Mother who gave a child up for adoption

grizzlymama

I'm hoping this helps mothers out there who plan on adopting a baby..I was a young mother (18) when I had my 1st son.I was a single parent,worked and went to school.I got pregnant again 2 yrs later and wanted a better life for this baby.I never believed in abortions.There's to many woman out there who want a baby but can't..I asked a friend of a friend because I knew they adopted 1 already,they said they would but knew a couple who had a son and they couldn't have anymore.There son prayed every night for a brother.I just knew this was the right family for my growing baby inside me..I gave birth to him at home,as I did my previous..They did not attend for fear the courts might not let them have my baby..Problem was,MY attorney set the paperwork aside on his desk for 3 long months,meaning I raised him those 3 months.I called the attorney every week,but he never did nothing,so needless to say,when we went to court he got chewed out by the judge.Now giving a baby up for adoption is the hardest thing ever,but having 1 for 3 months then doing it is the worst thing imaginable..I went through with it especially because his new brother prayed and asked God,how could I have said no?? I got to name him..Jonathan,which means,a gift from God,which he was..That was 23 yrs ago..2 years ago I met him,what a glorious day that was..I never regretted my decision,and he had a wonderful life..I wrote this to let mothers who are adopting or thinking of adopting how us birth moms feel...It's not who births them,it's who raises them and cares for them that makes you a Mom..Praise God for you all and I hope my story helps someone out there who wants to give 1 up or is wanting to adopt..

angandvance

You are SO strong. It is BEYOND evident that you love him to this day. :-) 

missred75

Thank you for your story. You are so strong and I know it must have been the hardest thing to do to take care of your child for those 3 months knowing you were making this decision. I'm so glad you got to meet him again recently. I hope he knows and understands the sacrifice you made for his happiness. ::hugs::

CaptainSerious

Thank you for sharing your remarkable story.

I hope you know that your ARE a mother to Jonathan.  You care for him and love him, and even though you aren't the one who raised him for most of his life, you have given the greatest sacrifice for his future.  Jonathan is very lucky to have two amazing mothers.

Cristine

Thank you for sharing this. It's a wonderful story.

kekis

Because YOU chose life and your sacrifice, Jonathan had a wonderful life.   It was all due to your love for him.  How wonderful that you got to meet him again.  Thank you for sharing your story.

EclairAngst

Wow!  I am truly impressed by your strength!  As a previous poster said, you are a mother to your son, regardless of who raised him.  Thanks for sharing your story

faithhopelove75

Thank you for sharing your story. You are such a strong women and everyone who was touched by this is blessed by you.

Sonic78

I'm in the same boat as you. I have a 2 month 2 weeks old baby and I have to give her up for adopition due to not caring for her, too much stress in my life and the hard work of a child.    I love her so much and it pains me to do this, but i feel it's the best thing for her. I live with a family but i get no help with my child and it's so hard for me.   

Any suggestions for me?   I hope she grows up and loves me with all her heart.

grizzlymama

Sweetie,it isn't easy,but only you know whats best in your heart..I always knew I'd meet my son again..He never was angry,and knew my decision was the best..I'd advice that you do an open adoption like I did..I got pictures and letters...I also sent him stuff..It helps,but trust me,the pain will ease in time..Just know that you are unselfish..Nobody really knows how we fell unless they've walked in our shoes..God bless you sweetie..I'm here for you!!

grizzlymama

Thank all of you who responded..You brought tears to my eyes..I'm glad of my decision and Jonathan and I have a relationship now..The day I met him I just fell into his arms and sobbed so hard and said I was sorry..He looked into my eyes and told me he understood and that he wasn't mad..He grew up with 2 loving parents,a brother,and had a horse farm..Yes he has 2 mothers..He had a better life then I could of given him...I haven't shared my story with many people and I thank you for your kindness and for not judging me..You all are Angels and I'm glad I joined this site a few days ago,you have lifted my spirits!! God bless you all!

militarywife2b

You are such an amazing woman that you for sharing your story.

grizzlymama

Your so very welcome.. Ya know,you never know how strong you are,until you face challenges like this..I hope that it helps even 1 person in this world..Thank you as well..