Okay, the title of this post sounds really sad. But... DH and I live far away from our families (4 hour plane ride) and they are mostly who I would invite to DD's first birthday.
Other than that, I work full-time and don't have much time to make local mommy friends. I have a friends at work but a lot of them don't have kids or live far away (I commute an hour to work). DH goes to med school and a lot of his friends might come but hardly any of them have kids because they are all a lot younger than us. DD goes to daycare but it's really hard to make friends with the parents when you only see them for 30 seconds in the morning when they're dropping their kids off.
I really want to make DD's first birthday special- not over the top, but I wanted to dress her up in a cute outfit, have a party, do a smash cake, take lots of pictures... but I seriously don't know if I have anyone to invite.
I've considered flying home solely for the purpose of celebrating DD's birthday there, but we're already traveling a lot this year and I don't have a lot of time off. I could try to celebrate a few weeks early when we're home for a wedding (hopefully the bride and groom wouldn't mind sharing their weekend?).
Any suggestions? Should DH and I just dress her up and take pictures and let her smash cake but not invite anyone? Should I try to celebrate a few weeks early at home? I feel bad... I see all these cute party ideas and I feel like I'm failing DD somehow because we don't have local friends with children who might want to come... and I don't want her to be friendless because of us... Am I totally making a big deal out of something she's not going to remember anyway?