural miscarriage. The second was a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks in March 2011. I opted not to have a D&C and to naturally miscarry again. The second was much more difficult in terms of the pain (physically - both were obviously awful emotionally).

    My OB advised me to wait 2 months after my cycle had regulated before trying again. She still was hopeful, saying that 2 losses do not necessarily mean anything. She offered to do testing but said she did not become concerned that there was a problem until the third loss. So I decided not to go through with any of the testing, a decision that I questioned several times but ultimately stuck with.

    I found out I was pregnant again in July 2011. This pregnancy has been wrought with anxiety, stress, feelings of impending doom, etc., but so far everything is going as smoothly as I can hope for. I didn't do anything differently in the beginning with this pregnancy. We had an appointment at 7 weeks and there was a heartbeat then (we never saw a heartbeat with either of the first two), and that's when my doctor suggested starting me on Progesterone through the rest of the first trimester. I don't know if that helped or not (since by that point I already was further than I had gotten with the first two pregnancies), but I wanted to do anything I could to improve my chances. I'm now cautiously optimistic but even at 34 weeks I'm still terrified of something going wrong.

    Best of luck to you -- I hope you get your take-home baby soon.

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    Willamina, what did they tell you about the chromosomal defect?  What I don't understand is if this loss was due to a chromosomal defect, does that mean we are at higher risk for the next one?  Or was it just random chance?  I'm a scientist and I don't even understand all this stuff!
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    Willamina, what did they tell you about the chromosomal defect?  What I don't understand is if this loss was due to a chromosomal defect, does that mean we are at higher risk for the next one?  Or was it just random chance?  I'm a scientist and I don't even understand all this stuff!

    My doctor said it was a fluke. That the odds of it happening again are extremely slim.

    (my specific one could happen when two sperm meet one egg, instead of having a baby with and XY or XX mine had XXX)

    My issue is that I don't know the cause of the first loss, my doctor even said that this time is basically an experiment to see if I have a real problem or just freak incidents basically. Doesn't make me feel better or anything but I am holding on to the idea that it was just a fluke.

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    BFP #3 12/24/11 EDD 09/02/12 missed m/c D&C 10w4d (Triploidy xxx)
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    I am so very sorry for the loss of your two precious babies.

    I had a loss at 9 weeks last February, where the baby stopped developing around 6 weeks and I didn't know until I started spotting and had an emergency U/S.  I then had a loss at 5 weeks in June, similar to your June loss where the betas never got terribly high.

    I immediately requested Recurring Pregnancy Loss testing (clotting disorders, thyroid check, etc).  Everything came back PERFECT.

    A fellow bumpie, Petra, suggested that I have my progesterone checked and it was scary low at 7DPO. They put me on oral supplements from 2DPO the next cycle through either a BFP or my period.  I got my period.

    The next cycle I took oral prometrium again from 2DPO and I got my BFP at 10DPO!!

    My OB switched me to Progesterone shots once a week until week 12, and here I am going strong at 25 weeks.

    After 2 losses, the odds are TOTALLY in your favor still that you will have a live birth.

    All I can say is be VERY proactive with your healthcare.  Request testing.

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    Though I lurk here frequently, I don't typically post, so I hope that no one minds my intrusion. 

    First off, I'm so very sorry for your losses. This is my 6th pregnancy and (fx!!) hopefully my second take home baby. All of my losses were early, the longest ended at 6w1d. I had RPL (Reccurent/Repeated Pregnancy Loss) testing done after loss #3 and found out that I had homozygous MTHFR c677t, a genetic mutation that leaves me at higher risk for developing blood clots and makes it more difficult for my body to absorb folic acid, which puts my children at increased risk of developing neural tube defects. I didn't get the results back until after my 4th BFP and ended up losing that baby,but for my last two pregnancies (ds and my current pregnancy) I started Lovenox injections (blood thinners) 4dpo and take extra folic acid to help keep baby and me healthy and happy. There is no way of knowing if the MTHFR is what caused my losses, for all we know it could all have been a fluke, but I'm glad that I had the testing done and that my doctor has been so proactive pro-active in treating 

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    First, I am sorry for your loss. It's not easy and I found that I was ok a few days later, but when it was around the time I would have been due, I had a hard time.  I spent a lot of time on this board as I found it helpful.  

