Loooved this blog post!

howleyshell

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Every time I?m out with my kids ? this seems to happen:

 

An older woman stops us, puts her hand over her heart and says something like, ?Oh- Enjoy every moment. This time goes by so fast.?

Everywhere I go, someone is telling me to seize the moment, raise my awareness, be happy, enjoy every second, etc, etc, etc.

I know that this message is right and good. But as 2011 closes, I have finally allowed myself to admit that it just doesn?t work for me. It bugs me. This CARPE DIEM message makes me paranoid and panicky. Especially during this phase of my life ? while I?m raising young kids. Being told, in a million different ways to CARPE DIEM makes me worry that if I?m not in a constant state of intense gratitude and ecstasy, I?m doing something wrong.

 

 

 

I LOOOVE it when people get real about how freaking hard this parenting thing can be!

 

JillRock96

I liked it, too.  Of course, there are wonderful moments every day, surrounded by moments that are challenging and exhausting.  You're right, parenting is freaking hard.

But, I've seen this all over facebook, and some of the posts made me feel like I should never say that I *love* a certain age or a certain stage, that I should never say I *love* being a mom -- that it is somehow being fake or making others feel bad.  I guess that I recognize that parenting has its challenges, so I can still say that as a whole, I love it and enjoy it, KWIM?  That doesn't mean it isn't hard, or that there aren't days I want to rip my hair out.

howleyshell

JillRock96:

 I guess that I recognize that parenting has its challenges, so I can still say that as a whole, I love it and enjoy it, KWIM?  That doesn't mean it isn't hard, or that there aren't days I want to rip my hair out.

Totally agreed.

I love parenting but there are also certain days when I love bedtime more than awake time.

I like the ability to own both of those emotions without shame.

I am the first to admit that it's totally possible for me to gush about my life, kids and parenting one day and whole heartedly not be able to drop them off at school fast enough the next. 

 

 

 

Sarafuss

I totally agree with this.  I get frustrated when people say "Enjoy them while they're little!  You'll miss this time when they are crawling/talking/walking etc."  And then I feel guilty for just wishing he would entertain himself more or be able to sit by himself.  (DS is super high maintenance). 

Sometimes I just want to scream:  I'm doing the best I can people! 

howleyshell

Sarafuss:

I totally agree with this.  I get frustrated when people say "Enjoy them while they're little!  You'll miss this time when they are crawling/talking/walking etc."  And then I feel guilty for just wishing he would entertain himself more or be able to sit by himself.  (DS is super high maintenance). 

Sometimes I just want to scream:  I'm doing the best I can people! 

I so get this.

Just yesterday I was BAWLING reading "I'll Love you forever" to them before nap picturing them coming to visit me on my death bed and not fitting in my lap any more and then a few short hours later was desperate for them to just settle down and play nice together so I could finish paying the bills.

Life happens.

It's all about balance - even with kids! 

 

oct11bride03

Thank you so much for introducing me to this blog.

JillRock96

howleyshell:

JillRock96:

 I guess that I recognize that parenting has its challenges, so I can still say that as a whole, I love it and enjoy it, KWIM?  That doesn't mean it isn't hard, or that there aren't days I want to rip my hair out.

Totally agreed.

I love parenting but there are also certain days when I love bedtime more than awake time.

I like the ability to own both of those emotions without shame.

I am the first to admit that it's totally possible for me to gush about my life, kids and parenting one day and whole heartedly not be able to drop them off at school fast enough the next. 

 

YES.  There are some days when I hate working, and others when I am grateful that I get to go to work for a few hours.

I will admit that sometimes when people tell me to enjoy it, I want to tell them to eff off, lol.  But sometimes when I get those comments, I really DO take them to heart, and I DO slow down for a bit.  I think that if I didn't have those reminders, I might get so caught up in the day-to-day craziness that I let some of the great moments pass by.

Mouseygail

The blog was too long for my short attention span to read right now...but I definitely scrolled through the pics for more of her delish hubby!  holy ***! yum!

howleyshell

Mouseygail:

The blog was too long for my short attention span to read right now...but I definitely scrolled through the pics for more of her delish hubby!  holy ***! yum!

Not gonna lie.... I too enjoyed the eye candy!

Yuummmm is right!!! 

And... if you click on the "G's family" link you'll find in his description that he's a model.  Uh.... yeah.  Makes sense! 

krissyh21

Sarafuss:

I totally agree with this.  I get frustrated when people say "Enjoy them while they're little!  You'll miss this time when they are crawling/talking/walking etc."  And then I feel guilty for just wishing he would entertain himself more or be able to sit by himself.  (DS is super high maintenance). 

Sometimes I just want to scream:  I'm doing the best I can people! 

I hated the newborn stage - HATED it. I felt so guilty sitting in my dark room crying because of everything we had gone through... and then when people said "cherish this moment because they will be crawling/walking/talking soon" it made me want to cry even more because I thought it was just going to get harder and more miserable. 

I am so-so-so thankful he is walking and talking - I never ever want to go back!

Sarafuss

krissyh21:

Sarafuss:

I totally agree with this.  I get frustrated when people say "Enjoy them while they're little!  You'll miss this time when they are crawling/talking/walking etc."  And then I feel guilty for just wishing he would entertain himself more or be able to sit by himself.  (DS is super high maintenance). 

Sometimes I just want to scream:  I'm doing the best I can people! 

I hated the newborn stage - HATED it. I felt so guilty sitting in my dark room crying because of everything we had gone through... and then when people said "cherish this moment because they will be crawling/walking/talking soon" it made me want to cry even more because I thought it was just going to get harder and more miserable. 

I am so-so-so thankful he is walking and talking - I never ever want to go back!

Yea I'm not a fan of the newborn stage.  I'm ready for him to just tell me what he wants!  But looking back just six months I do miss how tiny and snuggly he was.  He slept all the time then.  Now he never wants to nap! 

alchris

JillRock96:

howleyshell:

JillRock96:

 I guess that I recognize that parenting has its challenges, so I can still say that as a whole, I love it and enjoy it, KWIM?  That doesn't mean it isn't hard, or that there aren't days I want to rip my hair out.

Totally agreed.

I love parenting but there are also certain days when I love bedtime more than awake time.

I like the ability to own both of those emotions without shame.

I am the first to admit that it's totally possible for me to gush about my life, kids and parenting one day and whole heartedly not be able to drop them off at school fast enough the next. 

 

YES.  There are some days when I hate working, and others when I am grateful that I get to go to work for a few hours.

I will admit that sometimes when people tell me to enjoy it, I want to tell them to eff off, lol.  But sometimes when I get those comments, I really DO take them to heart, and I DO slow down for a bit.  I think that if I didn't have those reminders, I might get so caught up in the day-to-day craziness that I let some of the great moments pass by.

YES!

(That's my short contribution, but I agree so much....!)