fussy at 8 oclock...help

rlfonda

our night time routine usually starts 930...consists of upstairs, clean diaper, jammies, swaddle, book from mommy,  expressed bottle from daddy...(so we know he is getting a full belly) this is after feeding him around 630

the last few nights he has been getting fussy around 8...

do you think this means we should be feeding his bottle and starting our night time routine at 8??...or feed from the boob at 8 and do routine at 930-10

im worried that he will just be up at 11 anyways. plus he is hard to get down...so he may be up til 11 anyways and then be hungry...soooo our routine would just start again. diaper change, swaddle, eat (but then it would be the boob...or should it be another bottle to stick with the evening routine...) we are not getting anyyyyyyyy alone time yet...oy.

suggestions welcome. THANKS!

stewiegriffin

I would start the routine earlier.  That way you can start getting him to bed early and have time for yourself at night.  My youngest's routine starts around 6:30 and I try to have him down by 7:15.  The older 2 are down by 7, and I am free for the night...or till the next feeding at least.

monkeys2gether

I agree with PP...our DD was fussy so we moved up her bedtime & now SO much better.  She goes down between 6:30-7pm.  

jjabs18

I also agree with PP. It sounds like he is telling you when he is ready to go down. DH & I realized we were missing DD's sleep window and moved her bedtime up. Now she goes down on her own between 8-9 without a problem. If we try any later she is overtired and won't put herself to sleep.

HisKonstantine

I would definitely move the routine up to much earlier. We start bedtime at 6. Bath, lotion, massage, jammies, snuggles, relaxation and cuddletime, rocking and sleeping by 8:30-8:45. She is sound asleep no later than 9 and will usually stay asleep until around 1:30-3.

We were just letting her call the shots but then she was staying awake until 12:30 and not letting us get any breaks.