    I'm 36 and I have had 2 early losses, the first one (Apr. 11)  we never saw a heartbeat and they confirmed that there was no development after 6 weeks. This one was a shock and very hard as we told our parents before we wanted to (long story), so we had to deal with their emotions on this as well. The 2nd (Nov 11) was a blighted ovum and they did some testing and my Dr said this was a case of bad luck. We never told the parents so only my DH and I had to deal with it and we did ok.

    I had 2 D&C's and I am glad I had the option of that instead of it happening on it's own.  I am currently 7 weeks pg and hopefully on Feb 15th we will have a good u/s. 

    Sadly my Dr told me that they won't consider this a problem until I have 3 m/c. Tough to hear that, but trying to be very positive and hope it never comes to that.

    Good Luck

     

     

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    I am so sorry for your losses.  Let me just say that I hope my story doesn't scare you further, because I am optimistic, as is my RE. I am one of those people who need information and need to know everything I can, so I want to share my story in case it might help you.

    I have three living children and have had five miscarriages.  Four of them have been over the last three years.  I am now 8 weeks pregnant.  Of course, it's still early and anything can happen, but I feel hopeful this time around.  I have lost two pregnancies at 14 weeks.  The first one passed at 12 weeks, but since it was my first loss after two healthy children, they didn't see it as significant and didn't do any testing. I went on to have my now 6-year-old son, with no problems.  I started trying again at 32.  I had a chemical, then a 9-week loss due to a SCH (which I am 95% positive was my fault because of a movement I made.  The day before there was no bleed on us...the day I moved and felt pain, the bleed started and progressed for a week until I lost her).  Then came Andrew.  I had bleeding and spotting through weeks 6-11, but they doctors weren't concerned.  I had a NT scan and everything was great.  At 14 weeks, I was terrified knowing this was my last hurdle.  I went to sleep listening to a heartbeat, woke up and it was gone.  Sure enough, his heart had stopped beating.  I was induced and gave birth to my tiny angel.  He tested completely normal.  I have had every test in the book, some of them twice, and nothing.  I've had an x-ray of my tubes and insides, as well as a camera inserted into my uterus and there are no abnormalities.  I had another chemical after Andrew.  Now, I am 8 weeks and so far, so good.  My doctor really thinks I just have really bad luck, but there is always the chance that there is some undiagnosed clotting issue that we just don't know about, so I'm on 2500 mg of fish oil a day, a baby aspirin, and my prenatals.  

    It's a scary road to travel, but there are tons of tests out there that they should start doing on you.  There are many, many things they can test for.  If you come up "clean" like I have, there are measures they can take, so make sure you find a proactive doctor that is going to work WITH you and FOR you, not AGAINST you.  They can test your egg quality to give you an idea of just how worried you should be at your age, but even though they claim we are of Advanced Maternal Age at 35, that does not mean you are doomed.  The odds start decreasing slowly until around age 40, and then they do start dropping dramatically, but I hate that we all think we are ancient when we hit 35.  My doctor agreed.  

     I'm not out of the woods, by a long shot, but I just try and tell myself that the odds are still in my favor.  Even after recurrent miscarriages, there is a 70% chance of having a healthy, full-term baby.  I try to remind myself of that and tell myself that the stress won't do any good.  If I am going to lose this baby then there is nothing I can do, so I am trying to stay as hopeful as possible and take that one more risk factor (stress) out of the equation.  Also, a chemical pregnancy really doesn't count against you, as far as the medical world is concerned.  They happen so often that it's just one of those things that most doctors won't even worry about.  It doesn't make it hurt less, but it helps to know that is one less issue against us.  I wish you all the best and hope you get answers.  If you have any questions feel free to ask.  I am an open book...as if you couldn't tell.  :) 

