Damit! am I being selfish?

dawnc78

I was supposed to have an appt. tonight with my therapist...I need to go (I switched to every other week b/c I didn't think weekly was necessary) DS has been sick and DH and I had a huge fight...I just have a lot I wanna talk about... DH was supposed to get out of work in time to be home so I could leave...everyone else was busy tonight so he planned to be home early to take care of the kids... I reminded him twice this morning before he left how IMPORTANT it was that he get home in time for me to leave (If I cancel w/in 24hrs I get charged and my dr is going to be out for 3 weeks now b/c he's having surgery...so I rescheduled for Friday so I don't have to go a whole month without an appt...)

I get a call from DH at work at 4:30 (he works an hr. away...45min on a good day)...saying that something big happened (idk what) and he has a conference call in 15 min he's just not going to make it... R U KIDDING ME???? after the two weeks I've had and he's not going to make it...I am so PI$$ED I wanna cry... I am mad at him for not telling his boss that they would have to do the call tomorrow b/c he had to watch the kids... I don't ask him to take time off so this was a big deal...and he couldn't do it...is this wrong of me to expect him to do this for me when he said he would...regardless of what popped up at work.

EMT

I think it depends on what popped up at work.

femmegem

Well, I don't think it's selfish to be upset. I would be upset too. But I do think you need to find out what happened at work before you get too upset. Perhaps it was something that was truly an emergency and could not wait until tomorrow and no one else could deal with it.

Is there any way you could reschedule your appointment so you don't have to wait another two weeks? 

Brewster

I don't think so.  I'd be upset too.  Is there a neighbor that could watch them?

kjr

EMT:

I think it depends on what popped up at work.

I agree.  There are things that happen at work that I cannot just walk away from.  It sucks, but some things cannot wait til the next day. 
I would hate it if DH got mad at me for something like that.  It is just part of having a career, I guess.

But, I think you are totally justified in being upset that you have to miss the appointment.  It sucks and it sounds like you have really been looking forward to/needing this appointment and talking to your dr. 

dawnc78

he's an accountant...what could possibly not have waited 'till tomorrow??? (u r right though...I'll wait to find out what happened b 4 I get really mad)

I was able to reschedule for Saturday morning...but I still have to pay for the canceled appt.

 

EMT

I'm an accountant too...things pop up.  It really just depends on the situation.  It is a sucky situation but maybe it could not have been helped.

michaeltrish

Scenarios like this happen quite often at our house too.  However, I never get mad at dh because I know he's not choosing to stay at work, someone is making that decision for him.  It sucks and you're feelings are warranted but you really shouldn't get angry with him.  Most bosses don't give a sh!t what's going on at your household. 

angelsmile

It depends on what came up at work.  It's not like he just forgot and went out with the boys.  I realize you are primed to not hear anything but "I'll be right home honey, I'm sorry I'm such an insensitive jerk" but maybe there are legitimate reasons.  At least he called.

On the other hand, if he didn't even bother saying "my wife has a doctor's appointment tonight" and trying then I'd be mad...not fuming...but mad.