Hiya. Sorry this might be a tad long. I'm new to this. My husband has been working with a recruiter for 9 months now...he had surgery for a cyst and his recruitment was put on hold.
He's entering the Coast Guard and we were so confident that he'd be in basic by March because he reaches the cutoff age then and so on...Instead they granted him an age exemption and he starts basic May 8th....I'm due June 15th. He graduates basic July 3rd so there is no way I will go that late.
The Dr. has said we could induce on a Friday night and try to get Dad a day pass, but there's no guarantee Dad will get leave. His recruiter explained that he will get two weeks paternity leave, but that cannot be taken until after graduation from basic.
I know this is the right thing for us and our family. DH has been working security 3 years trying to find a police job. Even with a degree in Criminal Justice he's had no luck. So this will get us into a better financial situation for the baby.
I know thousands of military moms go through this, but I'm scared. Also I can't even distract myself with setting up a nursery because we will be moving to God knows where after basic.
So basically this is me throwing a pity party and looking for others who've been through this.
Re: Just found out DH will prob. miss birth of our first child
Girl I am right there with you except my DH will be deploying a few weeks before LO is born so he won't get to meet her until she is around 6-7 months old.
I found a quote that sometimes helps me when I'm having a pitty party.
"You need to remain focused and control what you can; don?t let your mind wander towards what you can?t."
I completely understand your situation and feel for you. Try not to stress.
We found out yesterday that we are pregnant, my husband deploys at the end of January so he will miss the entire 9 months and most likely the birth of what will most likely be our only child. (I am 36)
While I'm scared to go through this entire process alone I know that it was right for us to try now, our ages didn't make waiting until after deployment a very good option.
Keep your spirits up and take solace in the fact that you have a partner even if he isn't in the room with you he will support you the best he can from wherever he might be.
9/26/10 stopped BCP and started TTC.
9/2011 referred to RE. All blood work normal and DH's SA=normal results
11/2011 HSG=both tubes clear
One natural (monitored) cycle of Clomid, 50mg 2/2012= BFN
Getting ready for first IUI, 3/2012 received orders to Japan! (postponed IUI)
5/2012 Moved to Japan, fought Tricare for months over referral (no fertility treatment on our military base) for Japanese RE out in town!
8/2012 Started seeing new RE
9/2012, post coital test= hostile cervical fluid, (finally) moving on with first IUI!
9/29/2012 IUI #1+trigger= BFN
10/27/2012 IUI #2+100mg Clomid CD5-9+trigger= BFN
11/28/2012 IUI #3+100mg Clomid CD5-9+trigger= BFN
12/28/2012 IUI#4+100mg Clomid CD5-9+trigger=BFN
2/1/2013 IUI#5+injectables+trigger=BFN
3/2013 IUI#6+injectables+trigger=???