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    My situation is a little different. I have had two losses but they were 10 years apart. The first was a chemical pregnancy...loss around 5 weeks....this was also not with dh. The second was in June...baby grew until 9 weeks...went in for my first u/s at just bf 10 weeks and there was no heartbeat. I opted for a d&c...we did testing and found out the baby had a chromosome issue called turners syndrome...this happens in females only and it is a missing x chromosome. With this abnormality there is not a likelihood of reoccurance. Dh and I went to talk to a genetic counselor and were told our risks are not higher than anyone else trying to have a baby. I reall have not done anything different besides having betas drawn. I am so sorry for your losses.
    Chemical Pregnancy 2001, Married 8/8/09, TTC April 2011, BFP 5/8/11, Missed M/C @ 9wk5d, D&C 6/21/11 BFP 11/13/11 Chase Everett born at 29wks 0 days on 5/7/12 at 2 lbs 14 oz, 14 1/2 inches long.
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    I am so very sorry for your losses.  I know exactly how you feel right now.  I had two early losses, both occured in the 6th week. After my second loss I felt so defeated, discouraged, hopeless, angry, you name it.  Fortunately my Dr. was very proactive and started extensive testing. 

    He tested me for Auto-Immune disorders such as Rheumatoid Arthritis, Lupus, etc.  Those all came back fine.  Then he tested me for Thyroid Peroxidase Antibody.  Apparently this is fairly new research, but when that came back abnormal he was quite sure that had something to do with my history of loss.  He immediately put me on a Progesterone supplement as a precaution (this really has nothing to do with the Thyroid).  When I got my positive PG test he put me on a Thyroid Supplement and a Baby Aspirin daily.  I stayed on the Progesterone through my 1st Tri, and am still on the Thyroid medication and baby aspirin.  So far the meds have been working like a charm!  My supervisors wife has had almost the same history as me, and when tested for the same thing, it was found that she too had the disorder.  So I think it is fairly common, just not very well known yet.  My Dr. was initially promted to test the Thryroid because after my first loss my actual Thyroid level came back abnormal.  He didn't think anything of it then, but after reading the research that came out around July-August time-frame, he thought he should at least try.  I am so glad he did!

    Good luck to you!  I pray that we see you back here very soon.  Good luck with your testing, and be sure that you are getting the attention you deserve!!  <HUGS> to you!

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    i'm so sorry for your loss!

    i'm curently on my 3rd pregnancy.  First one ended at about 14w and wasn't found untill 17w.  they don't know why, just say its one of those things that happen.  The next was a blighted ovum found at my 8 week apt. then i didn't even drop an egg for 6 months.

    They've done some basic testing and said nothing seems wrong, just some women have an eaiser time carying than others.  As i've concieved on the first try 3x now, we know getting pregnant isn't our issue (which is a huge plus!) now its just waiting for the right gene combo i guess.  we're 10 weeks in now, and praying hard for our takehome baby. 

    I haven't done anything different for this one than the other 2, and they've only done basic tests (chromosomal compatability, rh factor test, thyroid, hormone level check etc).

    We only waitied 2 cycles between our first and second pregnancies to do the hormone test.  we cycled 3 weeks after the D&E and the dr didnt think it would happen that fast.  The next time we didn't have a choice on timing.  we started trying right away, but no eggs untill the cycle i got pregnant this time.

    I know how hard this can be, and i'm so sorry you're having to go through all this! I hope some of us can give you hope that a loss or even two may not mean that you can't get carry to term.

    if this helps you at all, i'm the second child in my family (of 3 of us) and my parents lost babies before my older sister, and again with my little sister (who is 8 years younger than I am).  My parents only waited 2 years between me and my lil sis and just had issue after issue, but she came eventually (after a late loss and failed adoption). 

