Parenting after a Loss

Tough, Very Sad Day

I attended a funeral today for the mother of three students from my school - aged 6, 8 and 11. I knew the family very, very well and taught 2 of the kids. She was murdered in her home by her boyfriend. These things just don't happen around here, so it was such a shock (not that it would be any less shocking, anywhere, I realize). These kids endured a painful divorce a couple of years ago, and now this, at the hands of the man who stepped into a father role in their family. It was so sad.

Still recovering with this painful hematoma, exhausted, and sooo emotional lately, it was a tough day. Those poor children.

In light of this sad day, and feeling so sad for Amye's loss, I held our LO so tightly and just cried and cried today, counting my blessings.

Just needed to talk. Thanks for listening.

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  • T and p to your students family. I am sorry you had a tough day. Hugs.
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  • Huge hugs
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  • How awful, so sad for those poor kids. They are lucky they have such a supportive and loving teacher in their life. T&Ps for the family.
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  • Oh my gosh, how horrible.  ((HUGE HUGS))
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  • That's just awful, those poor kids! ((hugs))
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  • Hugs...that's a really sad situation.
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  • So sad for those kids. It is just so unfair. I will that family in my prayers.
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  • So sorry to hear about your student's mom. That's awful. I've been holding Q tight lately too. Hang in there momma.
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  • (((hugs)))  I'm so sorry to hear about your students' mother.  Sending T&Ps that family's way.
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  • That's so heartbreaking!  I'm sending lots of T&Ps to your students family.  I feel just awful for those kids. 

    ((Big HUGS)) to you today as well.  I can only imagine how hard that must have been.  

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  • I am impressed that you were able to stay so strong. I hope today is better for you. Big (((HUGS)))
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  • That is very hard.  Big (((( HUGS ))))

    I too have been feeling very sad for Amye and holding my kids and crying A LOT. 

    I'm so just sad about it.  I'm sad for those 3 kids that lost their mother.  It's awful.

    I hope you have the reast of the day/weekend to stay home.

  • How horrible. Sending many T&Ps for those kids.  ((HUGS))
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  • I remember hearing that story on the news the other night. So sad. I'm so sorry. ((hugs)) 
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  • I am very sorry. That is a tough day. ((hugs))

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  • That is so terrible. Hang in there and I hope your recovery is going ok.
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  • That is so sad. Sending prayers and hugs <3

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  • It's so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day. It's sad that it sometimes takes a tragedy to pause and be thankful for what we have.

    What a tough day. It's been a tough week.

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  • So sad, many T&P to the family. :( Those poor kids. 
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  • Lots of prayers to them and you.
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