Annoyed with my parents (NBR)

baby4us12

So ever since I can remember my parents have always given me a Valentine's gift. They usually asked me what I want for that gift sometime in October so that they can get it while planning for Christmas gifts. This year I really wanted a trip for me and DH to Jamaica. I've been talking to my mom about it nonstop for the past few months and my dad had agreed that it shouldn't be a problem. Now when the trip is a month away and we've both already requested 11 days off of work my parents told me that they are no longer wanting to pay for the whole trip. There reason is that since they paid for DH and I to go on our family Christmas cruise (which the do every year) they only want to pay for half of the trip or either send us on a trip to Cozumel instead.

 I'm really pissed since I was excited about this trip for months and I already had pictured how our whole vacation would be. I also thought it would be a great way to celebrate that we are ttc again. Now my parents are trying to be cheap and send us to Cozumel (where I've gone tons of times) just so they don't have to pay for a hotel since they have a timeshare there. I don't want to go to Cozumel and I feel this is really unfair since they knew that I wanted to go to Jamaica and how much it would cost. I'm so upset, I cried myself to sleep last night in DH's arms. I called my mom this morning and told her that if I can't get the trip I want I don't want to go anywhere or to receive another Valentine's gift from them ever again. My mom partially understands how I feel so she said she would try to get my dad to reconsider. just typing this up is making me tear up again so I guess I'll just stop here

alygoo615

I didn't even read the second paragraph but WTF. You sound like an ungrateful snot.

ETA: I read the second part and you sound even more ungrateful. A Valentine's Day Gift? From your parents? Seriously? All the trips? Ugh- and now that I see how pissed off I got from reading a bump post- it's time to step away from the computer.

app1e3

I really hope this is a joke--if not, you're a spoiled brat.  Please go cry somewhere else.

 edt. punctuation fix. 

calli0pe00

You are the epitome of spoiled. I would kill to have a paid vacation EVER and the second that gravy train stops, you're not going to see me crying about it.

Grow up.

This is a Valentines day gift. Who says they have to give you a damn thing?

ETA- clarification

RaeBerler

Send your mom and dad my way, I'd love to have a trip to Cozumel. Seriously, accept it graciously. It's 11 days off from work and it's paid for. Or PAY for part of the Jamaica trip. You are a grown adult acting like a 5 year old who isn't getting their way.

Juicy71

SERIOUSLY????  I'm sorry, but someone needs to pull up her big girl panties and learn that not everyone gets life handed to them on a platter.  I'd LOVE to go on a vacation, even Las Vegas (which I've been to more times than I'd like to admit) but it's just not in the budget.  You should be thankful your parents are willing to pay for any of your vacation.  Maybe they are starting to realize that you need to learn to take care of yourself. 

daynakako

You poor, poor thing. The nerve of your parents!

kpowers982

This can't be real. 

kelle017

Wolfette139:

I don't think there is enough side-eye in the world for this.

Nope, not at all.

angelsnight

I REALLY hope this is MUD.  If not, you sound like a very big brat.  My parents have never ever sent me on a trip and you're complaining that they aren't sending you on the one you want, and you've been to Cozumel "tons of times" and that isn't good enough for you?

I was just thinking the other day, wondering how long it will be before I can afford to send my DAD on a trip as a thank you for all of the ways he has helped me over the years (for paying for things like my downpayment on my house and grad school until I could pay him back)......if you do get KU soon, I really hope your kid isn't an ungrateful brat like you are. 

And FYI, nobody wants to hear how you cried yourself to sleep over a vacation, some of us have real problems to cry over.

pittielover2

slightlyslapdash:

Wow you are very immature...

 

This! You should apologize to your parents for being so ungrateful.  

SteFizzRich

How old are you? Really???

Enchanted616

There is no way this is real. No freaking way.

staycee

here's a novel and mature idea... why don't you grow the eff up and thank you parents for all the "love" they've bestowed on you for years and treat them to a trip for Valentines day.

And anyway - I think if you want an elaborate trip for you and your DH as a couple for V-Day, time for you and your DH to earn and pay for it together.

bangos13

is this for real?? WTF

SchruteBucks

Isn't this the girl from a few months ago whose parents still give her an allowance?

OnTheLanai

Seriously? Im speechless..All the above responses pretty much covered it.

Blsd4given

OP has been here before... Posting about her parents supporting her and her DH.  Very likely MUD that just likes to get a rise out everyone.  And since a lot of the regs have disappeared or moved on, she's trying with the new group. 

Blsd4given

SchruteBucks:

Isn't this the girl from a few months ago whose parents still give her an allowance?

