I had "the talk" with DH today

vanessaNOV2

about when (if we agreed) should be try for #3. I know I know some days I'm so emtionally and physically stressed from both boys (1 year & 2 year) but I keep having moments where I really really desire another child to our family. I kinda feel like our family isn't "complete" yet.

DH (to my surprise) told me whenever I am ready because I am the one you has to carry the baby while it grows. I am a smaller figure and I have had 9lb+ newborns, so pregnancy was really hard for me, physically...

....I told him it would be nice to have a summer where I'm not pregnant so maybe next fall....

Anybody this talk with thier DH lately??

Daisy22

We had this talk back in September and decided to wait until after my half marathon in February to decide for sure. Then I got pg in October my boys will be barely 3 and 20 months when baby comes. I'm excited they will all be close in age. I know at times it will be hard but having two boys 15 months apart can be trying on days. Good luck with your decision. 

lkf041

Yea, but our talk is more about baby #4 at this point

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Raffes484

We had the talk when DS1 was about 7 months old and at that point decided to just stop preventing. I got pregnant when DS1 was 9-1/2 months old.

For me, going from 1-2 was way harder than 2-3. Good luck with your decision.

sweetpea2003

We need to have this talk.  I went through infertility and my issue was high FSH (low ovarian reserve).  I was given a stern warning by my RE back in 2008 that I needed to have all of the kids I wanted quickly.  No "ideal" spacing for me.

Well, we are just really truly not ready right now.  DH just returned from a long deployment a few weeks ago and we are still readjusting as a family.  I don't think either of us feel "done" but neither of us are in any way ready to TTC right now.  It is a really tough call.

Since DH is the one really readjusting to being part of the family I am going to let him take the lead for now.  If he hasn't broached the topic by next fall I will probably bring it up.  I am okay if he is done... I wouldn't fight him.  But if he isnt' done, I would be okay with having a 3rd.  I am really 55/45...  55 toward wanting #3.  But only if he is 100% in agreement and excited about the idea.

It is hard to think about a third when you can barely sit down for 5 minutes with the two you have.  After doing it alone for so long I wonder if I need my head examined.  I know that wasn't my DH's last deployment....  So if we do have #3 I will have to do it all by myself again at some point ... yikes.  I'm insane.

kcisthebombdotcom

We've had this "talk" like 20 times. LOL.

Right after DD was born, DH wanted to go for a 3rd and wanted him/her close in age to our other 2. I said no more, I'm done having kids but I agreed to discuss the issue again around DD's first birthday. About a month ago, I told DH I wanted another LO and he said he was done. Fast forward to this weekend, and we talked and we both felt like we were done at 2. I'm sure in another 3 months one (or both) of us will have a different answer.

We are the most indecisive couple ever. LOL

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

***IF*** we go for a 3rd (can I put any more emphasis on the IF? lol), DH and I have agreed that we would try and have the same spacing between #2 and #3 as we did with #1 and #2: We started TTC when DD1 turned one and ended up having DD2 when DD1 was a little under 2 years old. So if we do have another and everything goes according to plan, DD1 would be a little over 3.5 and DD2 would be a little under 2 when LO#3 comes along. If. 

mamainseptember

DH and I had the "talk" on Sunday. We decided to start trying now for #2. DS is 16 months so I got pregnant right away they would be 25-26 months apart which would be nice for us!

ShannonSky

We talk about it all the time, but realistically, we won't be able to make any decisions (we need to TTC with the RE) until I'm done nursing...which hopefully won't be until Bea's 1.

angelwings111

I had an extremely difficult pregnancy with DD (who is now 5 months) and DH and I decided we were 100 percent finished (DD was perfectly healthy it was me that was not).

As soon as she was born and I regained my health I felt sad that she was our last.

Fast forward to Christmas when DH and I had an oops and now I am worried I am pregnant (although I have taken numerous HPT and they are all negative). I am EBF and still have no period and it took 11 months to regain my fertility with DS.

 I really want a 3rd and DH does too, but I am not sure my body can physically handle another pregnancy like the last.

Time will tell!!

BrittKav

We recently decided to officially start TTC in September. It's really nice to have a set date. We want 4, and I'd like them all to be fairly close in age.

rosesandpeonies

I am going to wait for my two under two to go to school.  My husband and I kind of lost ourselves.  We need to reconnect.  I need some time to enjoy my kids after being exhausted for so long.  We talked and decided that we will aim for when my youngest goes to preschool at three to try for a third.  

HRTB16

Raffes484:

We had the talk when DS1 was about 7 months old and at that point decided to just stop preventing. I got pregnant when DS1 was 9-1/2 months old.

For me, going from 1-2 was way harder than 2-3. Good luck with your decision.

This gives me hope.  I thought the transition from 1-2 was WAY easier than I thought it would be.  Hoping 2-3 goes as smoothly! 

(Go ahead... make a baby!  Why don't you start trying around May?  That way even if you get pregnant right away you wont be in the "uncomfortable" stage during the summer... not that any of it is really all that comfortable!)

Oh, and we never really had "the talk."  Our conversation went something like this... 

Me:  I'm pregnant

DH: What the &@!#?  But you are on the pill! 

Me:  I   %&@!*   KNOW!

MAMAxB

We talked about it the day after Will was born.. haha! We are clearly crazy!

WhitePicketFence

We've had this talk in general terms. DH is ready whenever I am, but I'm definitely not ready for #3 just yet. We're tenatively thinking about trying at the end of the year when DD1 will be almost 3 and DD2 will be just under a year and a half. We'll see.

SuperThat1006

KC_13:

We've had this "talk" like 20 times. LOL.

Right after DD was born, DH wanted to go for a 3rd and wanted him/her close in age to our other 2. I said no more, I'm done having kids but I agreed to discuss the issue again around DD's first birthday. About a month ago, I told DH I wanted another LO and he said he was done. Fast forward to this weekend, and we talked and we both felt like we were done at 2. I'm sure in another 3 months one (or both) of us will have a different answer.

We are the most indecisive couple ever. LOL

I'm fascinated by women whose DHs are the ones pushing for more kids.

HappyHealthyGlo

DH and I were kind of forced to have the talk after being put on the spot during the holidays. We decided that since our first two were "surprises" we would have to plan for #3 since adding another bundle of joy would require us to invest in a bigger car for me. But we will see...

mrscountry527

We plan on TTC next Jan. We kinda like to pick their birth months and think Oct would be nice. However, we conceived 4mos earlier than planned with DS (he was suppose to be an April baby but instead I had an EDD of 12/24-exactly why we wanted to avoid Dec-LOL). I also know I don't want any future kids this close in age again-17mos apart is rough!