     

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    I'm so sorry for your loss. My T & P are with you.
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    I'm so sorry for your losses. ((HUGS))

    I'm PG after 6 losses in 3 years. I had RPL done after my 3rd, and DH had a b/w done too. I was DX with Factor V Leiden clotting disorder, and DH was DX with a genetic disorder called Balanced Translocation, which is the most likely cause for all of my losses.

    GL at your upcoming appointment. 

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    I had 2 losses after a perfectly normal pregnancy/delivery. They were both very early and I had never had an u/s, just hcg levels drawn. I requested to have a lap to check for endometriosis as it runs in the my family and I had symptoms, that turned up nothing and my uterus was great.

    My doctor left it up to me if I wanted to get the blood clotting tests done. I waited for a month and then decided to go ahead and do it. Turns out I am homozygous for MTHFR (which may/may not cause m/c's, it's debatable) but also had antiphospholipid antibodies. I am now on Lovenox and aspirin and this pregnancy has had no issues. 

    I wanted an answer to my issues and was glad to have one though not glad to have had losses or 2 disorders.

     Lots of hugs to you. It sucks big time but know that there is hope! I hope some tests are able to give you answers. 

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    I am so sorry for your losses.  I had to fairly early losses as well.  The first was twins at 10 weeks and the second was a singleton at 5w5d.  I had a chemically induced m/c for the twins and a d&c for the second loss.  It took me a long time to get pg again after my first loss.   My body just wouldn't cooperate.  After my second loss, we discovered I had elevated c reactive protein levels.  I was put on low dose aspirin after my d&c and became pg the next month.  I am now 32w1d and every thing looks great! 

    It was so hard for me to get my hopes up after the second m/c.  I had decided maybe children weren't in the cards for us.  Now, I have hope.  It took a long time, but I finally believe that there is a child in our future.  GL to you.  (((HUGS)))

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    So sorry for your losses. I know its not easy. I had a c/p Jan 2011. We tried the next cycle, and got pregnant again. Betas looked great, went in for my 1st u/s at 7 weeks, we saw a fetal pole, yolk sac, no heartbeat. Went back a week later baby had a heartbeat but was still measuring small. A week later no heartbeat. Had a D&C b/c the medication didn't work and I ended up with an infection. Was told to wait 2-3 cycles by my OB. On the 3rd cycle I got pregnant again. Had my first u/s at 7 weeks, we saw 1 fetal pole with a heartbeat and 2 yolk sacs. Was told it could be twins or vanishing twin. Went back a week later only saw 1 baby measuring the same size with a stronger heartbeat. At this point we knew it wasn't good but we weren't going to do anything with a heartbeat. Another week still had a heartbeat but same size. It was torture knowing that this wasn't a successful pregnancy but we couldn't bare do anything with baby having a heartbeat. 4 days later no heartbeat, had a d&c. They tried doing chromosonal testing but the baby was to small, bc it was measuring 6 weeks. We meet with a high risk doc in the same office. He was amazing. He immediately put me on fish oil, baby aspirin, vitamin d, and extra folic.acid on top of my prenatal. He explained that I needed to be on it all for 2 months then we could try again. He also wanted to do a RPL panel and chromosonal testing on me and DH. But doubted it was chromosonal bc we had one healthy child already. RPL panel, I had no blood.clothing disorders, the only thing that came back elevated was a CRP( C Reactive protein), and an ANA( anti nuclear antibody). Both of.these test indicate inflammation of the body. Which was causing blood clots. And that is why the babies would.never grow past 6-7 weeks. It was basically cutting off nourishment to the babies. So he said as soon as we got.pregnant again I would be on oral progesterone, not for low progesterone but to help with inflammation. And also heparin shots 2 daily also for inflammation. I am currently almost 17 weeks and this baby is growing right on track. I have been monitored very closely, u/s every 2 weeks in first trimester and now every 4. There is hope, I would find a specialist and get testing done ASAP. There could be a number of reasons this is happening. But know u are not alone. This board is full of.info so don't hesitate to ask. Good luck to u and hope to.see u here some day.
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