 

Yep

baby4us12

I'm not sure why people here are so rude. I am not immature, I'm just upset and reasonably so. I know that my parents can afford the trip for us, they just don't want to pay for it. We could pay for it ourselves but that isn't the point. They promised me this trip months ago and are now backing out on paying for it. It's my Valentine's gift so I should be able to pick what I want and not some second hand substitue. This is embarassing and upsetting for me, now when our friends ask about the trip we will have to tell them that we are no longer going and they'll probably think we were making the whole thing up. I just hate being lied to and that is just what they have done.

alygoo615

GhostMonkey:

How horrible of them to not send their grown child on the vacation of her dreams for Valentine's Day.

What exactly do you get for Christmas? A new house?

No, silly- that would be excessive!

baby4us12:

There reason is that since they paid for DH and I to go on our family Christmas cruise (which the do every year) they only want to pay for half of the trip or either send us on a trip to Cozumel instead.

 

Spruce14

OMG I totally feel for you! I know how much I hate it when my parents don't spend thousands on me for each and every holiday including hallmark holidays. You should just call the cops and make a report cause this is emotional abuse!!!! 

Basically what I'm trying to say is- if this is real, go F**K yourself you ungrateful snob! And have fun in cozumel... drink lots of tap water it's good for TTC!   

NicholieOllie

I have a wonderful way for you and DH to take the trip you want...PAY FOR IT YOURSELVES!!! 

telicious2

I'm pretty sure that all the PPs have summed up my thoughts perfectly. No need for repetition.

MrsMDem

I am in a little bit of shock after reading this. I am sorry but you sound like an ungrateful brat. That's all.

 ETA: corrected spelling

shellb1978

Bump burp!

shellb1978

baby4us12:

I'm not sure why people here are so rude. I am not immature, I'm just upset and reasonably so. I know that my parents can afford the trip for us, they just don't want to pay for it. We could pay for it ourselves but that isn't the point. They promised me this trip months ago and are now backing out on paying for it. It's my Valentine's gift so I should be able to pick what I want and not some second hand substitue. This is embarassing and upsetting for me, now when our friends ask about the trip we will have to tell them that we are no longer going and they'll probably think we were making the whole thing up. I just hate being lied to and that is just what they have done.

My advice, stop making up things! Pretty simple I think.

blindvictory

All I can hear in my head is Veruca Salt saying, "If I don't get what I'm after, I'm going to SCREAM."

You are one spoiled little brat. Waahhh, my mommy's only willing to send me to Cozumel. My husband and I have NEVER been on vacation, the entire 2 1/2 years we've been married. If my mom or my in-laws wanted to send me to Cozumel, I would thank them with tears in my eyes. Get over yourself.

LeLe25

GTFOH........

staycee

GhostMonkey:

baby4us12:

I'm not sure why people here are so rude. I am not immature, I'm just upset and reasonably so. Wrong. Your response is quite unreasonable. I know that my parents can afford the trip for us, they just don't want to pay for it. Maybe because you are an ungrateful brat? Just a thought. We could pay for it ourselves but that isn't the point. They promised me this trip months ago and are now backing out on paying for it. It's my Valentine's gift so I should be able to pick what I want and not some second hand substitue. You never, ever get to dictate what someone gives you as a gift. This is embarassing and upsetting for me, now when our friends ask about the trip we will have to tell them that we are no longer going and they'll probably think we were making the whole thing up. Do they know mommy and daddy pay for the trip and foot your bills as well? I just hate being lied to and that is just what they have done.They changed their mind. Maybe they realized it was time for you to grow up and they should use that money on themselves instead of their irresponsible child.

 

GM - you summed up exactly what I was thinking on all those points.

oh, and the "they lied to me thing".... notice she used it on one of those previous threads about her DH wanting to put off TTC.   She also said she felt lied to on that one.   Grow up, brat.  People are allowed to change their minds.   I think next time, OP, you should have a your parents sign a letter stating that they will give you the vacation of your dreams and have it notarized.   That way you can sue when they break your contract.

Jnmac83

baby4us12:

I'm not sure why people here are so rude. I am not immature, I'm just upset and reasonably so. I know that my parents can afford the trip for us, they just don't want to pay for it. We could pay for it ourselves but that isn't the point. They promised me this trip months ago and are now backing out on paying for it. It's my Valentine's gift so I should be able to pick what I want and not some second hand substitue. This is embarassing and upsetting for me, now when our friends ask about the trip we will have to tell them that we are no longer going and they'll probably think we were making the whole thing up. I just hate being lied to and that is just what they have done.

It should be, but not for the reasons you listed.

brookelynpaisley

I had to stop when you said you get a trip for Valentine's Day from your parents.

cookie280

ok this cant be real.... no I mean seriously this has to be a joke!

are you f*cking KIDDING me?????? wow wow wow.... speechless!

baby4us12

I'm not embarrassed for our friends to know that my parents were sending us on that trip. Most of my friends also have support from their parents and help from them. I'm not sure where everyone is from but in our area its pretty common for parents to financially help out their children. Its not like I'm 30 years old and expecting my parents to still pay for things for me. I actually don't ask them for anything. The Valentine's gift is a yearly thing that they've always done. If they wanted to stop they could just have told me that from the beginning. Most of my friends get a lot more from their parents than I do, so I do not feel that I'm selfish at all.

