Did you miss being pregnant?

WhiteGarden

Hi all, I'm lurking from PAIF... hoping to join you in 2-3 months.  I just have a question about how you felt about your pregnancy AFTER your LO came and after, of course, you had dealt with IF.

I am just curious, because I have had several people tell me that I will definitely miss being pregnant.  However, no one telling me that has seriously dealt with IF. I wonder how that changes one's perspective on being pregnant -- to me, getting pregnant became such a "mechanical" means to an end... I wanted a baby, and quickly realized that biologically things weren't right, so we spent over a year going through treatments, etc., just to get to the point of becoming pregnant.  I think the so-called miracle of pregnancy lost a little "magic" along the way there somehow.  

I am "enjoying" my pregnancy and it's going very well in general, but think I'll feel relief more than anything once it's over (especially if everyone is healthy).  I'm also just really ready to hold and kiss this LO we've been wanting for nearly 2 years now.  And I'm a little tired of worrying about everything I'm doing (I know the worry itself doesn't end once the baby comes though... haha).

Just curious what your thoughts are.... TIA! 

Sarafuss

MrsLee04:

Honestly I miss being pg way more than the idea of having another child. I loved it and was fortunate to have an easy pg (minus some 1st trim bleeding). We're done having kids but I wish sometimes I could experience it again.

This, sort of.  After DS was born I told DH that I could totally be PG again right away if it didn't mean a baby in the end.  Which sounds really weird.  But I loved being pregnant and I can't wait to do it again (hopefully).  I don't think I could handle 2u2 so I just have to wait.   

desabean

I LOVED being pregnant the first time, and while I'm sure most of it had to do with hormones, I was actually jealous of my pregnant friends for the first week or two after giving birth. This time I don't love it as much, but that could be because it is a lot harder with a toddler. I just think there is something so exciting about the anticipation of having that first baby....and everyone is solo nice to you when your pregnant. Once the baby comes, you're chopped liver

BeccaLandes

i still miss it. like a pp said- if it wouldn't result in another child, i would be happy to be pregnant this minute!  

i didn't have the easiest pregnancy- i had bleeding and spotting through the 1st trimester and then went on bed rest at 22w, but physically i never had any complaints. i loved being pregnant, i had an easy labor and delivery, and i loved having infants and breast feeding.

not everyone misses it or loved it. i know lots of people who hated it, and dreaded doing it again for a second child (all of these friends did not have fertility problems).

Cassian

I loved every achey nauseous bit of it. I can't to get pg again, and of course have another baby.

 

MyShellyBelly

Every.single.day.

Next to being a Mommy, being a pregnant woman was the best experience of my life.

I was truly very lucky to have an uncomplicated, full-term pregnancy with twins and I enjoyed it all.

I wonder if I enjoyed being pregnant more than a "fertile" because we tried so hard and went through so much to get to that point?

I love being a Mommy and having them here with us, but man, having those little ones inside me kicking and moving was just an amazing feeling.  Nobody will ever have that special bond with my LO's but me and I cherish those memories. 

MrsRyan61804

I loved being pregnant. I had a great pregnancy with no complications, and miss being pregnant terribly. I missed it as soon as I came home. I was very anxious during my entire pregnancy and used my doppler several times a day. I thought that I couldn't wait for the worry to be over, but I would take all the worry again to feel those baby kicks, and hiccups.

qtpa2t

I had an exceptionally easy pregnancy, which probably colors it, but I miss being pregnant.  I miss it even more because I can't even remember what it felt like.  It's so surreal to think I was ever pregnant.

KYRN

I did not miss being pregnant after DS that I can remember.  I guess everything went fine and I had an easy enough pregnancy but it was just a means to an end, I didn't love it or hate it.

This time is much harder, I will not miss it, and if I do it will be because I forgot what it was like.  I've had a much worse time and taking care of a toddler is very difficult.  I do really enjoy feeling her move in there and I don't think I fully appreciated that last time but other than that, I will be happy to not be pregnant.  I wish I could have another baby after this one without being pregnant again.  I really think I want a 3rd but right now the thought of another pregnancy is seriously making me re-consider.

