Big boy bed help...

Hopeful2008

So a week ago we took DS's crib down and put a queen size bed from our spare room in there. Every night I've been having to stay in there until he falls asleep, and then at least once, usually two times, he wakes up in the middle of the night, hops out and calls me from the hall wanting me to come in his bed. What do I do? I've been going in there thinking maybe he's scared, or it's something new and he just needs me there...but I know I'm creating this bad habit. It will break my heart to make him cry in this big bed by himself. What would you do? Continue going in until he's comfortable in there? Tell him no, that he needs to stay in there by himself and let him cry? He just turned 3 last month just as an FYI. Thank you!

MrsBeckO

We lay down in DD's big bed with her until she falls asleep, and then leave the room as well. 

When he wakes in the middle of the night, would you be able to just help him back into bed and stand by the bed holding his hand or patting his back?

If DD wakes in the night, she's usually groggy enough that I can just lay her down in bed then stand and hold her hand or something. It's only when she is really awake and really upset that I have to lay down with her again.

Good luck. 

llc730

DD has been in a twin bed since 20 months. Lucky for us she has always been able to put herself to sleep. When she climbs out in the middle of the night we just go in and put her back in bed and say "time for night nights" and leave (unless she has something wrong like a poopy diaper, runny nose, etc). She will sometimes fuss/cry for a couple minutes but usually she just rolls over and goes back to sleep. At first she was getting out 1-2 times. Now she doesn't get out at all most nights.

katemcpherson

My DD is nearly 2.5 and I took the side rail off her cot and used a safety rail and sat beside her to pat her to sleep.  After about 3 weeks of doing this I decided it was time to bite the bullet and put her into her "Big girl bed".  It's only been 4 nights but by lying next to her when she falls asleep she is normally asleep within 1/2 an hour.  My DD has always been a self settler and a wonderful little sleeper and with our next baby on it's way I dont mind putting in the time to halp her feel safe. 

 We have a king bed and my husband is a shift worker so it's really not a problem for either of us if she jumps into our bed with us from time to time.  I suppose I am really sympathic to my daughter because I was a real mummies girl and spent mant years crawling into my parents bed in the middle of the night.

I dont think you are creating a habit at all.  Only you know what you feel comfortable with.