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CourtneyRenee9109
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Feeling like we're growing apart...(Kind of a vent)
CourtneyRenee9109
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As hard as this is for me to admit, I feel as if DS & I are growing apart.
I don't know if it's just because he's getting older and doesn't need me as much but I feel like a horrible mother & I feel like I'm not giving DS what he needs...
I love him so much and I try so hard but I still feel like I'm not doing what I should be.
He won't let me cuddle him because he's ALWAYS on the go and he ignores me or doesn't like it when I try to play with him.
Cuddling and playing used to be our main forms of showing affection and now it feels like he just hates me.
Also, he's a really "hard" baby: reflux, sleep issues, eating issues, temper tantrums when I try to change him...
Am I doing something wrong or is it just the age?
Does anybody else feel this way?
I don't know if he's simply very independent but I miss my dependent, cuddly, needy baby =(
I think this was more of a vent than anything....sorry, it's just really been getting to me lately.
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Re: Feeling like we're growing apart...(Kind of a vent)
I'm sorry, Mama.
Please don't feel guilty about your feelings. I have a super energetic DS as well who hates being cuddled, fights diaper changes, and is always on the go. I know how you feel a lot of times.
You know what, though? I really think that pretty much everything is a phase. You miss your sweet, cuddly little guy, and now you have a wild man on your hands and it won't be long before you're facing another phase. There are so many incredible times ahead of you and you'll cherish other new things in the future. Just be easy on yourself with this and realize that even though you're not particularly enjoying this stage with your LO, there are other stages to come and sure to be cuddles and fun in the future. You know that little boys ADORE their mamas. Just wait.
You know?
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Embrace his independance. You must be doing something right if he is learning and growing up. This tough phase will pass, I promise. Everytime I think I have had enough, it ends and then its on to something new. My LO hasn't let me snuggle him since he was 2 or 3 months old. If I get even a milisecond of a cuddle while I am carrying him somewhere I cherish it.
And FWIW, I think your baby is the cutest baby ever. Everytime I scroll through a post and see your little guy I think he is adorable.
This! He's such a little buddy!
:::hugs:::
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Ditto this! I smile whenever I am scrolling and see his pic. He is a total cutie!!
It is definitely hard dealing with them "growing up" already. My DS is already changing and acting different too. But as pp said, there will be other times we will be able to cherish. Your son will always love you, even if he just wants to be Mr Independant right now. My son cries whenever he can't see me. It is annoying sometimes, but I have to think about the times when he will be tired of seeing me as he grows up.
Their childhood is so special, something we need to cherish. Even with all the changes and "mood swings", he's still your little man
I opened your post assuming you were talking about you and your H. Guess that's just MY life I was thinking about.
PPs are right -- don't feel bad at all. Motherhood is the biggest challenge of our lives (I think) and also the most amazing experience of our lives. It's not always rosy and bright. My baby boy is the sweetest thing EVER, but his DC has been closed since Dec. 15th and I'm starting to feel that same feeling I felt when I was home with DD ... don't know how to explain it, but I am anxious to get back to work (as awful as that sounds).
We love our kids. We ADORE our kids. Doesn't mean we adore them every second. We are still tremendously fantastic moms. And it is true ... it's ALL a phase. Thank god, right?