RoxBride

Not one bit...but then again I threw up every single day until delivery, save for 6, and spent much of it in the hospital.

swgal

I know what you mean about being worried every day and kind of wanting it to be over just so everything would be ok, but I still miss it.   Feeling her kick and roll around really were some of the best memories in my life.

choco_lab

I had easy pregnancies and don't miss being pregnant AT ALL.  I couldn't wait to get pregnant with #2 and for him to be born so we could close up shop (got my tubes tied) and I could get my body back.

Oh and the worrying.. only gets worse once they are born! 

Good luck!

LisaMarisa

I didnt like being pregnant - terrible m/s that lasted about 18 weeks, then PTL/constant contractions - so no, I dont miss it.  I didnt miss it the first time and I dont miss it this second time and we're not having anymore kids so you would think that I might mourn it but 2 miserable pregnancies are part of the reason that we're not having anymore kids.

dana316

I do NOT miss being pregnant.  I am not a happy pregnant person.  Is it miserably uncomfortable state for me...I love my babies, but carrying them wasn't much fun.

Of course, both of my babies were 22 inches long, and I'm only 5' 2"...so discomfort is an understatement.

Oh, and I also had gestational diabetes with Parker...and that is a suckfest in and of itself ;-)

 

armywife76

I'm not sure how to answer this yet, though I'm sure I will miss it the minute it's over. I do love the kicks, hiccups, and belly. I love how good food tastes (too much, probably!) And I love having an uncomplicated pregnancy this time. I think I underestimated how difficult it would be, physically, to keep up with a toddler and miss all the resting time, planning time, and excitement of the first one. DH and I didn't do so well planning our schedule, so I'm pretty much a single mom while he's immersed in a master's program. It has flown by so fast with this one. There were long stretches when I was so busy, I forgot I was pregnant!

etoyama

The moment DD left my body I wad thrilled to not be pregnant anymore. I honestly didn't like it at all. It felt very uncomfortable to me, and gave me terrible anxiety. I don't thinking it was about sharing my body with another person because I LOVE breastfeeding. I want another child but I want to cry when I think about having to be pregnant again. Oh and giving birth! Ahhh

perry7285

no, not at all. i was MISERABLE during my pregnancy, very symptomatic and also very stressed because i had a high risk pregnancy.

i do miss the magic of feeling the baby moving, and i will be sad if i never experience another pregnancy, but i wouldn't say that i miss being pregnant. 

kbeach82

I really miss being pregnant, but those who know me think I am absolutely nuts for feeling that way. My pregnancy and labor weren't easy (although the actual delivery was), and I was on bed rest for the last 2 months (induced @ 37 weeks). At the time, I couldn't wait to meet my LO and to get relief from the carpal tunnel, insomnia, aches and pains, and to be free from bed rest. But even after dealing with all of that, I had an almost immediate yearning to be pregnant again.

Honestly, I was pretty terrified for the duration of my pregnancy that something was going to go wrong and we were going to be robbed of the life we had finally created (with a lot of help from modern science, of course). If it makes any sense, I think I am looking forward to being pregnant again so I have a chance to actually enjoy it. Holding my son in my arms and looking down into his big green eyes is a constant reminder that WE DID IT. We created this amazing little thing, and we can (science willing) do it again.

JessJ222

YES!!!  Pregnancy agreed with me!

I only had a few weeks of morning sickness, which were pretty mild. 

I had zero aches and pains. 

I ran until 39 weeks and was at the gym 3 hours before my water broke.

I felt more confident with my body than before I was pregnant.

Only negative is my face broke out more than normal.

I cannot wait to be pregnant again, and hope it is as easy for me as it was the first time, which may or may not be the case. 

Melicakes

I loved being pregnant and I look forward to doing it again but actually  having another baby? I'm so not ready yet and won't be for a while,  barely managing now lol

LisaBRM

I definitely miss being pregnant, and not just because I so desperately wish I could have another child.  I never felt as special as I did when I was pregnant.  I felt so healthy and loved the special relationship I had with my daughter that nobody else had.

