When do they actually start napping?

Pelusa214

This is getting effing ridiculous.  I pretty much spend my entire day trying to get this baby to either eat or sleep.  I'll spend an hour with her screaming, spitting out the paci and trying to shove her hands down her throat just for her to sleep for 10 minutes.  Or not at all.  It's not like she's happy if I give up & just let her stay awake.  Then I spend my whole day shushing & rocking a screaming, overtired baby.  I've tried putting her to sleep sooner, keeping her up longer, swaddling (THAT was a nonstop, breath-holding screamfest & she didn't calm down, so don't even suggest it), shushing, walking, rocking, feeding, making the room warmer, making the room cooler, putting her in the swing.

Eating is just as bad.  Refusing to drink more than 2 ounces, just to be screaming bloody murder an hour or so later, to drink another 1-2 ounces, repeat, repeat, repeat.  I've tried making her wait 3 hours in between, and it'll work for a day and then back to the same old thing.

I truly, truly can't tell what this kid needs.  I feel like I'm completely incompetent.  I think she's hungry, and she'll only drink an ounce or two.  I think she's tired, and she'll scream & scream & scream when I turn out the lights.  She even starts crying when I start walking her towards the bedroom.  I've tried keeping the lights on, white noise, singing to her, SoundSpa projector, glow seahorse. 

She's on Prevacid for reflux, after 2 different doses of Zantac didn't work.  We're thickening her formula.  She still won't sleep or eat.

This is my second child like this.  WTH am I doing wrong??  I'm starting to feel like it's my fault, but I don't know what I'm doing to create children who fight sleep SO HARD and are crying all day long because of it.

traciie

Oh honey I am so sorry!  Nixon is quite the hot mess as well.  He doesn't have a nap schedule and during the day he will fall asleep but when I put him down he cries within 5 minutes so I end up holding him.  As for the reflex try the chiroprator it helped my sisters baby who was screaming her brains out.  Just make sure to find a baby certified one.  Kendall had something happen in the birth canel and that was the problem.  It solved all the crying issues.  I live for the weekend when my husband is home to help me and I actually can get on the computer

mpstochlinski8

dont be so hard on yourself mama! Its not you, we dont speak the same language so its really hard to figure babies out most of the time, trust me I have 2 Im trying to figure out LOL It sounds like you really are trying everything but if you havent already pick up the happiest baby on the block, its a great book! I found some very helpful things in it. I'd also try talking to your pedi about some of this stuff, they may have a suggestion. If LO is fighting trying to eat it could be their full, need to burp, have a dirty diaper or aren't comfortable with how their held during feeding. Hang in there, moms have the hardest job in the world. :hugs: