What to do (kinda long :/)

jarebearsmom

I know y'all are probably all tired of reading about DS and DC by now but this is our first week and I'm a FTM lol

DH called me after he dropped DS off today. Last time I saw his teacher was Tuesday because she leaves at 4:30 and I pick him up right before 5 so I have been getting him from a combined room instead of speaking to her on his progress. Well, this morning she informed DH that J isn't doing so well. He was walking all over the house last night but at DC he won't walk anywhere unless she's holding his hand. He plays by himself and only socializes with the other kids when they are eating. He is so small for his age that the other kids just fall over him. So now she is talking about moving him to the nursery.

He is walking so much better at home and he is so much "toddleryish" that I hate to bump him back and him revert back to being baby like. He's only been there four days and I just feel like they aren't giving him a chance. He's an only child and he's never really been around kids his age, nor away from people he knows so this is a big adjustment for him.

What should I do?

PGASTL

If he's only been there 4 days I would definitely wait a while before bumping him back! My LO is also the youngest at our DCP and at first she wanted to be held all the time (she started there when she was 6 months old) but within a few weeks she was definitely able to play with the larger kids.

They learn how to hold their own and imitate the older kids' behavior quickly! I would wait until it had been at least 2 weeks before deciding to move him back.

jarebearsmom

PGASTL:

If he's only been there 4 days I would definitely wait a while before bumping him back! My LO is also the youngest at our DCP and at first she wanted to be held all the time (she started there when she was 6 months old) but within a few weeks she was definitely able to play with the larger kids.

They learn how to hold their own and imitate the older kids' behavior quickly! I would wait until it had been at least 2 weeks before deciding to move him back.

I don't want him moved back. I want him to stay in his classroom But I feel like I have no say in the matter His teacher is meeting with the director today and I'm meeting with the teacher this afternoon to see what they decided. I just don't think it's far for them to make this decision after 4 days of DC

EVM1216

I have to agree with you, it doesn't seem like they are giving him time to adjust and I don't think that putting him with younger infants is really going to help socialize him either.  I think that you should set up a time to meet with the teacher and come prepared with a list of DS's favorite things.  His favorite games, books, etc. and ask that the teacher play those things with the whole group to encourage him to interact.  Also ask what types of group activities that they play so that you can "practice" with him at home.

When DD moved the toddler room she had soemt trouble adjusting to the "big kids" there and she had been in DC since she was 10 weeks old.  But within a couple of weeks she adjusted (although she still looks terrified when this one girl insists on hugging her.) 

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P had a hard time adjusting too.  And then one day the teacher said it was like night & day.  I think this transition is the hardest for them, and it does take about 1-2 weeks.

Sorry mama, it will get better.  Stand your ground if you don't want LO transitioned back yet.  

EVM1216

jarebearsmom:

PGASTL:

If he's only been there 4 days I would definitely wait a while before bumping him back! My LO is also the youngest at our DCP and at first she wanted to be held all the time (she started there when she was 6 months old) but within a few weeks she was definitely able to play with the larger kids.

They learn how to hold their own and imitate the older kids' behavior quickly! I would wait until it had been at least 2 weeks before deciding to move him back.

I don't want him moved back. I want him to stay in his classroom But I feel like I have no say in the matter His teacher is meeting with the director today and I'm meeting with the teacher this afternoon to see what they decided. I just don't think it's far for them to make this decision after 4 days of DC

You should call the director this morning then and let her know your concerns.  No decision should be made about your child's care without you being involved in the decison!!!

chrisncassie

I would ask that they wait to bump him back to the nursery.  Its his first week, he's just getting used to everything.

I would think if in like 3 weeks he's not adjusted, then maybe take that route.  But to think that a baby would adjust in 4 days is just insane. 

I think that your LO holding the ladies hand to walk around shows that he wants to walk around the room, he's probably just scared...especially if he's the smallest one in the room.

chrisncassie

EVM1216:

jarebearsmom:

PGASTL:

If he's only been there 4 days I would definitely wait a while before bumping him back! My LO is also the youngest at our DCP and at first she wanted to be held all the time (she started there when she was 6 months old) but within a few weeks she was definitely able to play with the larger kids.

They learn how to hold their own and imitate the older kids' behavior quickly! I would wait until it had been at least 2 weeks before deciding to move him back.

I don't want him moved back. I want him to stay in his classroom But I feel like I have no say in the matter His teacher is meeting with the director today and I'm meeting with the teacher this afternoon to see what they decided. I just don't think it's far for them to make this decision after 4 days of DC

You should call the director this morning then and let her know your concerns.  No decision should be made about your child's care without you being involved in the decison!!!

Absoluletly agree with this - in no way should a decision about my child be made without me.

jillybean800

I would ask them to wait a week or two before making a final decision.  He's probably just overwhelmed with all the kids! Of course he's a little standoffish!

Also, at this age, aren't they supposed to be doing more side by side play rather than play "with" each other?  Thats more towards 2, no?

lrn327

I'd put my foot down about moving back to the nursery.  They should give him at least another couple weeks.  Like you said, he's just getting used to being around other kids.  I bet most, if not all, of the others have been at DC for a long time now.  Tell that lady to leave Jarebear alone!  He's doing just fine thank you very much!

jarebearsmom

lrn327:

I'd put my foot down about moving back to the nursery.  They should give him at least another couple weeks.  Like you said, he's just getting used to being around other kids.  I bet most, if not all, of the others have been at DC for a long time now.  Tell that lady to leave Jarebear alone!  He's doing just fine thank you very much!

I love it! As soon as I get off I'm going straight to DC and I'm going to let them know exactly how I feel. All the other kids have been there a while and one of them has a parent that works there. It's hard enough for him without him having to be bumped back to a bunch of tiny babies.

And like PP said... 1 year is side by side playing. 2 year starts interactive play

stephy1221

How old are the other children in his room? My infant room doesn't transition over until around 16 months so yes she is in a room with some babies but also other 1yr olds. I do agree with PP that 4 days isn't a long period of time for observation. I think a meeting with the director and teacher will help. Also since you don't get much face time with the teacher due to your schedule I would ask is she had time for a brief weekly/bi-weekly phone call with you to discuss any issues.

theuntaggablek

I agree with everybody else. Four days is a short time for your LO to adjust, and for them to decide that he needs to be with younger babies.

And you're right to insist to be part of the decision, too.

And solitary play is AOK at this age, I think. 

My LO has been in daycare for months, and only recently do I think he's really started to interact with the other kids in the room a little...and really that's only smiling at things his classmates do at the common table while they're eating. Or (regrettably) pushing or getting pushed out of the way for a toy. Most of the time when I pick him up the others babies around his age  - are all randomly playing on their own.

jarebearsmom

 

stephy1221:

How old are the other children in his room? My infant room doesn't transition over until around 16 months so yes she is in a room with some babies but also other 1yr olds. I do agree with PP that 4 days isn't a long period of time for observation. I think a meeting with the director and teacher will help. Also since you don't get much face time with the teacher due to your schedule I would ask is she had time for a brief weekly/bi-weekly phone call with you to discuss any issues.

His classroom is 12-24 months