But, I also had a really easy pregnancy (until the last few weeks), so, I truly loved it!

jenn2929

I absolutely miss being pregnant!  I would love to be pregnant again, I just don't want any more kids (neither does DH) so that kind of knocks that idea out.  I had a super-high risk pregnancy (AMA, multiples, mthfr), but I still loved being pregnant.  I loved how I felt pregnant, how my body changed, the feeling that I had lives growing inside me.  It was a wonderful experience and one I will miss having again.

LoveMyGirlz

I thought pregnancy was incredibly hard. It was definitely worth it of course, but overall I was so tired the whole time, had to get daily injections, I was so big and uncomfortable, and did I mention I was tired always?!

UsedToBeGoldie

i LOVED being pregnant... and there are parts of it that i miss (not feeling fat b/c my belly was hanging out)... but in general I don't miss it.

I missed it a LOT after I had DS1.... but after the twins I just have felt so done making babies... that I don't miss it anymore.  I jsut feel like we are complete and have moved on to another stage in our lives... being pregnant is so foreign to me now.

Mouseygail

I have never felt ad beautiful it special as I did while I was pg. That being said, I had a scary pg and I was sooo relieved to hold my little dude in my arms. I couldn't be more in love and happier with him, but I would elfin love to do it all over again, even with understanding it will be way different.

Fancy3Face

My third tri was MISERABLE, but I loved being pregnant.  I wanted to get pg again right away, but DH wanted to wait until they were two.  Now that they're 9 months old, I'm glad we're waiting!  

Pregnancy is amazing.  I only realized that AFTER they got here safely though.  I stressed and worried and stressed some more during pregnancy.  I wish I would have had the hindsight to stop and smell the roses a bit more than I did.  

Next time I'm planning on chilling just a bit  

Congrats!!! 

EmilyAnne

YES!!!!  I loved being pregnant. Loved it. All of it. I still look at my belly pics And wish I could be pregnant again.  Feeling him move, being safe inside me for no one else to touch. I cannot wait to be pregnant again! 

ALY1981

Yes, I really miss it. More than ever! I really loved it. I felt great, and loved having him so close to me, all to myself.

Yellow_Daisy

I LOVED being pregnant and often miss it.  I would love to have another baby, but I would also love to pg again.  I've never felt so comfortable in my own skin than when I was pg.  I never worried about my weight or if I looked fat, I was so proud of my body and baby.  I loved having DS all to myself, knowing that I alone got to experience the bond of having him grow inside me.  The end of my pregnancy was hard, I was 2 weeks overdue and physically in a lot of pain, but I'd do it again in a heartbeat and enjoy every single second.

I love being a mom and wouldn't trade it for anything, but there is nothing in the world like feeling your child inside you, their little punches and kicks, hiccups and rolls.

Yes I always wanted a baby, but being pregnant and carrying my child was also extremely important to me, it was much more than a means to an end.  I would have been just as happy to be a mom through adoption and not carry, but I feel incredibly fortunate to have had the honor to carry my child.

Yellow_Daisy

choco_lab:

Oh and the worrying.. only gets worse once they are born! 

It's so much worse, I worry constantly now.

emmyloustu

Yellow_Daisy:

I LOVED being pregnant and often miss it.  I would love to have another baby, but I would also love to pg again.  I've never felt so comfortable in my own skin than when I was pg.  I never worried about my weight or if I looked fat, I was so proud of my body and baby.  I loved having DS all to myself, knowing that I alone got to experience the bond of having him grow inside me.  The end of my pregnancy was hard, I was 2 weeks overdue and physically in a lot of pain, but I'd do it again in a heartbeat and enjoy every single second.

I love being a mom and wouldn't trade it for anything, but there is nothing in the world like feeling your child inside you, their little punches and kicks, hiccups and rolls.

Yes I always wanted a baby, but being pregnant and carrying my child was also extremely important to me, it was much more than a means to an end.  I would have been just as happy to be a mom through adoption and not carry, but I feel incredibly fortunate to have had the honor to carry my child.

I agree with all of this! Very well said, i especially agree with the body image & feeling like it was an honor to be pregnant. I enjoyed it the 2nd time around very much, too, but it is harder when you are chasing a toddler around. I would love to be pregnant again!

browneyedgrl4282

Take out of play my pregnancies that ended in m/c and I can honestly say I miss it. My pregnancies with the twins and Brady were very easy for some who was considered high risk. It is the one (well two times) in life that I can honestly say I was completely happy with what my body was doing.

Mrs.MLR04

I LOVED being pregnant!  I had a very easy pregnancy and enjoyed every minute of it!  I look back at pictures and pray we will be blessed with another miracle so I can do it all over again!

EastCoastBride

MrsLee04:

Honestly I miss being pg way more than the idea of having another child. I loved it and was fortunate to have an easy pg (minus some 1st trim bleeding). We're done having kids but I wish sometimes I could experience it again.

I could have written this word for word! 

Once I got PG, it took me awhile to really BELIEVE I was PG (Esp after a few bleeding episodes!).  I couldn't get as excited as people around me were.  But - I hit a point were I was like 'wow - there is this little guy growing inside of me!" and I just tried to soak it all in.

I loved being PG.  It had it's down moments - it's not a walk in the park.  But I overall had an easy pregnancy and I really loved feeling DS grow. 

EastCoastBride

MyShellyBelly:

I wonder if I enjoyed being pregnant more than a "fertile" because we tried so hard and went through so much to get to that point?

This is what I feel it was for me.  I have a friend who complained about being PG, hated every moment of it (even though she didn't have a bad pregnancy), etc - and she got PG VERY quickly and easily.  She took a lot of it for granted, IMO.  I actually got annoyed being around her and listening to her gripe. 

Dragonfly1226

I loved being pregnant! But I love having P more I hope I get the chance to be pregnant again, but I never look at P and wish I was still pregnant with him. Having him on the outside is so much better.

oooCarrieB

No.

I liked being pregnant and most of it was really great, but the end was SO uncomfortable!!  I was so happy to be done with it and I cannot even imagine being pregnant again right now and my LO is 8 mos old.

AvaLikeLava

I REALLY missed it after DS#1... But he was a dream pregnancy: no nausea, no aches, only puppies and rainbows.

My pregnancy with DS#2 was harder and the first tri nausea was so terrible I was almost hospitalized around week 8. So this time around I miss it, but not as much as I did after my first.

My family is complete now, so I really don't yearn for it the ey I did after the first.

With that said, I would volunteer to be a gestational attire under the right situation. 

krissyh21

I had the worst pregnancy ever. Bleeding in the first tri, on bedrest at 24 weeks and in and out of the hospital. Doing NST and u/s weekly. But because I went into labor and delivered at 34 weeks, I feel like I wasn't ready to say good bye to pregnancy yet. I didn't have the anticipation of "any day now" - people calling me asking me how I felt or if I was in labor yet or getting to the point where I wanted him out already. One day I was pregnant and the next I wasn't.

I missed the kicks and feeling him on the inside. And not to mention I hated the newborn stage - I was a mess and had a hard delivery/recovery to top off everything. 

So yes, in a way I miss it, but can't imagine doing it again.

amberleeb

Not at all!  I did not enjoying being PG and do not enjoy it this time either.  I hate feeling icky and crabby all the time.  I loved the newborn stage and would do that for 9 months over being PG!

LucyPevensie

Yellow_Daisy:

I LOVED being pregnant and often miss it.  I would love to have another baby, but I would also love to pg again.  I've never felt so comfortable in my own skin than when I was pg.  I never worried about my weight or if I looked fat, I was so proud of my body and baby.  I loved having DS all to myself, knowing that I alone got to experience the bond of having him grow inside me.  The end of my pregnancy was hard, I was 2 weeks overdue and physically in a lot of pain, but I'd do it again in a heartbeat and enjoy every single second.

I love being a mom and wouldn't trade it for anything, but there is nothing in the world like feeling your child inside you, their little punches and kicks, hiccups and rolls.

Yes I always wanted a baby, but being pregnant and carrying my child was also extremely important to me, it was much more than a means to an end.  I would have been just as happy to be a mom through adoption and not carry, but I feel incredibly fortunate to have had the honor to carry my child.

All this.  I loved it and missed it (and would like to do it again!)