why must we add stress for the pregnant chick?

Christina_Diane

My grandma called me yesterday (luckily I wasn't able to get to the phone in time, so I dodged this one for now) asking if her friend could also come to my shower because she is staying with her friend and it would be awkward if her friend didn't come (side eye). My MIL is throwing my shower and is already worried about space. I even avoided inviting some people from work that I wanted to because of the space issue. 

My grandma already told me a month or so ago that three of her relatives needed to be invited because she told them about it and they were excited about it and wanted to come. Adding more people after the space issue) So, I caved and put them on the list because they are my super extended family and they already knew about it. 

I'm not worried about talking with MIL, but I am worried about telling my grandma no. She doesn't take no for an answer because, "in [her] day, it was the more the merrier and [they] just squished together and everyone brought food to contribute." Needless to say, my MIL won't be throwing a potluck shower. 

Uuugh. It is just so rude to ask to be invited or to ask to invite someone. IDK why I am letting this stress me out.

ETA: She also did the same thing for my wedding. She told me who needed to be invited and when I told her no, she gave me a hard time and then went to my mother and then they both gave me a hard time about it. She ended up bringing the people anyway. If we didn't have a couple not show up, there wouldn't have been enough chairs.