PenDun

I'm lucky if I get a small heart box of chocolates from my parents for Valentines Day. AND I'm super stoked if I do, because chocolate is delicious.

MrsMDem

baby4us12:

I'm not embarrassed for our friends to know that my parents were sending us on that trip. Most of my friends also have support from their parents and help from them. I'm not sure where everyone is from but in our area its pretty common for parents to financially help out their children. Its not like I'm 30 years old and expecting my parents to still pay for things for me. I actually don't ask them for anything. The Valentine's gift is a yearly thing that they've always done. If they wanted to stop they could just have told me that from the beginning. Most of my friends get a lot more from their parents than I do, so I do not feel that I'm selfish at all.

You should just stop trying to explain yourself. There is nothing you can say that will make you sound like anything but a spoiled rotten brat. If my parents gave me a gift like that I would be so grateful. I can't even imagine reacting the way you are. Period.

baby4us12

ChancieMark:

baby4us12:

I'm not embarrassed for our friends to know that my parents were sending us on that trip. Most of my friends also have support from their parents and help from them. I'm not sure where everyone is from but in our area its pretty common for parents to financially help out their children. Its not like I'm 30 years old and expecting my parents to still pay for things for me. I actually don't ask them for anything. The Valentine's gift is a yearly thing that they've always done. If they wanted to stop they could just have told me that from the beginning. Most of my friends get a lot more from their parents than I do, so I do not feel that I'm selfish at all.

You and your friends sound like entitled twats.

And you sound jealous...

Jnmac83

baby4us12:

I'm not embarrassed for our friends to know that my parents were sending us on that trip. Most of my friends also have support from their parents and help from them. I'm not sure where everyone is from but in our area its pretty common for parents to financially help out their children. Its not like I'm 30 years old and expecting my parents to still pay for things for me. I actually don't ask them for anything. The Valentine's gift is a yearly thing that they've always done. If they wanted to stop they could just have told me that from the beginning. Most of my friends get a lot more from their parents than I do, so I do not feel that I'm selfish at all.

1.) Financially helping out and paying for elaborate vacations are two different things entirely. (and not even to mention they paid for your cruise LESS THAN A MONTH AGO!) You are ungrateful and selfish.

2.) The fact that you can actually type that out and not feel like a megatwat speaks for itself.

amay7186

baby4us12:

I'm not sure why people here are so rude. I am not immature, I'm just upset and reasonably so. I know that my parents can afford the trip for us, they just don't want to pay for it. We could pay for it ourselves but that isn't the point. They promised me this trip months ago and are now backing out on paying for it. It's my Valentine's gift so I should be able to pick what I want and not some second hand substitue. This is embarassing and upsetting for me, now when our friends ask about the trip we will have to tell them that we are no longer going and they'll probably think we were making the whole thing up. I just hate being lied to and that is just what they have done.

 

WTF is wrong with you???? Do you know how lucky you are to have parents that can pay for a vacation for you at all???  u reallly need to not post here again and move on ......

JGior1031

Seriously????? How old are you?! 

if you are old enough to be married and ttc then you are old enough to pay for your own vacation. and if your parents are fortunate enough to be able to pay for not only one but two trips for you and your dh than be greatful!

if my parents ever offered to give dh and i a vacation i would be kissing their feet however i would refuse their offer! dh and i are adults and can pay for our self! you should be taking your parents on a trip.

i dont even let my parents pay for lunch out of respect and gratitude for everything they have ever done for me!

you really need to rethink your priorities and grow up! spoiled whinny brat is not pretty on anyone and you really seem ugly right now. 

MrsMDem

baby4us12:

ChancieMark:

baby4us12:

I'm not embarrassed for our friends to know that my parents were sending us on that trip. Most of my friends also have support from their parents and help from them. I'm not sure where everyone is from but in our area its pretty common for parents to financially help out their children. Its not like I'm 30 years old and expecting my parents to still pay for things for me. I actually don't ask them for anything. The Valentine's gift is a yearly thing that they've always done. If they wanted to stop they could just have told me that from the beginning. Most of my friends get a lot more from their parents than I do, so I do not feel that I'm selfish at all.

You and your friends sound like entitled twats.

And you sound jealous...

Ha. Yes, I am sure Chancie is jealous. Don't we all wish we could be worthless and have our parents support us our whole adult lives?? And then cry about it when they cut you off? Very mature

 

ETA: Clarity